How often do you trust a person you have sex with?

This story is a bit messed up.

My friend has been dating a guy for 2 months and they are catching feelings for each other. Thus guy is doing his best for her.

Yesterday they spent a night together and they had sex for the first time,

The guy didn’t use the condom because my friend wanted to try without it and this guy has feelings for her,

The next morning the guy bought a morning after pill and my friend told me she has put it in her mouth but didn’t swallow.

I asked why and she says she wants a child and plus she thinks this guy won’t be against having a child with her.

I was surprised really. She has often told me that she wants to get married and she wants to fond a man who is good enough for marriage. This guy fits her type, he’s young, smart and rich.

And she says that she feels in love with him.

However, this morning this guy received a voice message from a girl, where the woman was messaging her “baby….” And something.

The guy hid the chat and told my friend to trust him that he has noone and that this is his ex messaging but he will end things with her.

My friend believed but I have suspicions he might be taken.

Today she went out with another guy who is rich and can help her to open her own company and get longer visa. I think all of this sounds messed up and I don’t want to end up with a pregnant friend who I have to take care of. She has been already living with me for 3 months out of 4 months we have met.

I just think, isn’t it silly to have sex with someone you don’t fully trust? First, my friend doesn’t fully trust this guy is totally honest and second that guy might become a father just because he had sex with someone he didn’t trust.

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  • You should always feel comfortable with and trust the people you want to have sex with. It shouldn't be taken lightly.

    Now to your friend and this guy... this spells trouble already.

    She doesn't take morning after pill as a way to trap him and get pregnant. And he is potentially not seeing just her. This spells recipe for disaster. Like attracts like.

    • I am this way. I have only had sex with one person - my ex fiance who I trusted totally and who trusted me totally as well. We had a situation like thus as well and he wanted ti have a child with me, but I was 24 and we were not in a place to have child so I told him we could wait till I was 26 and till we were both financially stable so I took a morning after pill. I would never want to be with a man who would only stay with me because of the child. I don’t know why’d she want to do that. This guy already tries his best to show his attention and love to her and travels from another city everyday just to meet her. So I don’t know why would she lie about taking the pill. Especially since she knows he has received a love text from another woman this morning and most likely he is hiding something.

    • I am glad at least someone read the whole text.

Most Helpful Guy

  • Your friend is a sugar baby or a call girl - no judgement except for the fact that her choices no longer effect just her but also a possible kid.

    • I don’t know really, have never had a friend like this.

Most Helpful Girl

  • I mean specially the guy clearly doesn’t want to have a child with her. She should at least get pregnant by a guy that wants that. Because if not the guy is probably going to be there for the child but not for her, he is going to be a dad not a husband, and he probably might even resent her for putting him in that position

    • I know girl… I know… I told her to take the pill , but she doesn’t want.

    • Girl I kept thinking about your question, and some advise for you… you should get rid of that friend. She’s going to be trouble for you and might drag you with her with her problems… it isn’t good to have friends that don’t have your same moral values

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Exclusively. Anything else is stupid.

  • I always need trust

  • Always

  • That is messed up hope she finds someone to spend all her time and life with not this shit

  • Her whole situation is a time bomb waiting to explode. Is this the same girl that you wanted to move out of your place?

    • Yes that is a same girl

  • This is just horrible. If this woman only goes after rich men she deserves everything she gets or it doesn't get.

    • I think these men are just as guilty…

    • how so? Why?

    • They should be better at judging people I think

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  • well if im having sex with them im gonna have trust other then that its not gonna happen i have to have trust

  • Rarely