How often do you trust a person you have sex with?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

This story is a bit messed up.

My friend has been dating a guy for 2 months and they are catching feelings for each other. Thus guy is doing his best for her.

Yesterday they spent a night together and they had sex for the first time,

The guy didn’t use the condom because my friend wanted to try without it and this guy has feelings for her,

The next morning the guy bought a morning after pill and my friend told me she has put it in her mouth but didn’t swallow.

I asked why and she says she wants a child and plus she thinks this guy won’t be against having a child with her.

I was surprised really. She has often told me that she wants to get married and she wants to fond a man who is good enough for marriage. This guy fits her type, he’s young, smart and rich.

And she says that she feels in love with him.

However, this morning this guy received a voice message from a girl, where the woman was messaging her “baby….” And something.

The guy hid the chat and told my friend to trust him that he has noone and that this is his ex messaging but he will end things with her.

My friend believed but I have suspicions he might be taken.

Today she went out with another guy who is rich and can help her to open her own company and get longer visa. I think all of this sounds messed up and I don’t want to end up with a pregnant friend who I have to take care of. She has been already living with me for 3 months out of 4 months we have met.

I just think, isn’t it silly to have sex with someone you don’t fully trust? First, my friend doesn’t fully trust this guy is totally honest and second that guy might become a father just because he had sex with someone he didn’t trust.

[ShadezMcgee]

You should always feel comfortable with and trust the people you want to have sex with. It shouldn't be taken lightly.

Now to your friend and this guy... this spells trouble already.

She doesn't take morning after pill as a way to trap him and get pregnant. And he is potentially not seeing just her. This spells recipe for disaster. Like attracts like.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I am this way. I have only had sex with one person - my ex fiance who I trusted totally and who trusted me totally as well. We had a situation like thus as well and he wanted ti have a child with me, but I was 24 and we were not in a place to have child so I told him we could wait till I was 26 and till we were both financially stable so I took a morning after pill. I would never want to be with a man who would only stay with me because of the child. I don’t know why’d she want to do that. This guy already tries his best to show his attention and love to her and travels from another city everyday just to meet her. So I don’t know why would she lie about taking the pill. Especially since she knows he has received a love text from another woman this morning and most likely he is hiding something.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I am glad at least someone read the whole text.

[Gent207-2]

Your friend is a sugar baby or a call girl - no judgement except for the fact that her choices no longer effect just her but also a possible kid.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I don’t know really, have never had a friend like this.

[osoli]

I mean specially the guy clearly doesn’t want to have a child with her. She should at least get pregnant by a guy that wants that. Because if not the guy is probably going to be there for the child but not for her, he is going to be a dad not a husband, and he probably might even resent her for putting him in that position

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I know girl… I know… I told her to take the pill , but she doesn’t want.

[osoli]

Girl I kept thinking about your question, and some advise for you… you should get rid of that friend. She’s going to be trouble for you and might drag you with her with her problems… it isn’t good to have friends that don’t have your same moral values

[LazerBean]

Exclusively. Anything else is stupid.

[CuriousDalia]

I always need trust

[Agape93]

Always

[Sparkie460]

Her whole situation is a time bomb waiting to explode. Is this the same girl that you wanted to move out of your place?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Yes that is a same girl

[smilelots]

That is messed up hope she finds someone to spend all her time and life with not this shit

[Cb142]

well if im having sex with them im gonna have trust other then that its not gonna happen i have to have trust

[msc545]

This is just horrible. If this woman only goes after rich men she deserves everything she gets or it doesn't get.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I think these men are just as guilty…

[msc545]

how so? Why?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

They should be better at judging people I think

[msc545]

I think you don't realize how difficult that is for most people. I am trained to do that, and that training took 10 years.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Everything she told him is a lie. She told him she’s got Master’s from some Italian university, that she works in e-commerce and has her own company, that she has a fancy car back in her country and on top of that, when he asked her about his size, she said yeah that’s kinda on the smaller side and that her ex was much bigger. Have I been a man I wouldn’t feel good knowing this. Guess what tho, this guy got impressed and took her out for a 3 day trip today. I don’t know really. I am happy I am finally home alone. But I seriously think has it happened to my brother, would be awful to be stuck next to a woman like this, I feel bad for that guy. Yeah she’s super pretty and all, but what she plots is not so pretty.

[msc545]

I know the type. Borderline personality disorder with antisocial traits probably.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Nope, she’s quite social. Very sociable. The reason she tells me everything is that I am a very non judgmental and a supportive person usually. But the way she acts now, surprises me every day. I have only seen things like this happening in movies.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Being friends with her has taught me more about life, I was much more naive, now I see there are so many types of people. I love her in a way, but I disapprove her actions.

[msc545]

Ignoring right and wrong. Telling lies to take advantage of others. Not being sensitive to or respectful of others. Using charm or wit to manipulate others for personal gain or pleasure. Having a sense of superiority and being extremely opinionated. Having problems with the law, including criminal behavior. Being hostile, aggressive, violent or threatening to others. Feeling no guilt about harming others. Doing dangerous things with no regard for the safety of self or others. Being irresponsible and failing to fulfill work or financial responsibilities.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Well, yeah… That’s her. Am I sleeping with a psychopath?

[msc545]

These are the criteria for antisocial personality disorder - how many of them apply to your friend?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

About 8 applies haha

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

But she’s cute and lively, everywhere she goes she gets in the center if attention and she’s very flirty and super sweet to men.

[msc545]

if you are sleeping with her - yes.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Sleeping next to her I mean. She’s staying with me and I have one bed.

[msc545]

People like this are dangerous as hell and don't care a bit about others. Don't be fooled.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Even though I told her to leave she’s in no hurry, instead started hunting on guys.

[msc545]

When she does leave she will also steal your stuff.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Thankfully I don’t have anything too expensive at home.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

But it’s sad to love someone and not trust them. I don’t trust her at all. I have gentle and warm feelings to her, because I’ve been sheltering her for over 3 months and she has taught me a lot about a human personality and life, but I don’t trust her.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

She has always wanted stability, she stays with me saying that I am very stable and supportive. But shouldn’t she be one who is stable too? She’s so unstable it’s concerning. I have never really had a friend like this, to my friends who I’ve been friends with for over 5-10 years, I can trust them with my closed eyes. This one though, I made a mistake, cause I was broken after a breakup. We are so different, like total opposites of each other. It’s an experience of its own.

[msc545]

She is not your friend. Get rid of her before she trashes you.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Did I mention that she has copied the keys of her uncle’s seaside house, so she could go there when they were gone? Thankfully my apartment doesn’t have keys, it can be opened with the code and I can change that.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I wonder why is she telling me all this.

[msc545]

She thinks you won't do anything about what she tells you. She is apparently right.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I told her she should take the pill. What else can I do?

[msc545]

Find a new friend and get her away from you before she does something harmful to you.

[EaterPeter]

Rarely