How often men 40+ need to cum?

Me and my boyfriend had sex last time a month a go.

And i gave him a blow job 2 weeks ago

I wanted to seduce him yesterday

Joking that he needs to cum for his health

But he said:"at my age Its not necessary to cum that often"

He is 43

So he said its a No... moved my hand from his dick, kissed me good night and fell asleep...

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He smokes pot everyday and takes transilium because he can't sleep He is ex heroin and cocaine addict
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  • I just turned 47. Today woke up nobody else was up yet. Went downstairs watched my phone rubbed one out. Later went swimming with wife afterwards we changed I made the suggestion “Hey how about I put my penis in your vagina!”

    She went downstairs I started watching tv but then came back up and said ok quickly ! We fucked for awhile but then our dog started barking making my daughter run upstairs. So she went downstairs and I had to rub one out again. Will probably try to get some soon if she's up for it.

    How much? As often as I can.

    • Reading all the answers seems surreal We had sex a month ago and i gave him bj 2 weeks ago 3 days ago is when he refused my touching We had period of 5 month no sex Nothing sexual And he said he never even jerked off during all this months that he couldnt get it hard

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  • Depends on each guys refactory period, but most guys even in their 40s can enjoy sex at least once a day, especially if they are with a super hot girl (or guy).

    Your guys libido may be being supressed by the drugs he has to take to help him. There could be many other factors like stress, and at his age, perhaps worries about being able to keep it up.

    Another possibility is that he is getting off elsewhere, like when watching porn. I don't mean to worry you, but that is more common that you might think, and it could be he has developed a kink and is ashamed or worried to share it.

    How often do you get the intense urge to get off and do you masturbate to compensate for the lack of sex?

    • Me personally maybe once a week or once in 2 weeks I was rubbing his cock 1 hour didn't get hard

    • Perhaps he needs more than physical stimulation? Perhaps do something he wasn't expecting like watching porn, wearing a butt plug or something else risque

    • Thanks for the MHO x

Most Helpful Girls

  • My boyfriend is 43. He probably needs some sort of sexual release 2-4 times a week. I'd rather do it more often, but that's where he's at

    • You live with him? I dont live with mine I only sleep once a week and maybe some weekend too

    • I do live with mine.

  • I was with a guy over 40 and he wanted sex a few times a week but boys my age want it every day more than once.

    • All guys are different.. their health plays a big factor In it.

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  • Asd guys get older, finishing: ejaculating, becomes an issue. Just because semen isn't flying doesn't mean that we aren't enjoying ourselves, it simply doesn't happen as often.

  • For starters, your man is at least partly wrong. A recent medical study of 32,000 men found that men who ejaculate at least 21 times a month saw a significant reduction in prostate cancer risk. And although sperm production in the testicles of men over 40 does slow down some, we still make millions of sperm daily. And releasing that sperm frequently is not only healthy for the male reproductive system, it is how it is meant to function. So no, it’s not true that older men don’t need to cum that often. I am over 40 and I ejaculate one way or another about 4 or 5 times a week. Sounds like your guy was just making excuses for not being in the mood. 😌

    • Yahooooooo... I'm safe from that cancer :D

  • Wow when I was 43 I wanted it as often as possible. You mention that he smokes pot, and for some people that kills the sex drive.

  • Men never "need" to cum. Every guy has a different sex drive. Believe it or not, guys don't always feel like sex. Esp as we get into our 40's and 50's on up.

  • I'm 45 and frankly feel the urge everyday, sometimes a few times.

  • Need? Twice a week. But if he has an unhealthy or stressful lifestyle it will be less.

  • If I'm with someone I'm attracted to, first thing in the morning and at least once in the evening. When I'm single, once every few days

  • I am 43 and depending on what I feel like, I would love to do it once or twice a day. If my lady is being really sexy, 3 or 4 times is not out of reach! Believe me, it something that will take me from any other hobby!

  • A month ago? It's that good for you? There are plenty of 40+ men who are happy to do it daily, twice a day on weekends.

  • I'm 56, I'd like to cum At least three times a week

    • Why he is like this

    • I couldn't tell you, I'm not his doctor

    • @20yearsolder by the way Could you please answer my questions too😅? In my profile, in question section

  • Definitely more often than what he does. There are health benefits to ejaculating, especially for prostate health.

    • What benefits

  • Every guy is different. Some men over 40 cum at least once a day, others (like your guy) less often. For me (I'm 55), it's typically 2-3 times a week, sometimes more often, sometimes less.

  • I masturbate daily

  • If I can cum twice a week from any combination of intercourse, oral or masturbation, that's fine. I have a slow recovery period.

  • It sounds as if the drugs have messed up his testosterone levels. I think most men in their 40s have an urge to orgasm much more frequently than every two to four weeks. It’s about all I can think about if I have to wait four or five days.

    • Any vitamins or pills for testosterone?

    • Weight training, healthy diet with enough veggies, and exposure of his skin to sunlight (not enough to burn) all help. Marijuana, pharmaceuticals, fatty diet, inactivity, and porn can work against testosterone levels.

    • Having sex increases testosterone?

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  • I need to cum 1-2 tiimes a day, and i am 40 xD

    • And my need for orgasm hasn't changed at all since i am 11 years old. It has always been 1-2 times a day

  • It's not good for any man to cum more than 3 or 4 times a month. It kills our energy and motivation, but I digress

    • Why tho?

    • When we ejaculate all our energy drain out. As sepmen contain a lot of our body components. Also our brain which motivate us, don't work ( its a scientific study)

    • @YoogurtBro12 I dont agree. Sex has decrease heart attack possibilty and motivate. When the people have sex they feel relax just like a fyling bird.

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  • What!

    Of course our sex drive goes up and down in a way.

    But I can assure you that in my 50's (where I'm now) I had sequences where sex was on the table (and elsewhere in the house) each day. Not now though: I'm at the end of a 'lazy phase'.

    I don't ''NEED'' to come... but I sure like it :)

    • Well He doesn't want it

    • And at only 43 this sounds like a pretense to me. Perhaps he feels some ''insecurities''?

    • He says he is depressed

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  • I'd happily cum daily

  • I'm in my 50s and I'm still cum almost daily. Nice that I have a wife for the last 30 years that still has that 20 year old sex drive

    We still go at it often

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