How often should your partner get hard around/at you?

There’s times my boyfriend isn’t hard when we are just hugging with clothes/no clothes on or when we are kissing. Or if we’re changing clothes or naked around each other.

It’s been 6 years.

Any time we are passionately kissing he’s always at least semi.

But how often should he be hard around me?

Is what I’m saying normal or is he not into me/not attracted to me?
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  • Some of it is just age. I don't know how old he is. So, I'll just use your age range as a guide. But a 24 year old guy is going to get turned on by much less than a 30 year old guy on average. Really, that can be applied to any age range though.

    Also, as you've been together for six years. He'll be used to a lot. So, activities he is used to which don't normally lead to sex. Won't trigger his response anymore. Hence hugging and changing clothes doing nothing while making out does.

    With the massage. He's probably too focused on doing a good job for you to get that aroused. While when you do him he can. Since he can just relax and feel how good it feels. I expect he'd regularly start getting hard massaging you. If you started to reach out and fondle him whenever he massaged you.

    • Yeah he’s only 24 surely it should be more than this?

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  • Hmmm I don't know. I'm usually very horny so if a girl rubs or touches me or my dick I'm instantly hard. Lol I'm hard a lot of the time so I don't know if that's normal or not

    • In a long term relationship? I’m not touching him though it’s just hugging and kissing and it’s not every time just here and there he won’t be. At the start I never seen him not hard for about a year

    • Especially in a long term relationship. Hugging and kissing is more than enough to have me hard as a rock. Lol whenever I'm around my girl or any previous ex girlfriend I was probably rock hard 95% of the time I was with her. So much that I would get blue balls if we didn't have sex often lol

    • How long were the relationships? How often did you see them in a week? Would them getting changed around you do the same or just physical contact? What is your version of sex often?

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  • He's probably not going to have an erection just because you are undressed. We are older and have been together over 25 years, but being undressed in front of each other is not going to get me wet or him hard. Nudity is pretty common place once you have been together for a while. You have to kind of stimulate him and vice versa to get things ready for making love.

  • I’d say all guys are different. I’d imagine it would be uncomfortable for a guy to get hard every time he’s close to his partner.

    a way to think about it, ask yourself the same question. Are you aroused at the times you think he should be? If so, bring it up to him. If not, maybe it’s normal.

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  • Your guy really isn't gonna be hard 24/7. I'd be worried if he couldn't get hard like at all around you, but you said making out at the minimum he is so clearly he's still attracted to you. Also communication is key so just talk to him :) it'll make you feel better.

    • But it’s like it takes a lot more the before. And kissing has to be passionate to do so. When he massages me sometimes he’s hard and sometimes isn’t too. He’s always hard when I do it to him. But when he’s doing it to me sometimes he isn’t

    • I mean if you've been together for 6 years chances are your crazy lust in love typa feelings aren't gonna be as strong and it will be more of a slow burn typa love. He's prolly just gotten used to your body in non sexual situations, which isn't a bad thing at all and completely normal. Like when he hugs you do you suddenly get super horny and want to rip his clothes off? if yes then thats great, but the answer i'd expect would be no, cause its not really a sexual situation and your comfortable with him and not all jittery

  • as much as he wants. because I like to be controlled and dominated.