Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health I’ve never had sex before, but will be soon. I’m nervous bc I’ve never inserted anything in there besides the tip of my finger. It was uncomfortable to even put that much, even though I was pretty wet. Does that mean sex will hurt for me?
My man is really sweet and says he will take his time and not to worry, but I’m still worried he won’t be able to put it in and that if he does it’ll hurt me. I literally get so nervous just thinking about it.
Any tips, suggestions, or experiences will help.
How painful is sex the first time?
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44 46It can be painless or painful. It all depends on things like your anatomy and lubrication, and how gentle he is.
Explain your physical situation, your fears, and let him teach you how to "revel in the joys of fornication".
... that's a line from "The North Atlantic Squadron".
Just take a inch at a time. Don't go full thrust.
Your partner must understand is your first time. He must be patient not to be mean.
Many females had different experiences 🤷♂️ so...
With the right person who takes their time and knows what they are doing, it shouldn't hurt at all. Maybe some discomfort but not outright pain. Also, please keep in mind that it is totally fine to stop at any point. Don't feel like you have to keep going for your partner's sake of you aren't enjoying it
Nobody can tell you if it will hurt or not because everyone is different
Wouldn't be a problem if the guy was like me on my wedding night. Was so nervous I exploded just getting it near her vagina.
40/40
It rlly depends, some women 'break themselves in' with masturbation and toys. Also depends on the guy and his size and if he's rough or not
My first time didn't hurt. Only a little, but inna good way, and only when he went really deep inside me
I'm not sure wouldn't know that it does yet.
It's not supposed to, and if you take your time and explore before he uses that tool, you'll be fine. A couple of bits of advice.
1. Be comfortable.
2. Be nice and wet. You have to be aroused.
3. Have him finger you, do one, two, then three fingers to stretch you out, it's like a muscle in that sense.
I fucked one virgin. I'd fingered her a lot and I'd eaten her pussy a lot. Her first time was not painful at all. She was so sloppy and ready, her pussy almost just sucked my cock inside of her.
It should not hurt as soon as he is not rough and is very careful.
I personally dont understand why it should hurt. It also dont hurt when you use tampon.
each experience is unique. mine was quite painful the first and third time, i bled a lot. and maybe painful is not the right word, it’s more of a burning sensation of something stretching more than you think you can handle, overwhelming pressure i would say.
that entirely depends on how you and your partner do it and on your personal physique.
i mean the best tip is to use common sense. be careful and make sure, your partner is careful.
it helps if you think of it as learning to do the splits. will you just jump and land doing the splits perfectly? no. that would probably hurt a lot. so you do it bit by bit. that old stereotype of "doing it like ripping off a bandaid" is terrible.
Sex can be painful anytime, not just the first.
It depends on how gentle and caring your boyfriend is.
From my experience of having sex with multiple virgin girls. It’s always best to insert it at one go by telling her are you ready instead of trying to do it slow. Imagine waxing your leg hair and pulling it slowly, it’ll be painful but if you pull fast then there will be less pain. So my advice is have your partner go inside you with one thrust. No amount of foreplay will make it less painless. First time is always this way. After that foreplay helps to get you wet for pain free sex
It changes from girl to girl and how you do it
I've heard anal makes women feel safer and less nervous about pregnancy or stds. That means more attention to the excitement and fun of sex.
I don't know where you heard that from. Anal is pretty unsanitary. Yea yea if you clean it right and so on... but i’d be more worried about the sexually transmitted infections of the anus. So i would HOPE asker doesn't do anal her first time
Thanks that's true
Aha well we’re waiting until our wedding night to do it (which is very soon) so we’re not worried about getting pregnant. We’re both also not into anal.
Thank lord
Use lot of lube & don't rush take your time
Everyone keeps saying lube but what if she's allergic to something. She just needs to get really wet. I’ve never used lube in life
Yes I do agree with @DizzyDesii lube comes with different bases try one which comes with water base or natural as they are easy to washoff & one more thing don't skip foreplay