I have few friends whose wife is pregnant, someone just delivered, someone's child is year old and wives are totally into babies neglecting husbands.
All of them have complained about sex deprivation.
What do men do in such phase? how men handle this sex deprived phase?
While my wife was pregnant she was crazy horny. All. The. Time. For first baby, we had sex before I left for work, again when I got home, and often another time right before bed. While she was pregnant with the other kids, that was more difficult because we always had little ones running around.
And, yes, after delivery there was healing (all four were C-sections) so sex was a little curtailed. But I'd masturbate and if she was really horny, I'd do the same for her.
And, also yes, when the kids were little, our sex life took a dip. She was busy, my work was beating me up, and raising kids was exhausting. We still had sex and quite a few times no sex and lots of masturbation just to get quick relief. It was a low point but it was what it was.
The short answer is the couples have to communicate. It is literally the only way to survive. Because, if they communicate, then what sex decision they make (none, masturbation, sex, something else) turns deprivation into a decision. And that makes all the difference.
They suck it up, be understanding and help with the baby. Of course a new baby negatively affects your sex life. You can’t have any sex at all for 4-6 weeks after delivery. Then a baby is a full time chore. You’re stressed and sleep deprived for months before they even start sleeping through the night. That new life becomes the focus of your marriage rather than your sex life. Plus, you don’t feel good about how you look while your body recovers from the pregnancy. The fathers have a front row seat to the reasons here. When I had my daughter, I was horny during the pregnancy but sex was the last thing on my mind for about a year afterwards. There came a point where my husband stopped asking for sex and began to feel distant. I made him talk to me and we hashed it out. He quit being so hard on me and stepped up and I designated a day of the week for scheduled sex. No matter what was going on in our life or how tired I was, I gave it to him no questions asked. It was hard at first but I started looking forward to sex day and it eventually transitioned us back to a more normal sex routine. Couples can get through this if they communicate and compromise.
I can imagine sex is probably not a priority at that point, which may lead to a poor sex life for a while but tbh both people in the relationship should expect that. Most people have horrible pregnancies, who wants to have sex when they’re heavily pregnant? Or in the beginning when you feel sick all the time? Some people will but certainly not everyone. Rest takes priority.
When the baby arrives you can’t have sex for weeks/months most of the time, so that should be expected also. And then afterwards there is this newborn baby who relies on its parents 100% so there’s really no time for sex, looking after the baby takes priority and parents are often sleep deprived, exhausted, etc. so it’s understandable if they aren’t in the mood.
I think there needs to be a little more understanding tbh and also awareness that this is the case when you have a baby 99% of the time
@sunflower00 You are so correct on all the points you've raised, which makes me wonder and boldly asks whether you are a mother yourself. x
@EmmaMary I’m actually not and plan to never be (at the moment anyway, my plans could always change) but I understand somewhat what women go through knowing myself that women are often pressured or expected to have sex even when they are uncomfortable, and I know from friends/my mother/my dad’s partner etc. what their pregnancy experiences were like and parenting. My little brother is 3, he’s crazy, my dad and his partner are always exhausted and have no time to even do little things themselves like read a book (of course worth it to have a happy healthy child), but I can imagine most parents will not have the time or be in the mood for that at all! X
@sunflower00 Thank you so much for your wonderful indepth explanation, you are indeed a very learned young woman. Would it be too impolite for me to say that I do hope your own plans and expectations might take a change, in that perhaps one day you might just enjoy that most indescribable, emotional feeling of pure unadulterated joy of bringing new life into the world. I wish you all the luck and success in the world for all that you strive for. ❤
Masturbation. During both my OH's pregnancies she has gone off sex, and due to ongoing health issues we haven't had much in past 18 months, once or twice a month. It's difficult but I just service myself most days
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My wife wanted and loved sex while she was pregnant! And it was not that long after delivery that she was able to have sex again and we were right back at it. It sounds to me like you make it sound terrible to a married guy so you can have sex with him.
I was sexual all the way throughout , the only time I wasn’t was for a few months after my c section , and during that time by boyfriend understood how much pain I was in and he was also disinterested in sex. So in other words we never had any issues
Pregnancy affect sex life because child is the reason to be busy or couple invest their time in their child and that is good also and couple will manage their sex life wather by masturbation or mutual masturbation.
Let her know. And expect a change. Sometimes it’s a phase.. babies take a lot out of you. Other times, the women just get super lazy and blame it on the fact that they are tired or don’t have the sex drive when all in all it’s just laziness.
If they're deprived and depraved, they seek out women like you to fnck
What do you mean how do they handle it? There’s something called masturbation, they could do that. If they’re old enough to have babies then surely they know, or should know, having kids affects the sexlife at least to some degree. So they knew this. It is what it is. Hopefully they’re mature enough to understand the situation and know that better times regarding the sexlife is coming in the future.
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