How should I respond when my boyfriend asks me questions like, “is this what you want?” when he’s having sex with me?

I was having sex with my boyfriend and we were in a spooning position, he was squeezing me really tight, and biting and kissing my shoulders and he kept asking me, “is this what you want?”. I didn’t say anything, was I supposed to answer or was he just talking dirty?
He wanted an answer
Vote A
He was just talking dirty
Vote B
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  • He was looking for feedback. You could simply have said, "Oh yes!" or "Don't stop." If it felt good, you could even have gone further by saying "It makes me tingle all over."

    It's good to communicate during sex. You can spontaneously say things like "That feels so good!" "Just like that." "Oh, I love that." "Don't stop." "Harder." "Be gentle." or even "I don't like that."

    Everyone is different, so a guy can't be sure what YOU like unless you tell him. He also likes to hear how good something he is doing feels.

    • Thank you that was helpful

    • You're welcome, Kitty_V.

  • A bit of both, really. He was absolutely saying things that he hoped would keep you turned on, but I'm sure he also wanted feedback that you were legitimately enjoying the experience--which also gives you the opportunity to say you don't enjoy something so that he knows to stop or try something else.

    • Thank you that was helpful

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  • Likely he is trying to know how to pleasure you better.

    Why not just answer that once?

    If he stops asking after that, and then repeats the moves in the future, then I think you found a Lover.

    (He may ask again for other moves. You'll then know that he's trying to learn how to please you.)

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    Of course guys may talk dirty. But there are better lines than that. Hence I voted A.

    • Thank you that was a helpful answer

  • Hopefully he was just talking dirty... because if he didn't, that could have really killed the mood.
    Don't get me wrong, communication during sex is important, but it either should be discussed before the act or after. Sure, if there's something you want, you should tell him, he shouldn't be asking you what you want.

    • It turned me on

    • Nice, then he must have done a good job :)

  • Seems a bit awkward. But give him a hint. It doesn’t have to be verbal. If you don’t like something, or if you do, let him know.

    I would just start be biting you softly and seeing how you react.

    • It felt really nice

    • So make a noise like "mmmm" or anything good. Suck air between your teeth. Anything besides "ow" will work.

  • Well you could have responded in how good it felt and whether you liked it

    If you wanted anything more, you could have build upon that

    Done people live the talks to go on while doing it

  • He wanted you to say yes. More and what you wanted feedback that you liked it and want you like?

    • I’ll do that next time

    • Good. Let me know how it goes.

  • Dirty talk back

    • Do you have some examples?

    • Yeah just like that, you know what that pussy wants, fill me up, I can't wait to cum all over your cock.

  • He is looking to do what you like and is not a mind reader. Be leave me he will get better if you talk.

    • He is already amazing

    • I am sure but he probably does not know it. Or he want to be better and what’s wrong with that.

  • Prob.

  • I call my cat a dirty whore.

    • How does she respond?

    • She rolls over and expects lovin.