How should one feel about their partner watching porn? And watching the same category all the time?

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My fiance always watches porn when I'm not at home, I know cause I seen it in his history, and when he does he always seem to look at video of older woman hooking up with young men or milf like everyone likes to call it. I've told him plenty of times if you need to watch things like that then be my guess, go be single, and f*ck every type you like or want cause whats the point of having me around if you craving for other things.

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AustinMan Influencer
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First, a little My Take I wrote awhile back on the subject. I'd be most curious for your feedback.

Why Men Watch Porn ↗

It's just a fantasy. Is he ignoring you? Is there not enough sex or good enough sex?
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- Asker
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  Not enough sex 🤕 like 2 months ago we were at it almost everyday for the whole month of September. Now. Nothing.
- Asker
  +1 y
  We did it in the beginning and in the end of October...
- AustinMan
  +1 y
  So talk to him but do so in a calm, direct, matter of fact way.
  
  How to Talk to Your SO About Sex ↗
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- Asker
  +1 y
  I understand and will take your suggestion
- AustinMan
  +1 y
  I suggest you explore both your fantasies and find some common ground. Role play is a great way to get fantasies fulfilled. Really get into the roles. Be another person. I feel like you'll find it very freeing as will he.

Most Helpful Guy

JackSmy Guru
+1 y
Have you ever asked him WHY? And only when you are gone?
Don't judge, just on seeing his history. Maybe he is sending you some 'sign' for something he is unsure to talk about, that might be a problem, in your relationship.
Seems that most women, USUALLY assume their guy watching porn, is BAD, when sometimes it really isn't!
TALK TO HIM ABOUT IT!! Find out why, and maybe it will bring you closer!
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DizzyDesii Editor
+1 y
I rather not know he watches porn. I’d get a bit insecure that im not enough for him. In all fairness, i’d also watch porn in secret 🤣
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- Asker
  +1 y
  Lol I feel the same way and I do sometimes but its like once in a blue moon. Not like him who constantly has to see every morning. He says the reason why he does is cause he's horny in the morning, but I'm like okay well what about those mornings I'm at home
- DizzyDesii
  +1 y
  Oh yea no he’d piss me off with that. I’d just watch porn once he's sleep or sumn
- thecuriousone2020
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  True it’s better to watch porn in secret. Sometimes masturbation is better than sex for some people.
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- DizzyDesii
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  @thecuriousone2020 i dont even masturbate to it. Its a weird mentalgasm thing for me
- thecuriousone2020
  +1 y
  I saw one a girl was taking a shower and she caught a guy peeping. They end up having sex but in reality this would never happen. So just fantasy and kinda funny too.
- DizzyDesii
  +1 y
  @thecuriousone2020 yea i can't just sex a random person
- Asker
  +1 y
  Porn do be funny and corny lol
- thecuriousone2020
  +1 y
  Do you enjoy watching? It's funny seeing obese getting it on (lol)
- Asker
  +1 y
  Omg 🤣🤣🤣

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Berethor Master
+1 y
You in your late 20s, soon you might count as a milf too, so where is the problem?
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bowenw Guru
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If he's a porn addict you may want to suggest he go for counselling. If he won't change and you can't live with it, it's time for you to move on.
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Vulvalicker Xper 5
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He’s addicted and it won’t ever change
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- Asker
  +1 y
  So where do I walk in? Cause honestly shit is annoying like if this what u prefer then leave and go ahead do that. Is not like I say no to him especially when it comes to being under the sheet. I love to have sex and I have no shame in that.
- Vulvalicker
  +1 y
  You shouldn’t have shame. This is an addiction as powerful as meth or crack. It’s so addictive it can make it so a guy can’t perform with a normal woman at all. It’s called porn creep or porn induced erectile dysfunction. His addiction will only get worse. If you give him an ultimatum he will just hide it better. You should seriously consider leaving
- Asker
  +1 y
  😩 been with this man for 5 years and we got 2 kids together. Its not so easy for me to walk away ugh 😫
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- Vulvalicker
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  It won’t change for the better
shanshu Xper 7
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Be grateful, at least he's not cheating on you and if your not around when he's horny then what do you expect him to do,.

Plus porn is just a fantasy, not everyone wants to act it out, they just like the fantasy
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Valnac Guru
+1 y
You are right!
There’s no excuse for that!
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gandolph3 Yoda
+1 y
wear makeup and wig to age yourself, see if he likes it
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- Asker
  +1 y
  Lmaoooo omg 🤣🤣🤣🤣
- Asker
  +1 y
  Funny u say that cause I thought well damn do I gotta make myself look older? Lol im only 28 how older can I look at this age? Lol
ArtesaniDiTuro Xper 1
+1 y
Leave searches of cuckold porn, maybe he takes the message and stops with that awful behaviour
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- Asker
  +1 y
  I will do that 😉 he always questions my doings so I know he will bring that to my attention.
- ArtesaniDiTuro
  +1 y
  Id love to see his reaction
- Asker
  +1 y
  I do as well and have other things to leave on my phones for him to see. Certainly will leave him questioning
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- ArtesaniDiTuro
  +1 y
  Now I'm intrigued
- Asker
  +1 y
  Hahahaha matter of fact I will get on that when he comes home he likes to grab my phone to check fanduel. Gonna make it that when he opens up my phone the first thing he will see is d*** and b***s everywhere lol
- ArtesaniDiTuro
  +1 y
  If you want him to see mine just tell me😜
Anonymous
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There are persons called aegosexuals, solosexuals that prefer masturbation over sex. Doesn’t mean they don’t love you. Also a person can experience anxiety issues when it comes to sex. In a situation like this they avoid sex.
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Anonymous
+1 y
It depends what kind of stuff you do.
Like do you have sex toys or a vibrator?
Do you go out to girls night and watch male strippers?
Or are you just totally focused on him and into the relationship?
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- Asker
  +1 y
  I do have a sex toy, but I only use it when I need to which is almost never. He knows about it. I don't go to no male stripper clubs because honestly I don't find no enjoyment of it lol and also got two little ones who I watch 80% of the time and then as for your third question I used to but honestly not anymore. I've been more focused on myself and our two kids, and getting things straight for my family.
- Asker
  +1 y
  The reason why not anymore is because I don't see him being the same way. He was in the beginning of our relationship and from time to time he makes me believe like he still into me, but I feel other wise. We just came from vacation and let me tell you that nothing romantic happened between us. Not sure if because we had the kids with us, but still..
- Opinion Owner
  +1 y
  I think that porn and sex toys really have no place in a good relationship. My marriage was the best before we had that or cell phones. We were totally into each other, spent all out time together and made love like 4 times a day sometimes. We didn't even have TV to distract us from each other. Later on with work, kids, internet, porn, sex toys, cell phones, tv etc. we drifted apart. You guys are drifting apart. You need to ditch the sex toy, porn, cell phones and Answermug and find ways to reconnect with each other again.
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- Asker
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  Exactly your last reasons are ours as well. Cellphones, tv, work, kids, etc. It was the same with us. I do be trying to find ways to rekindle and reconnect with each other, but every idea I throw he thinks is a waste of time. He say we will have plenty of time to do that once we buy our house because we're currently working on that for next year. He says once we have this house all the stuff I want us to do we're gonna do it. Its irritating. Luke why wait?
- Asker
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  *like
- Opinion Owner
  +1 y
  Yeah, he needs to understand that once you drift apart as a couple anything can happen. You could be feeling totally taken for granted and end up texting someone else for attention. That's what happened with my wife. That's what I ended up doing as well. She started cheating and I was texting with a other woman for female attention and jerking off to porn as my sexual release. We were once madly in love and inseparable, but ended up sleeping in separate rooms and using sex toys, porn and smartphones to avoid each other. She was also physically cheating. You and your husband need to make a change now because that day when you're both in the new house and you finally have time for each other may never come.
- Asker
  +1 y
  😞 i really wish he could see how this is affecting us. He so close minded. And want to make me believe like I'm the crazy one here or that I'm over reacting
- Opinion Owner
  +1 y
  Yes, that's how I was too. In his mind you're married and that means you're his forever. He probably doesn't feel like he needs to worry or focus on you in order to keep you. He's all about your future together, but if he doesn't try in the present with you there may be no future. It's mistake that us guys make. We think that rings and vows keep people faithful, but they don't. You have to stay connected and fight for your relationship. I know it's easier said than done when you have kids and jobs and technology. It just gets harder and harder. I'm divorced now, but I really hope you guys can make it work. Good luck.
Anonymous
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I'd watch with her. But better not ignore each other.
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- Asker
  +1 y
  He thinks is weird. We did that one time last year and that turned out well. Now he finds that strange. 🤷🏽‍♀️
- Opinion Owner
  +1 y
  The strange part is him thinking that.
- Asker
  +1 y
  Thank you!!! This why I be telling him whats the point of us being together like. Feels like he just leading me on to believe on something that's not even there. Like if you fell out or whatever the case may be than I rather know this now then wait til later.
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- Opinion Owner
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  Totally agree. So many guys would love to have a partner they can watch porn with, and when that finally happens he calls it strange, seems like a red flag.
- Asker
  +1 y
  Thank you!!! I honestly don't know what else to do with this guy. Ultimatum don't work with him cause he's like okay "it is what it is" kind of thing then someday he makes me believe like he into us and then another day he just like switches up like I don't know dude is driving me crazy
- Opinion Owner
  +1 y
  Yeah I'm not sure what to tell you.
- Asker
  +1 y
  That's how I feel too lol but it's ok he's gonna learn to regret it one day
- Opinion Owner
  +1 y
  Good.
Anonymous
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I would not care. It's better than him cheating.
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- Asker
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  Thats what he says too😩, but I care cause he spends more time watching that than touching me and I'm tired of always being the one to start off.
- Opinion Owner
  +1 y
  That's different. He has a porn problem clearly. I understand your anger
- Asker
  +1 y
  Yeah other than that I would've been fine with it.