How to ask a guy to keep rubbing your clit during sex so that you orgasm too?

Question

So, my boyfriend and I have been having a lot of sex, and he goes every time, sometimes multiple times but I haven’t once yet... Basically I also have a pretty high sex drive, and just by playing with my clit a little during sex, my ex made me go too every time. I do get kinda moany during sex without climax, so maybe he thinks I’m going too? I just don’t know of a nice way to ask him to also... finish me. It’s like he doesn’t play quite long enough and every time it’s getting good he just switches back to penis only, and I can’t go that way... and he hasn’t ever said anything about it? Suggestions?

Defboy69 · Accepted Answer

Only two respondents so far, one male and one female, have commented on the best solution. Do it yourself. I'm not trying to be a dick, or to sound like one, just hear me out. One time I was with a lady and she started twiddling her tidbits while I was on top, missionary. I was quite hurt and offended by this and I asked if I was doing something wrong that she felt the need to help it along. She informed me that she's always done that and that it really helped make her orgasms more intense and happen a little sooner. After she explained it I was no longer insulted and realized the value of a lady being able to pleasure herself with a man on top of her. I've tried with several different women to get them to show me how to smack the little man out of the boat, but it was different each time. Only you know how you like it rubbed.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Just tell him straight up what you want done. If he wants to really satisfy you he will listen. Or after he gets off you could teach him to ask you if you came and if you didn't he could keep going g until you did.

I would want a girl to tell me, so I know if I was going a good job.

yougurt · Accepted Answer

He can't read your mind. Talk to him, but don't blame him for not knowing what to do or in a angry voice like you had told him a thousand times before.

LuWe22 · Accepted Answer

Try out Position where you can reach down an do it yourself at first.

bacca400 · Answer

"I love it when you keep rubbing my happy bump so I can climax too. Do that now." And show him how you like it. :)

Ellie423 · Answer

dont ask him, tell him,

slatyb · Answer

Use your words, just like you did here. Or just put his hand where you want it. We can't read your mind. Most of us want our partners to enjoy sex but we need some kind of sign.

boggboss · Answer

Just ask him it's pretty easy and clear

Dargil · Answer

Try this out.
The Cowgirl position is low stress for both partners. Your weight gives good penetration and pressure. Contrary to porn, you don't need to bounce (post). Just thrust and "hula". He can grip you at the hips and help out with thrusting. What's important is that your clit is almost in plain sight. He can reach over with both thumbs and cradle it between them and play it while you thrust. Or if you want to coach him, you can reach it too.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Sounds like he's a little selfish. Have a conversation, get him to focus on your needs more

CowboyKamp · Answer

Just tell him. Work with him on what works for you.

genericname85 · Answer

lol just like that... "please rub my clit, i wanna cum" xD it's not too complicated.

dannyuk · Answer

Guys love to be told how to make you cum so just ask him. Guys would also love it if you touched your own clit while he worked on you. All girls are different it's more then possible the guys previous lovers didn't like clit stimulation. So if you don't tell him he won't know.

outside_Toronto · Answer

Tell him to do it while you're having sex. That's really hot.  You need to communicate your likes dislikes or it'll never get better.

Mesachi_06 · Answer

Just be straightforward, he would love to.

jokercard · Answer

Just say it

Cellestial · Answer

It looks like he has no idea how or when you're climaxing, just tell him to keep rubbing it when you're having sex or just tell him before starting that you can't orgasm unless he keeps rubbing your clit

Galen01 · Answer

You should just tell him. He seems to not know that you're having trouble climaxing, a situation that can't change unless you talk to him. If it were me I would appreciate it, I want my partner to enjoy it as much as I do.

Steve37 · Answer

Just ask him to do it. If that doesn't work, do it yourself. When he sees and feels you orgasm, he'll get the message.

JuniorLocs · Answer

Selfish bastard tell him

masterkamasutra · Answer

you have to be open, the guy seems less skillful.

Anonymous · Answer

Just tell him. Why do you need advice on how to do it? Just tell him "rub my clit" when you're both going at it. If you don't tell him, he might think he's doing everything right...