How to ask boyfriend to take an std test?

[Anonymous]

We've been together a really long time... but I sorta feel comfortable with us testing at least once a year. But I have no idea how to ask him to test... and the reason even though we're together I wanna ask is he's had an std once when with me. So I get worries at times. But have no idea how to ask him kf he could test

[Anpu23]

Understand if you ask him to take a test, you are accusing him of cheating. If there's history, or your relationship is open then I can see it, otherwise it's a fight.

[Asker]

He's cheated before and got an std

[NYlatefun]

Do you think he’s having sex with other people regularly? If you do, sure, otherwise it’s irrelevant to take them. Maybe one time just to make sure you both are clean from other relationships but after that, there’s not need.

[Asker]

It's possible he is... he's cheated before and gotten an std... so that's why

[NYlatefun]

Oh ok, but then you have a trust problem with him. That’s what you should address.

[AllAloneInTheWorld]

You clearly have no trust in him so why stay with him especially if he has cheated on you.

[Asker]

I do have trust. It's more I just feel more comfortable if we take test... even me take them as well as him. It just makes me feel better so neither of us has doubts. And know we're clean

[AllAloneInTheWorld]

Wanting to do std test every year sorry that is not someone who trust the person

[Anemone978]

You could just tell him or make him wear condoms.. problem solved..

[OlderAndWiser]

He was unfaithful to you earlier in your relationship?

[Asker]

Yes he was

[OlderAndWiser]

Do you have any reason to suspect that you have an STD now?

[Asker]

I have had soreness and swelling along with some signs I saw on Google for stds. But it coukd also be a uti

[Asker]

We sorta had sex Wednesday and during I ended up bleeding, now I have to pee like every hour, I'm itchy and it sorta burns at times when I use the restroom. And I red all those can be signs of chlamydia which is the std he's had before...

[OlderAndWiser]

UTI possible particularly if you engaged in anal play or anal sex and then had vaginal sex. Chlamydia does not happen again unless you are re-infected. Here is the strategy. Just go get yourself tested for STDs and UTI. If you have UTI and not STDs, then there is no reason to ask your boyfriend to get tested. If you are positive for STD, then you tell your boyfriend you had symptoms, your UTI test was negative, you tested positive for chlamydia, and it could have only come from him, so he needs to get tested. If he tests positive, then you have your answer.

[LazerBean]

Girl you seriously need to raise your standards, that's just sad.

[Gent207-2]

Agree to get STD check together within the same month or week

[Dargil]

Are you both seeing and having sex with others?

[Asker]

He's cheated before. I have not. I've only ever had sex with him

[Dargil]

Not trolling you, How do you know he cheated?

[Asker]

Because I've literally met the women he cheated with. And he admitted it after

[Dargil]

Then you are entirely justified. If I were F, I would have deleted him after the first instance. Cheating is the worst betrayal; as bad as violence. Tell him that as penance, you expect him to get an STD test every 30 days; offering to split the cost, or YOU ARE GONE. Make that clear and don't compromise.

[Asker]

I'm fine with once a year or even half a year... mostly just cause I'm paranoid if we have sex and after anything happens. And I bled this time and now I'm having pain and signs like I could have the std he once had. But I could be just being paranoid and it's something different. It's just the little paranoia cause of last time and how bad it scared me

[Dargil]

His personal habits are like pointing a loaded gun at yourself. Here’s a brief overview of the incubation periods for some of the most common STDs: Chlamydia & Gonorrhea: Testing can be performed 1-5 days after exposure, however, symptoms may or may not be present until 1-3 weeks after exposure. Syphilis: Testing can be performed 3 weeks after exposure, but may take up to 6 weeks for antibodies to develop. Trichomoniasis: 5-28 days Herpes (HSV-1 and HSV-2): Testing can be performed after 28 days from exposure. Human Immunodeficiency Virus (HIV): Testing can be performed 18-45 days after exposure, however, it may take up to 90 days for antibody results to be positive. It is recommended to test 3 times up to 3 months after exposure. HIV RNA: Testing can be performed after 28 days from exposure. Ureaplasma/Mycoplasma: Testing can be performed 1-3 weeks after exposure, or if symptoms begin before the 1-3 weeks. Hepatitis B Antigen: Testing can be performed 2-4 weeks after exposure. Hepatitis C: Testing can be performed 8-11 weeks, however, it may take 6- 9 months after exposure for antibodies to develop in the body. Hepatitis C RNA: Testing can be performed 2-3 weeks after exposure. Once or twice a year might be the same as a death sentence.

[Dargil]

The smiley is "C".

[Asker]

Chlamydia is actually what he had last time...

[Dargil]

You know what you have to do. He has proven himself to be not trustworthy. Delete him or face what he is.

[AviatorTom]

Have the two 9f you test together.

[LEGENDARY4200]

Point blank

[CubaPirate]

Show him your results first

[MasterKS]

just be open.

[Anonymous]

Just buy a home testing kit and make him take it.