How to ask him what he likes in bed?

i’ve been talking to this guy for about 2 months. we kind of just have basic sex, nothing crazy and i want to try new things and be more comfortable in bed with him. we see each other once a week, maybe twice because of work so i want to talk to him ab this soon. it might have to be over text. how to i ask him what his kinks are or what he wants to try without being to weird or forward.
we never talk about sex and i want to
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Superb Opinion

  • Learn to talk before, during and after sex.

    learn to be open with each other.

    Try making games out of it.

    get squares of paper and write some basic kinks down that you like.

    both of you then get to play a ‘kink card’ and the other helps you do it.

    it’s important to understand that kinks are for the person to experience and not really for the other to do.

    don’t jump in the deep end, keep it really simple and basic.

    for bondage you can get Velcro cuffs.

    It’s all about communication talking and listening, it’s so important to a relationship and in improving how sex is for both partners.

    Respect, Trust, Communication and Honesty are really what you need to build, kinks etc will easily follow along.

    https://www.redonline.co.uk/health-self/self/a26819478/rebuild-sexual-confidence/
    https://flo.health/menstrual-cycle/sex/pleasure/how-to-be-good-in-bed-for-your-partner

Most Helpful Guy

  • So, tell him (when you're in a nice relaxing situation, not while you're having sex) that you'd like to talk about your private time together. Be gentle... he might think there's something wrong otherwise and become defensive. Ask him if he would like o try a few things (suggest a few that you'd like), and let him know you'd be open to that.

    The key is to ask him, not tell him. Most guys will gladly try things their girl suggests.

Most Helpful Girl

  • Try right after your done doing it, ask him to think of a few things he wants and you will as well then next time you could try some.

    Likely he has feels the same way, he wants to ask you what you want but is not sure how.

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  • make up some bullshit about it being 3 months that you have been together and you want to please him, then say which outfit would you prefer and send over a few pic's, could mix it up with just normal Lingerie, fetish wear, dress up e. g. nurse etc. that way he can choose and let you know what it is he likes.

    also another way is to be in the bedroom and just whisper in his ear, you can do anything you like to me, take me and own me. or you could make a play on this and have some light bondage where you use some hand cuffs/bed restraints and tie yourself up and say the same thing, do with me as you please.

    this way he will lead and you will find out a bit more. after sex and in the cuddling part, compliment him, tell him how good he was and how much you liked it. then say wow i have never seen this side of you, i really enjoyed that, is there much more where that came from, what are you going to do next time. post leading questions so that he can reply with answers, dont be afraid of silence, let him make the next words, this way you are getting him to answer.

  • "Hey.. what kind of things turns you on the most and what do you want me to try with you things I haven't done before to make it more fun for you?"

  • Find ways to talk about it... make the convo fun and enjoyable... he’s prob into more than you think

  • oh boy sex talk, said not too many people.
    If someone asked me I'm not sure if I would tell her all of them, don't want to scare her away, or give her just the basic ones and build on those.
    Which would you prefer?

  • I say don't ask and just take the time to explore his body and watch how he reacts.

  • He probably wouldn't mind talking about sex with you. It's best to just ask him.

  • "honey is there anything you'd like me to do to please you i love to see you cum"

  • You could just ask about something relatively vanilla and inoffensive to start with, and see how that goes. If they don't shut the conversation down, then you could go ahead and ask if they have other kinks. There are also sites online where you can both separately go through a questionnaire about random kinks, and then at the end it will tell you only the ones that both of you showed interest in. So neither of you has to reveal anything that may be embarrassing or off-putting for the other.

  • It's easier for a girl to ask a guy about this.

  • I find watching porn together can be a good way to broach the subject. Put on something that includes a variety of things you think you'd like to try. As the performers do different things ask him if he'd be interested in trying them with you. If he says no, ask him what kinds of things would he enjoy. A trip to a sex shop can also be a way to approach it. As you walk around the store ask him if he'd like to get some of the products to try.

  • Send him a nice sexy pic and ask him. He will wanna fuck you after your talk