How to ask my first fresh boyfriend to go down on me if I'm shy af?

I have pretty much no real experience. Sex has already happened and some other stuff as well but I still don't know how to really ask for something. Another problem is that it sounds easy in English but it's not my language xD and when I say it in my language it sounds so vulgar, it just doesn't sound like me. Not saying I don't like to be vulgar sometimes but you get the point I hope.

We're going to a barbecue party tomorrow, I'd really like to pull him aside and tell him to use his mouth on me that I love when he does it but doesn't it sound too formal? It's better in my language. I was thinking of just using "lick my pussy" but that sounds super vulgar and I'm still shy and according to my guy "cute" when it comes to this stuff.

Help a shy girl out please
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  • I am at odds here. I'm a proponent of oral sex, but cannot deny the satisfaction of a BBQ.

    I would ask as straight forward and clearly as I could. There's no wrong way of asking. If he thinks wrongly of you for communicating something that you need, tell him 'some random internet guy' said to get the broom stick out of his ass, and get to eating clams.

    You cannot feel uncomfortable in communicating your needs or wants and it's up to the guy to make sure you feel comfortable to be able to say anything to him.

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  • just move his head in that direction next time you are starting out.
    I'm pretty sure he will get the hint, or if you are on top just sit on his face, hard to ignore what to do next.
    Or, here is a very easy way, just ask him to use your tongue on me.
    Get into a 69 position.

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  • After you made out for a while if you lay back and spread your legs he'll naturally know what to do with you. No words are necessary unless he's retarded.

  • Tell him you want him to kiss you down there and use his tongue.

  • Lay down with him, spread your vagina and say: "Lick me" even if you have a foreign accent, it will charm him.

  • Just open your legs up and tell him I love for you to lick down there

  • You don’t have to say a word.


    Lay on the bed, spread your legs, lock eyes with him and tell him you’re ready. If he does not immediately go down on you. That means he’s mot into eating pussy

    • I don't think there are going to be any free beds xD I'd prefer to somehow tell him but it just sounds so not me when I use all these words lol

    • Free beds?

    • @danny_dan92 Available beds at the barbeque.

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  • let me tell you if you take him aside and somewhere this can happen just know Lick MY pussy works. If he dont well you just let me know and ill bring the barbeque.

  • Yeah... ask him to use his mouth... say whatever you are comfortable with.

  • You just have to ask. It's okay to be different in sexual settings, which cunnilingus is, than in more public settings. In a way it's hotter, because you see a side of that person that is hidden from everyone else

    • Would the line turn you off though? "use your mouth on me please" or something like that

    • Not really

  • fresh boyfriend? tf does that even mean

  • Telling him could be hot. Maybe go down on him first

  • sit on his face he will know what to do

  • Send him a couple of 69 gifs and state that you crave it.

  • Whisper to him

  • Tell him you'd like to try a few things you've heard about and is he willing to help. If he's willing to help, guide him through it.

  • I bet he was the one who pursued you or hit on you

  • Get naked and ask him to don the 69.

  • Just tell him , can you check , how i smells down there?