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How to be dominant when I’m a sub?

My boyfriend is a dom. I’m a sub. I need to switch it up but I’m not sure how. Any advice would be great. Thank you.
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  • Just do to him what you would like him to do to you. We all have a bit of dom and sub in us, and there's a saying that doms dom the way they'd like to be dommed.

    • Thank you! This is super helpful!☺️

  • Why? Is he treating you badly?

    • He gets a bit too rough, and he gets turned on by being dominant and rough. He’s very generous with giving head, but I’m always too nervous to give him head in return because of how hard he pushes on my head (I don’t mind being pushed down, it’s just he doesn’t know when enough is enough even when I pinch him- which is our way of having a safeword type of deal) and he has hurt me before. He doesn’t treat me badly and cares about me very much, he just gets carried away.

    • Sounds completely normal. Hence why you're on GaG asking strangers for advice on how not to be treated like a piece of meat.

    • @pizzapizzapizza did I ask you to comment on this individual’s post? No. Just because I don’t agree with you doesn’t mean you get to continue to bully your way into my other comments. Please be civil.

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  • Is he asking you to dominate sometimes? If not, don't do it.

    • No he isn’t but I don’t ask him to be dominant either so there’s not really a difference in this scenario.

    • I can't suggest too strongly that you discuss with him how your sexual relationship will work. I'm a 100% Dom and not only don't want my partner to donate but still not tolerate it.

    • He’s not completely intolerant. He lets me do whatever I want when I’m serious about trying new things. I don’t ask for permission for things because he doesn’t want to smother and control me and wants a better relationship with me. Keeping me means more to him than the sexual stuff.

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  • Hi, I am fairly Active with BDSM the joys of a dodgy upbringing lol.

    feel free to message me if you want some decent tips and role play suggestions

  • Watch UFC and learn how to roll him then use your legs a lot more to trap him, hold his arms more and ground and pound til he submits then just do whatever you like.

    • Boy he watches UFC he’d see my tiny ass coming 😂😂

    • Boys worry they'll hurt a girl.. cry to distract?

    • Evasive maneuvers. I see you 👀.

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  • What’s the motivation?

    • The motivation at this point is to try and fix some of the power struggle we have in bed because we’re both stubborn.

    • That sounds like just escalating when maybe what you actually want is to sometimes have more connected snd equal sex.

    • Makes sense. Fair point. Thank you!

  • Get a normal boyfriend.

    • Sorry my normal isn’t your normal, but other than sexual things he’s very ordinary. Thank you anyway.

    • Enjoy.

  • Let instinct take over think about what you want to do to him and do it, if you want to pin him while your on top then do it.

    Pull his hair, bite him, scratch him, etc, things like that.

    • This is super helpful, thank you’

    • *!! ❤️

    • No problem, good luck !

  • Start with being on top. Go from there.
    Initiate. Take control.

    • See I suggested that but the girlfriend he had for a long time was abusive towards him and only let him have sex that way, so I’m trying to find another way to go about it. But thank you this really helps!!

  • I like girls that are equal.

    • Me too but my partner and I both have a tendency to want things one way- we’re both very set in our ways people.

  • Why do you need to Switch If he is a dom and you are a sub?

    • Because I’m usually a sub but I’m actually a switch and he’s more dominant than I am and I just want to change it up.

    • So you changed from sub to switch? I don't know how to change him being dom into being Switch

    • No I’ve always been one, just for this relationship I have focused on the submissive part.

  • Its difficult

    • Yes I know that’s why I’m asking for tips.

  • Why do you have to, just be happy the way you are

    • Just looking for a change up that’s all.

  • Try slapping him in the face

    • I really hope this is a joke, but I have slapped him in the face (long story, wasn’t mad or being abusive, he just wanted to see how hard I could) and all it did was make him hard so.

  • its fun add a weird extra kink

    • It can be really fun I just have no idea how to execute it!😂

    • just think of something naughty take control go down deep

    • Thank you ❤️

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