How to convince my girlfriend to try anal?

[Anonymous]

She doesn't want to because she's scared it will hurt. However, that strangely made me want to do anal with her even more. I could go gentle with her.

[Anonymous]

Anal does hurt, even if you are gentle with someone.
If you're interested in DOING anal because of the possible pain it can inflict, there's something off about you.
If the woman says "No," don't press it.
Anuses weren't built for sex. Your girl has a perfectly wonderful pussy that is made just FOR that.
Stop insisting on doing something your partner isn't interested in.
Anal sex involves getting poo on the sheets and on the penis: even if you use an enema beforehand. You and her would need to be OK with that aspect.
It takes a lot of patience and must be done slowly and carefully with LOADS of lube. You can tear the delicate tissues inside the ass if you aren't careful.
Yeah, everyone seems to be doing it. It didn't feel that great to me and did not seem worth the effort.
I think men get more out of doing it and of it being done TO them.
If you have hemorrhoids, it's a no no. It irritates them. If you have crone's or any kind of IBS or proctitis, fissures or bleeding, again, no anal sex.

[Orangesareyummy]

They actually do like anal because it hurts women. That’s why painal porn is so popular or forced anal. It’s awful.

[Vetis]

@Orangesareyummy For the record i think anal is disgusting, and always have. Borderline homosexual.

[Orangesareyummy]

@vetis I still stand by what I said. Sex should be enjoyed. Men who hurt women are scum.

[Vetis]

@Orangesareyummy That general anxiety of being hurt + suspect narcissistic behavior of a woman = The man hurting the woman instead of caring about them

[Vetis]

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[Orangesareyummy]

Again I still stand by what I said.

[Vetis]

Yep we dont play the victim, we victimize the losers who thought theyd make us victims.

[Opinion Owner]

@Vetis There's nothing wrong with "homosexual" sex for two men. If that's their choice. I have gay friends, however, who NEVER engage in anal whatsoever. I think sexual choices have no overtones. It's gay if you think it is. The point is it takes a load of effort and time and I don't see that the outcome for a woman is worth it. I can have an orgasm with a man utilizing my vagina with no time or effort. Multiply. And the vagina creates its OWN lubrication. How bout that! It's a fad. Just like transgenderism is. Just like being gay and out WAS. This too shall pass. Some will always practice it. Many will try it. I did. But if anyone is deadset against it, doing it or pressing that issue is wrong. The fact about the causing pain being attractive to this guy is the MOST disturbing aspect of the entire question.

[Anonymous]

Get some anal toys for her, and go slow.

[Anonymous]

Just ease her into it. You need to create a mental link between her butt hole and pleasure. It takes a while but it worked with my girlfriend.

For example, if i was eating her out I would slide a lubed up finger between her cheeks and just massage the outside of her butt hole, if I was giving her a full body oil massage I would massage her butt cheeks and be sure that my hands glided over the hole a few times.
Just lots of gentle stuff like that and she began to become comfortable with the idea of the area bringing pleasure and then she actually suggested anal sex.

[Whitemeatchicken]

No means no. Pressuring is a total turn off.

[AustinMan]

You probably have a sadistic streak sexually. Maybe this will help?

Comfortable Anal Sex for Beginners: A Guide to the First Time ↗

[proNutro]

Don’t go on about it. If she says no then it means no. I find it extremely annoying and off putting when guys go on and on about something when you’ve already expressed how you feel and your answer is still no.

[Whitemeatchicken]

First off, if you get off on hurting women, you need your ass beat. There are studies suggesting that men who like anal like the idea of hurting those and controlling those who love them. If she says no that’s what it means no. I think she deserves better than you. She deserves someone who will want to do activities both like. Nothing gets a rapist off more than doing something they know the other person is afraid of or if it hurts them. There’s a special place in hell for people like that.

[Orangesareyummy]

People most guys who like anal also watch painal porn. There is also forced anal porn. This porn entails men purposely hurting women and women begging them to stop. They are being raped because they will always beg them to stop. The guy keeps going though. It is what it is. I’m very sorry a lot of men are that way.

[DavidFox]

If she is scared that means she doesn’t trust you enough. Focus on gaining more of her trust and don’t bring it up again for a while.

[Whitemeatchicken]

You don’t find it the least bit disturbing he likes the idea of hurting her? Maybe that’s why she doesn’t trust him.

[DavidFox]

Anal isn’t about pain, if it’s done correctly

[Whitemeatchicken]

Please read what he just said. He admitted to getting off on her fear and potential pain. Most women (98%) don’t enjoy anal. They all can’t be lying. Maybe guys just aren’t as great as they think they are. Despite, he said since he knows it scares her and she is afraid of him hurting her it makes him want it more.

[DavidFox]

Oh I see what you mean, we just had different interpretations. Yes indeed if this guy is a sadist then obviously getting off on her pain isn’t good at all and he needs therapy. I thought that he meant because she is scared that he can go slowly and gently and help her overdone that fear. We don’t know what kinds guy he is and what their relationship is based on. Personally I’ve only had anal with one person and she was the one that asked for it. During intercourse one day she inserted a plastic dildo into her ass and it was a surprise to me. After we talked about it she asked me to try it. Guess she was in that 2%

[Whitemeatchicken]

Well she could have just tried it too. The stats on people who try once is 30%ish. Only 2% continue after trying once though. Hard to say. But I definitely think it’s something you shouldn’t ask for and let them come to you. I know guy and girls wh on have ended a relationship because they were asked (both receive.)

[DavidFox]

What we both agree is it comes down to communication. I feel like a sexual partner can ask for anything, there are no limits to what they can ask for. But them asking and me delivering are two different things. I get what you mean about it being better if they offer something, but in life if you want something you need to ask for it.. no one is a mind reader.

[Whitemeatchicken]

See that’s why my fiancé and I talked early on about our interests and fantasies. I think that’s best practice. 😊😊😊

[cnotemom6]

It feels good but hurts at first. Always try some good lube

[Orangesareyummy]

I think men who want to do that like hurting women. Otherwise there wouldn’t be so much painal porn...

[Vetis]

SEX IS humiliatingly painful for women. You CANNOT disassociate sex from domination. Love is of the intellect. SEX is NOT intellectual.

[Orangesareyummy]

@Vetis I think women should enjoy sex. Sex is a time for two lovers to show their love for one another. Unless they are into an alternative lifestyle, they don’t like that. In fact, if I was ever in any pain at all, my fiancé would hurt the person who was causing it. Think about that before you hurt women. Men who hurt women are scum.

[Orangesareyummy]

@Vetis I’m not a virgin. I’ve been with my fiancé. Not until after he proposed though. Actually I’m very very strong. Men who hurt women purposely are not.

[Vetis]

Yep, I won't go into the details. But men do get hurt quite often, so often that, as a boy, being hurt by a male or female parent for no concrete reason is probably the equivalent to rape anxiety in women.

[Orangesareyummy]

@Vetis doesn’t make hurting women right. What do you guys always say- don’t ply the victim? Okay yeah... again sex should be enjoyed. Just because you stubbed your toe today doesn’t make it right to rape or hurt women. Good bye

[Orangesareyummy]

Plenty of people are abused as children. While it does effect them, there is no excuse for rape or abuse. People who think otherwise are scum.

[dudeinohio]

finger here there a few times and see how she likes it... kind of work your way up to more fingers and if she's liking it, then revisit the topic of anal sex.

[Anonymous]

Why is it so important to you? If she doesn’t want to try it leave it alone. She knows you’re interested, so if she becomes interested in trying it she’ll let you know.

[Whitemeatchicken]

Did yoh also find it disturbing he gets off in hurting her or the idea of hurting her?

[Opinion Owner]

I did. Just thought I made the point without saying it.

[Anonymous]

Just tell her you don't enjoy vaginal sex with her coz your dick to small and you need a tighter hole to compensate for you small size

[Orangesareyummy]

Yes make her self conscious about her vagina just because he’s a filthy pervert. Really smart.