How to convince my girlfriend to try anal?

She doesn't want to because she's scared it will hurt. However, that strangely made me want to do anal with her even more. I could go gentle with her.
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  • Anal does hurt, even if you are gentle with someone.
    If you're interested in DOING anal because of the possible pain it can inflict, there's something off about you.
    If the woman says "No," don't press it.
    Anuses weren't built for sex. Your girl has a perfectly wonderful pussy that is made just FOR that.
    Stop insisting on doing something your partner isn't interested in.
    Anal sex involves getting poo on the sheets and on the penis: even if you use an enema beforehand. You and her would need to be OK with that aspect.
    It takes a lot of patience and must be done slowly and carefully with LOADS of lube. You can tear the delicate tissues inside the ass if you aren't careful.
    Yeah, everyone seems to be doing it. It didn't feel that great to me and did not seem worth the effort.
    I think men get more out of doing it and of it being done TO them.
    If you have hemorrhoids, it's a no no. It irritates them. If you have crone's or any kind of IBS or proctitis, fissures or bleeding, again, no anal sex.

    • They actually do like anal because it hurts women. That’s why painal porn is so popular or forced anal. It’s awful.

    • @Orangesareyummy For the record i think anal is disgusting, and always have. Borderline homosexual.

    • @vetis I still stand by what I said. Sex should be enjoyed. Men who hurt women are scum.

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  • Get some anal toys for her, and go slow.

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  • Just ease her into it. You need to create a mental link between her butt hole and pleasure. It takes a while but it worked with my girlfriend.

    For example, if i was eating her out I would slide a lubed up finger between her cheeks and just massage the outside of her butt hole, if I was giving her a full body oil massage I would massage her butt cheeks and be sure that my hands glided over the hole a few times.
    Just lots of gentle stuff like that and she began to become comfortable with the idea of the area bringing pleasure and then she actually suggested anal sex.

    • No means no. Pressuring is a total turn off.

  • You probably have a sadistic streak sexually. Maybe this will help?

    Comfortable Anal Sex for Beginners: A Guide to the First Time ↗

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  • Don’t go on about it. If she says no then it means no. I find it extremely annoying and off putting when guys go on and on about something when you’ve already expressed how you feel and your answer is still no.

  • First off, if you get off on hurting women, you need your ass beat. There are studies suggesting that men who like anal like the idea of hurting those and controlling those who love them. If she says no that’s what it means no. I think she deserves better than you. She deserves someone who will want to do activities both like. Nothing gets a rapist off more than doing something they know the other person is afraid of or if it hurts them. There’s a special place in hell for people like that.

    • People most guys who like anal also watch painal porn. There is also forced anal porn. This porn entails men purposely hurting women and women begging them to stop. They are being raped because they will always beg them to stop. The guy keeps going though. It is what it is. I’m very sorry a lot of men are that way.

  • If she is scared that means she doesn’t trust you enough. Focus on gaining more of her trust and don’t bring it up again for a while.

    • You don’t find it the least bit disturbing he likes the idea of hurting her? Maybe that’s why she doesn’t trust him.

    • Anal isn’t about pain, if it’s done correctly

    • Please read what he just said. He admitted to getting off on her fear and potential pain. Most women (98%) don’t enjoy anal. They all can’t be lying. Maybe guys just aren’t as great as they think they are. Despite, he said since he knows it scares her and she is afraid of him hurting her it makes him want it more.

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  • It feels good but hurts at first. Always try some good lube

  • I think men who want to do that like hurting women. Otherwise there wouldn’t be so much painal porn...

    • SEX IS humiliatingly painful for women. You CANNOT disassociate sex from domination. Love is of the intellect. SEX is NOT intellectual.

    • @Vetis I think women should enjoy sex. Sex is a time for two lovers to show their love for one another. Unless they are into an alternative lifestyle, they don’t like that. In fact, if I was ever in any pain at all, my fiancé would hurt the person who was causing it. Think about that before you hurt women. Men who hurt women are scum.

    • @Vetis I’m not a virgin. I’ve been with my fiancé. Not until after he proposed though. Actually I’m very very strong. Men who hurt women purposely are not.

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  • finger here there a few times and see how she likes it... kind of work your way up to more fingers and if she's liking it, then revisit the topic of anal sex.

  • Go find some other girl and replace that one. She doesn't know how to satisfy you.

  • Why is it so important to you? If she doesn’t want to try it leave it alone. She knows you’re interested, so if she becomes interested in trying it she’ll let you know.

    • Did yoh also find it disturbing he gets off in hurting her or the idea of hurting her?

    • I did. Just thought I made the point without saying it.

  • Just tell her you don't enjoy vaginal sex with her coz your dick to small and you need a tighter hole to compensate for you small size

    • Yes make her self conscious about her vagina just because he’s a filthy pervert. Really smart.