How to deal with bad sex?

My current b. f. and I are having bedroom problems. He seems like he cums way too fast (like five minutes~) and I can't ever get there in that short a time frame. I've told him before to keep playing sex games with me (I have a dildo) and we worked through it a few times, but he doesn't seem to want to do that anymore. He says he gets pissed off that I get off on a dildo that's "bigger than him" even if he's the one using it on me. He's made comments that it does turn him on to watch me like that though, so I don't know... He doesn't seem willing to reciprocate at all usually taking off to do something else right after (leaving me in bed). When I tried to talk to him about it he said that reminding him that I didn't cum makes him feel inadequate and shitty. I don't know what to say when sex just keeps getting worse and worse and he's not interested in fixing it. How do I deal with this?
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  • It sounds like he's insecure. That's something that he needs to deal with. He also sounds somewhat selfish, by not wanting to reciprocate.

    Rather than focusing on what he perceives as his failures, he needs to work on getting better, so that he doesn't fail. You've tried to talk to him about it, so aside from saying "let me show you how to make me cum," there's not a whole lot else you can do. Either he wants to get better, or he doesn't, and it doesn't sound like he wants to.

  • I have had bouts of low stamina. To compensate I focused on her more during foreplay. I would make sire she came multiple times before I even thought about being inside her. It's not a race and it's not a contest; but that one night where you get three orgasms to his one will be pretty good for both of you. I like to mention it. One nigjt she got 15 and I got 1... Just sayin.

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  • When you say 5 minutes, are you talking about 5 minutes of actual intercourse? or for the whole thing including foreplay/oral/fingers, etc.

    • I hope it's just the intercourse otherwise that would me sad for all of it

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  • Break up or fix it.

    My guess is best fix would be ejaculation control practice for him and then as a couple. If he’s committed within 6 weeks I’d expect a major change.

  • Cheat

  • get a new boyfriend with a nice thick huge cock that will pound you for hours and hours! ;)

  • Does the sex toy feel better or does he feel better?

  • He needs to take care of your needs first, then his.

  • He sounds like a selfish lover. The cumming fast isn't his fault but him not wanting to help you cum with toys or oral etc... is a dick move

  • he is useless its high time to use the better dick.

    • Ouch. Just let me know know. Mine is in perfect condition

  • Yeah bad sex is no good

    • For now just play with your pussy so you cum

  • There's nothing you can do. You're stuck.

  • Leave? Bad sex is enough of a reason to