Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
In the time I’ve been on this site, I’ve seen quite a few posts from guys asking how to stop watching porn. Suggestions often include researching the harmful effects of pornography and setting up filters and passwords. While these should be done, they are only a part of the solution. There is more that you can and should do to get to the root of the problem.
Destroy your pornography
Don’t just throw it away, but destroy it. Set a bonfire with your printed material and take a sledgehammer to your DVDs. Remove all traces; if anything is saved on your computer or phone, delete it and clear your trash bin. Reformat the hard drive if you have to. Unsubscribe from the websites and CLEAR YOUR SEARCH HISTORY. This way, when you’re searching for something legit, your search won’t auto-populate with a website or performer.
Go to bed an hour earlier
Turn off your computer, TV, and phone for half an hour beforehand. Leave them in a different room (or at least out of arm's length) and simply lie in darkness for a while so that your eyes can adjust to the darkness. Most importantly, it removes temptations.
Develop a healthier lifestyle
Everything – body, mind, and heart – is interconnected.
BODY – Go out for long runs or walks. Join a local sports league. Spend more time at the gym. You could also try a new hobby that requires discipline, endurance, and focus, like boxing or fencing. Don’t indulge in anything that will harm your body.
MIND – Pursue intellectual growth. Open new pathways in your mind to ease the stresses of recovery and withdrawal. Listen to classical music. Read poetry, history, physics, philosophy, or theology and spirituality. Consider keeping a journal.
HEART – Volunteer at a food pantry, homeless shelter, retirement home, or crisis pregnancy help center. In addition to looking beyond yourself, you will get to know people more personally.
As much as possible, avoid anything triggering
When you’re web browsing and you see lingerie or swimwear ads, refresh the page so that something different shows up. Inventory your movies, music, and TV shows and avoid those with sexual content. Take a different route to and from work or school so that you don’t pass by the provocative ads or lingerie store that you normally do. As for the GAG community, avoid Sexual Behavior, Sexual Health, and How Do I Look? You might think that you're just admiring a great body or helping a girl build self-esteem. What you’re actually doing is making yourself vulnerable and rationalizing it. There will be a time when you can do this, but not right now.
Know what is in fact triggering for you. Think of it as your "trip wire".
Discipline your media usage
Some people recommend watching other things, but I advise against this. You’ll still be idle and vulnerable to boredom, which can lead to a relapse.
Clean up your vocabulary
Stop using the slang terms for the most intimate parts of our bodies. This might not seem like a significant step, but it really is because you will elevate these most sacred parts of the body to a greater sense of propriety. Don’t describe women as “hot” or “sexy”, but with more wholesome, affectionate, and humanizing terms like “pretty”, “beautiful”, “graceful”, or “elegant”; words that animate the heart of a woman rather than just her body.
And for what it’s worth, avoid innuendos.
Self-denial
You could take cold showers or eat only two slices of bread at mealtime (just a couple of suggestions). This should be done regularly and with intention, meaning at least once a month; if you wait until after a relapse, this becomes a punishment more than a discipline. Furthermore, you’ll be able mentally prepare yourself. As you become more accustomed, do it bi-weekly and then weekly; do it on the same day each time.
Have an accountability partner
You can’t do this alone. Meet with a friend and share your struggles. Have them give you a hug, encouragement, advice and yes, forgiveness if you’ve failed. This should also be done regularly. Use accountability software like Covenant Eyes or Net Nanny.
If you are Catholic, turn to the Sacraments of Confession and Holy Communion, especially if you’ve been away from them.
Aspire to and embrace your masculinity
See yourself as a “man” rather than a “guy”. Few things in this world draw out masculinity better than femininity. Place images of your mother, sisters, cousins, or female friends on your computer or phone. You should also seek inspiration in authentic masculinity. It could be represented by a real or fictional man. He should have a good and consistent moral code and strives to be better than he is. When he’s speaking, you’re listening. When you see him, you think “that’s what I need to be”. He could be General Patton back from the dead or a more humble and gentle soul. You could know him personally or not. In any case, the image should inspire you.
Practice humility
You cannot change the evil that you face, but you can change yourself and how you face it. In a very real way, humility strengthens you because you allow yourself the freedom to grow. You have the freedom to acknowledge and safeguard the vulnerabilities of your heart and mind. You have the freedom to accept responsibility so that you can make the changes.
Gratitude
Be thankful for every day of freedom, whether it’s one day or a thousand. Gratitude helps you to acknowledge the steps that you’ve taken and gives you hope for the future. Lastly though, be thankful in general. Why? Because gratitude is a solid defense against the negativity and anxiety that causes you to seek relief in things like pornography.
CONCLUSION
It’s estimated that there are twenty pornographic websites for every normal one. The porn industry boasts an average annual revenue of $14 billion (USD). One site is even trying to integrate itself in society by paying for college tuitions and running “family-friendly” promo campaigns. Many seem convinced that all men watch porn. There is much to rationalize, but you must not allow yourself to be deceived. You are not at the mercy of your desires. You have a choice. It might be difficult, but it is neither impossible nor hopeless.
I will soon explain what I’ve said from a spiritual and theological perspective. Though I sincerely respect our religious differences, I do not feel that what I’ve said will be complete without this angle. Make of it what you will. I’m simply making it available.
What Girls & Guys Said
12 38I gave up on fighting it. I was cursed with a small penis, and there's no point in dating or getting married, so porn will have to suffice as an outlet for my human sexuality.
I think you are doing well. It is a very good idea to write for the general audience without any reference to religion, because knowing your religious background may color the interpretation of your message. Anything can be secularized, even though the inspirational foundation comes from religion.
Although people usually assume that porn-watchers are men, women can be porn-watchers too, and even addicts. Additionally, female porn consumers watch the same kind of porn as their male counterparts. Pornography is notorious of its portrayal of women, but that's not stopping women from consuming it.
Thank you. I had actually originally intended to include some religious references, but 1) I knew I had to keep it as secular as possible and 2) I realized that I had enough material for a second myTake where I could elaborate more specifically and freely on the spiritual side of things. And yes, you're right about women and porn. I know that it's not exclusively an issue with men. When I first started writing this, I was trying to be inclusive to men and women, but I knew that men struggle with it more, so I wrote it from that angle.
Destroy your pornoraphy...3 months later your wasting 1 weeks of your life downloading all the porn you deleted.
"One site is even trying to integrate itself in society by paying for college tuitions and running “family-friendly” promo campaigns."
What site is that? ... I'm asking for a friend... who's doing scientific research...*cough* *cough*
Oh my gosh. I love this!
Thank you.
I don't watch porn but this is nice
Thank you.
I found this post GREEEAAATTT
One of the things i noticed is that the busier i am, the less i care about women or sex. The more conected to my self growth, the less i think of it and the better i feel.
I don't like the way pornography makes me feel, it just takes the taste from my experiences, not sexually, i don't know how to explain, it's like you get numb and your emotions are taken away in some degree... or perhaps i'm just a special snowflake here
Porn is the best thing for me, no real women can compete