How to get laid in college?

[Anonymous]

Its prety self explantory really , how do i get laid in colleg? 3 months and i have made dozens of friends , both guys and a girls , i am fairly attractive and confident i get lots of looks and signs , sure i try the occasional approaching when i sense a girl is giving strong signs but they usually end up taken. now here's the thing i have three girls who i think like me , one was being a bitch so i became a bitch then she started being really nice to me for some reason and agreeing on everything i say she even added me on facebook , another girl added me on facebook out of no where and we talked for weeks ( a little slow these day but we still talk sometimes ) and iam sure i can find another chick or two who like me , its not hard really , the thing is iam the one not interested i dont really feel attracted to them , but i want sex , i need the experience , in a nice way , iam usually nice and respectful even if i am also careless and dont give a shit most of the times but i am still respectful so how do i chat them up and start something? what should i be saying to them to get them to have sex and not give them any false hope of a relationship? as i said iam not looking ot hurt their feelings and iam willing to give as much as i take so its a fair trade , however iam a bit inexperieced when it comes to this and it doesn't help that some girls are conservative.

[thorthorley]

If you are not looking for anything serious dont lie to them because it will only come back and hurt you. Just be honest but be smart in the way you phrase it. Just say "Im not looking for a serious relationship", "Im not ready for a commitment right now". Something along those lines will do.

Dont take the girls who you want to do it with out on dates. Thats also misleading. So take them out with friends to parties, clubs, bars, hangouts or whatever. Make sure their are other people around and you can always find a quiet spot to talk and flirt and kiss and stuff. Be sexual and turn her on and you can casually go back to hers or yours. Dont say lets have sex. Not smooth. Say "you want to come over to my place and Ill show you my record collection I was talking about". Something like that which is code for 'You are getting laid tonight'. Girls will know what you mean most of the time, but they need an excuse so dont seem like sluts. And always follow through with what you said. So show them the record collection and dont just jump into sex unless she initiates it. Then its fine. Just play it cool as if you actually wanted to show her your record collection and then you can be seductive and romantic and lead it to sex. Be smooth and dont just assume anything because some girls will find an excuse not to have sex even though they really want it.

[Nicu11]

I use the simple technique of "Do you want to come over?" if she comes, then chances are 90% sex 10% pizza and movie. (both can happen too)
If she said no, ask someone else and keep trying, don't take rejection too hard on yourself. And of course ask the girls that seem to give you some signals :)

I used to try to be their friend, and this and thaaat wasting time and for nothing, after a while I started just talking for a bit to be sure that she likes me at least, then I'd ask them to come over for a movie. Most of the times they asked me to see my bedroom (the first time even I was surprised that it worked this easily)

DON'T GET HANG UP ON THE GIRL, most times when they come they just want to have fun, not a boyfriend.
This is how you get laid, not find a proper girlfriend!

[Asker]

that wouldve worked great if i had a place of my own but you see i live 45 mins away and i come by bus everyday , i do have a car but i dont have a place of my own so how to pull this off?

[Nicu11]

Ah, you aren't in a dorm? HMMM. Gotta plan ahead and take a cab when nobody is home, you will have to live life dangerously! Or ask a friend to borrow you his apartment? if that's a option If not, gotta spend some money, get a hotel or find someone adventurous enough to do it anywhere

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

be like, "wanna fuck"?

[Asker]

that would solve all my problems wouldn't it

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

just go to a frat party. there's horny bitches all over the place.

[kell490]

I knew a guy that used to do that most got turned down or called a name but 1 out of 10 took him up on it. Just have to find the ones who are really horny.

[Asker]

yeah that would work for me if put into such situations i can get laid easily but here's the thing , frats dont exactly exist in my school and parties are rare , 2-3 times a year so iam left with picking up girls , and to make it even worse i dont even have a place i come and go everyday

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

@kell490 well, if you go and just start dancing, in all likelihood, at least 1 chick will start dancing with you. and then see where it goes from there. i wasn't a huge partier, but i'd go because i had friends in frats or i'd go to my friends' house parties or other dorm parties and even i get a pretty hot girl... and i didn't even try to. @op- that sucks. do y'all have anything? like concerts? local bars? clubs?

[Asker]

there's a local bar but its empty most of the time , girls dont exactly drink lots of alcohol on normal days and iam left with picking girls up the old fashioned way and working my way up from there , which is cool if i knew how to work my way up, i dont know how to talk to a girl to have sex , shit even if got into a relationship for a while thats cool but i simply want sex so any ideas?

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

no, because i'm a virgin (by choice). find a place where you can meet chicks. the alcohol doesn't matter. if she likes you, she likes you. if she doesn't she doesn't.

[Rawrzz]

Oh, if only it was that simple.

[Asker]

@Rawrzz lol thats what i thought , its never that simple and from what i see it has a lot to do with timing and luck

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

@Rawrzz well, it helps if you cut your hair and clean yourself up... no offense, but you kinda look like a junkie axe murderer if that avatar pic is you. i hate sounding mean, but just putting that out there :/

[Rawrzz]

@Other_Tommy_Wiseau If I cared about getting a woman, my hair length wouldn't mean anything. There are many types of women, not only the type you pursue. Ironically, I took that picture right after having taken a shower, thus the wet hair: I was plenty clean. Though, not far off. Codeine in my bloodstream. I can't stop shaking, and these demons won't quit visiting. All my friends are dead men. I was raised by a pack of dogs, hogs. Just laying on me with skin underneath their claws. Thanks for bringing that up, though.

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

@Rawrzz true, however you did say "if it were that easy...", implying it was super hard. i figured you just got outta the shower, but it still looks hella creepy. and I don't know what that reference is from, but i'm guessing a song lyric. sorry home boy :/

[Rawrzz]

@Asker I think it's more just finding a girl that likes you, picking up on her signals, and actively pursuing her. Getting casual sex is a fairly difficult thing, for most guys. Most sex is from within relationships. Once you're in the talking phase, you can maneuver the conversation into a more sexual topic, then make sexual innuendo. Keeping female friends is also a good use, as they can lead to an in with their girl friends. The thing many people misinterpret is sexuality. It's different for men and women. Men are much more physical, whereas women are much more mental. Women have to--most--have emotions for you. They don't just wanna fuck just to fuck, most often. It's a reproduction resource thing. Women only have 1 egg per 9 months, whereas men have infinite sperm. That leads to different approaches with sex, in general. So, you have to romance them, most often. Wanting to get casual sex, spotting the risk takers is probably the best you can do. Tattoos, piercings, drugs/alcoho

[Rawrzz]

@ Asker cigarette smokers. If she's willing to risk cancer, she's probably willing to risk a one-night stand or fuck buddy situation. If you can really tell a chick is into you, then after you've gotten her in a good mood or laughed or something, you could--possibly--try to ask her what she thinks about fuck buddies. In that scenario, if you could pull it off, it would be understood it wasn't a relationship. It would take practice and rejection, however. And maybe the loss of a few friend girls.

[Rawrzz]

@Other_Tommy_Wiseau I'm good with that. You're entitled to your opinion. I'm not here to impress anyone or get people attracted to me. I was implying that it was super hard in contrast to simply going "wanna fuck?" It's cool. I don't get offended easily.

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

@Rawrzz aight, that's cool. i'm not here to impress anyone either. however, if you say "wanna fuck", you never know :|

[Rawrzz]

You pretty much know. There have been social studies done on it. Two that I'm aware of. A hot woman goes around campus asking guys if they want to have sex. Something like 75% said "yes". A hot guy went around and asked random college chicks if they wanted to have sex. 0-1% said yes. You have to build a repertoire with women. Women are typically very turned off by such directness and view it as an insult. "What kind of girl do you think I am?" Maybe there are some women who would say yes, but far and few between.

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

@Rawrzz don't think about it too hard, dude.

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

i was being funny. don't make this harder than it needs to.

[Rawrzz]

It was funny the initial time. Afterwards, the chances of you being serious increased.

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

@Rawrzz well, yeah. the 1st 1 was funny. after that is advice. go to bars, join a club or 2, sports teams, go to frats, go to parties, become friends with girls and their friends. that's actual advice. it's not super hard if you put in minimal effort or know how to speak to people... not girls, people. i'm not talkative or that good looking (in my estimation) or the party type... i don't even drink, yet if i really wanted to, i could get a few decently attractive women. during my spring break trip last year i met like 5 chicks just sitting at a bar, watching the acc/sec tourneys while eating chicken wings or just sitting on the beach. talked to them (1 British chick i talked to for 5 hours) ended up getting their numbers and hooked up with 1. i didn't put in any effort or even try to get with them and a couple of them were dtf. but since i ain't about dat life, i didn't

[Asker]

you see man i thought it would be like that , go meet girls and be casual no stress or pressure just meet some girls , build somekind of trust and eventually it will lead to something that was my plan since i can do that , or just go to some party and hook up with a chick after i drink two glasses of something... however getting in uni i realized it doesn't quite work like that , dont get me wrong attention is not a problem i was getting that since day one, i have female friends and would say most of my female classmates trust me enough to not think iam somekind of a creep and they think iam pretty funny , but seeing few girls acting bitchy and bossy (not with me) kinda turned me off and coupled with the fact taht i didn't see anything i liked i kinda lost interest in dating girl i know at uni , i tried getting a girl from another major since she was giving me strong signs but ended up taken (also i was told girls wanna fk guys from different majors not their own not sure how true )

[Asker]

basically with one or two parties a year if iam lucky and since i come and go daily with no aprtment and its 40 mins away and iam not exactly rich you see my problem right? iam stuck to trying to find a girl who is willing to be a fuck buddy however all the girls i've met so far are too nice nad conservative to be asked straight forward , shit i dont even know if they are willing to do anything... and since you mentioned it i do have some smokers in my lectures they are all taken but one ( i think iam not sure if she's taken ) they looked at me before but nothing serious but lately iam finding them giving me unusual amount of attention since they didn't care before so iam not sure

[Rawrzz]

Alcohol would help. Sex is biologically much riskier to women than it is men, so they are more skittish about it. But, when they're drinking, inhibition is lowered. I'm not saying fuck a totally drunk girl, that would be borderline rape; but a girl who's drank a couple beers and is kinda buzzing will be a lot more receptive than she would be normally. I don't think that's true. I don't think different majors means anything. Just me though. If you're only looking for casual sex, it's going to be difficult. Even in college. There's so much bullshit everywhere about how to get casual sex, but ultimately it's just something you have to practice at, in my opinion. And yeah, go for the risk taking girls if that's what you're after. 'Cause those conservative girls aren't going to put out, at all, as you know. Ultimately, just being around as many girls as possible and trying one thing or another, I guess.

[Asker]

@Rawrzz starting college i thought " damn its gonna be hard to talk to girls " but i realized sooner than later that no its not hard at all in fact its quite easy i talk to all of these girls like its nothing and they seem interested in what i have to say and looking at me the whole time , even after i leave so i realised that its really that difficult , but yes you are right conservative girls are not gonna put out and the last thing i want is being called names because i tried seducing a classmate who didn't like it so iam a bit in a tough situation , conservative girls are not gonna put out and the risk taking ones are mostly taken ( or all as far as i know ), also i dont care if i have sex in or out of a relationship but chances are those conservative girls are waiting for marriage so even a relationship is not gonna work out and thats why iam asking about casual sex , i feel like i have no ptions and won't do a thing for the next few years which is not fun at all

[ConsultantIsBack]

man dating n banging was too easy in college

[Asker]

tell me your secret how to do it?

[ConsultantIsBack]

Well appearance of narcissism aside the answer is: Have a great body and smile (everyone is all about looks, regardless of what they say lol), be funny and confident, and have a great time with them, approach, be confident, get to know her, listen, etc Don't treat women like queens, just act natural, have self-worth don't whiteknight like u see some of these inexperienced guys doing, it is just really bad. i dont drink but alcohol def helps too by letting her guard down.

[Asker]

well i usually dont treat women like queens cause they start becoming bitchy i make sure to make them realize where i stand and where they stand iam not their servant by any means , i am respectful and smile often and joke a lot and can make any situation funny and positivce i've done it and can do it again but if someone tries attacking me even if jockingly i get defensive fast , i dont have a perfect body , used to work out and still have some muscles but nothing serious iam 6'2 , kinda on the skinnier side but average body really i look good with clothes , i look a little thicker than bones skinny... as for looks i am quite confident most of the time and I've been told many times and seen strong signs that suggest iam quite goodlooking hence why i know girls like me , but once you start trying to sleep with them they change their mind so how to do it smoothly?

[skeptic007]

its easy ask, why do people make it so difficult

[Anonymous]

Alcohol always seems to loosen things up no party's there?

[Asker]

lol with 3 parties a year that is a bit hard to do