How to get over your friends with benefits?

I met this hot doctor guy at work and I had a major crush on him for a year but I was dating someone at the time. I broke up with my ex and Dmed my crush and we started talking and actually he broke up with his girlfriend as well. We were getting to know each other and one day I was tipsy and asked if he thought about me sexually because he asked if I was sexually active. He said yes he has and we had sex the next day. Cut forward to now. He had more free time cause he had a 3 month break from work. I thought that would bring us closer but he just got busier. And we just talked and had sex less. We just had sex after my vacation and I want him so much more. But now he doesn't ask for sex he just waits until I say am horny. I am used to guys telling me that they want me and they are horny but he is just chill. How do I move on cause I feel like he doesn't want me in that way. Lol one day I asked if he was attracted to me through text and he didn't answer but I saw him at work and he literally told me all the things I needed to fix about myself. I felt like this whole time he was getting to know me he was judging me. How do I move on cause after the sex we just had I want more.
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  • Focus on other things like hobbies, work, family, friends, etc. Exercise and meditation are great tools. A relationship that is built purely on sex is pretty useless and empty to begin with. Why worry about that. Pursue better things in life.

    • Thanks hun! Yeah definitely trying to get my stuff in order and focus on me.

    • You're welcome! Yes, definitely focus on yourself. You will feel better in no time at all. 😊

Most Helpful Guys

  • Of course focus on work, exercise, etc helps.

    But let's face it, sex is sex. It's irreplaceable. You already feel it right? Horny?

    The only solution is to find a rebound or a new sex partner.

    Hence let go. Move on. Start anew.

    • Yeah that's the tough bit I am human and I get horny so will think about a new partner eventually but now just focus on getting a better job

    • Short term this is the best solution, with regular masturbation. But concurrently, while pursuing your career etc, try to get into a male-oriented job. You'll get guys easier this way.

    • I need to work on the masturbation thing honestly the real thing just feels better. Lol I love the get into a male orientated field advice. I am tryna get into tech so maybe that will help 😁

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  • Well the first and most important thing is probably, dont have sex with him anymore lol. :/

Most Helpful Girl

  • Time to find a new improved benefits provider I think ….

    • Yes I definitely agree with you but will probably take some time out to focus on me.

    • Good plan. A little me time and then see where the mood/desire takes you next …..

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  • Accept the situation, cut him off, process your feelings, and move on.

  • I’ve never had that

    • A friends with benefits situation?

    • Yes….

    • Well that's okay sometimes it's fun and sometimes it sucks

  • Find a new guy to replace the old one.

    • Yeah that's an option but right now just tryna focus on myself and create a better life for me.

    • I think that's a great idea and I wish you the best.

    • Aww thanks so much Wise4myage

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  • If you're still having sex when you want then what's the problem?

    • Not when I want he is quite busy. I feel myself becoming attached since it started of as a crush for me.

  • Lol. RIP

  • So what do you want now

    • I would say to focus on me and the goals that I have instead of focusing on a guy

    • That's clear


  • Time to go baby never should you ask for sex
    just looking at you in a sexual pose make him
    want to eat your pussy

  • Find new people to hang with

    • Yeah true started making new friends here so that's good.