How to get sex without leading someone on?

Most women that I find on Tinder are looking for something more than just a hookup, but they don't really say so until later. They also seem down to have sex in the hopes that it will be a recurring thing.

I'm not into leading people on, even if they do it to themselves. Where can I find a hookup that isn't going to hurt someone?
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  • You've asked two separate questions and it might help you to be clear about which you're asking.
    "not leading someone on" is different from "isn't going to hurt someone"

    the first can be avoided by communicating well. On top of that you can be sympathetic and supportive if someone does end up hurt.

    the second is impossible to do 100% but to minimize it you need to actually make judgements about how you think someone will react. You would need to turn down consenting partners because you think they don't know what they're doing.

Most Helpful Guy

  • HOnestly, you can't... women will almost always get attached because they are biologically programmed to and the oxytocin makes them become that way.

    Unless she is a mentally fucked up bitch or intoxicated to the point of no brain activity... she WILL become attached. Even if she says she won't

Most Helpful Girl

  • If you’re straightforward from the beginning that you just want to hook up, then it’s their fault if they hooked up with you in hopes that something more would develop. From what you’ve written, you did nothing wrong. If they want something more, then maybe they should change their game and raise their standards.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Just be honest up front. It is ok to talk about sex after all.

  • Very hard to find that

    • Very hard? There are plethora of relationship types nowadays; only you have to do is finding your title

    • @visio9 yes, but most girls still secretly want a hookup to be more than a hookup. Or do they? Thanks 😊. I’m gonna ask a question about this.

  • Adult friend finder or say you just want sex.

  • I respect you, but you are not doing anything wrong.

    By the way, hookers are the best 😍

  • That's not possible at all.

  • A prostitute is a better bet but you’ll obviously have to pay for it but it’s still cheaper than a girlfriend