An age-old question here on GirlsAskGuys focuses on men wondering what they can do to get their ladies to have an orgasm, the Big "O(hhhhh)," climax, push her over the edge, etc... You get where I'm going with this. Well, I am here today to take it one step further. Compiled below is a list of ways to get your woman to the promised land without - yes, I said WITHOUT - touching her.
"How is such a thing possible," you may ask? "But I want to touch her! Where does that come in?!" Great questions, dear reader! Here is the thing, what I have written for you are things that will stimulate your boothang's mind and heart, not just her lady bits. Get her mental juices flowing first and then you can put your hands all over her. Why? Well, these suggestions may make it easier for you later because it has been proven time and again that women have trouble getting there for a multitude of reasons, including psychological ones. If you can get her to relax her thoughts, ease her worries, and let her know you care, you will have a higher chance of getting her to climax in the bedroom, in the car, on the kitchen counter, or in the shower.
Okay, so without further ado, here we go!
1. Give Her Compliments
From the time we are young, us girls have seen beautiful women in the media, heralded for their feminity and gorgeous assests. In today's world, that means she needs to have ample breasts and a big, ol' booty. Hey, if that is what you are into, I totally get it. However, not every man is into those things (or simply do not care that much) as many male users have posted over and over again on this site. Many females may be having thoughts such as:
- "My boobs are too small. I am not as much of a woman because of this." - "My butt is flat. Every guy wants a bubble butt. No one will want me." - "I have an outie vagina. How gross. What man wants to be around that?"
Whatever you may like, let the woman you are with know how beautiful you think she is. You are with or interested in her for a reason after all, no? If she feels desirable to you, it will be easier for her to forget about her self-esteem issues, feel sexy, and open up more during sex.
2. Communicate with Her
Knowing how to use your words properly will work in your favor. You can make yourself a very desirable and sexy person yourself to a woman if you can communicate well. If you can hold conversations and not ask about her tits... or simply just stare at them constantly, it goes a long way to her. It makes her feel less like a sex object that you will hit and quit and more like you truly care about her as a person. Again, this allows her to feel closer to you, ultimately allowing her to let her guard down.
Also, it is totally fine (and encouraged) to tell her that you miss her, that you care about her, that you love her. Sure, actions speak louder than words, but that does not mean it would kill you to call, text, or tell her in-person that you have been thinking of her.
3. Have a Sense of Humor
"If you can make a girl laugh, you can make her do anything." ~ Marilyn Monroe
Okay, so that quote may not be entirely true, but it is not entirely false either. Most people love to smile and have a good time. If you show your girlfriend, your date, or whomever that you can enjoy yourself and are not serious all the time, it shows a lot about you as a person. We want to laugh. It eases tension and stress from our daily lives, which - yep, you may have guessed it - can cause females (and men for that matter) to not be able to climax. Too much eating away at our thoughts can detract us from fully enjoying being with our man. Make her giggle and get her mind off of the negatives and onto savoring every pleasurable moment with you.
4. Show Your Intelligence
Let's face it: intelligence can be super attractive. Knowledge is power. A man who knows how to hold a conversation as mentioned before; make witty, sexual jokes to combine with the above point about humor; and get her thinking will stimulate her mind. There is a reason many women like to read erotica over watching porn. It gets her wheels turning, and a guy who can do the same is golden. However, keep in mind to not make yourself seem superior to a woman with all that you know. That just ends up being a turn-off.
5. Be Ambitious
Showing your lady that you have goals and a drive to succeed, to do more, is ridiculously attractive. Lying on your old, ratty couch all day and every day, eating Cheetos, albeit delicious, does not send someone the best message. The same thing goes for whining about your dead-end job and doing nothing about it. Stop it! Go out there and show that you want a better life for yourself by applying to different jobs. Both show that you are lazy and do not want to work hard. That can translate to, "He is lethargic in all aspects of his existence, including the bedroom."
You do not need to have a six-figure income, a mansion, and three cars, but you do need to show that you care about your life. Ultimately, showing some passion for the things in your world can demonstrate that you will have a fire with her as well.
Okay, folks, my time is up for now. Keep in mind that there are other traits or qualities that could be added to this list, but you get the general idea. Feel free to comment and add the ones you think are important!
Nope.. Women hate communication.. they hate intelligence.. they hate ambition... and they hate compliments.. and they can't stand a sense of humor. 100% wrong you are.
"make witty, sexual jokes to combine with the above point about humor" ^^ just following directions bby
EmpatheticLady
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@redeyemindtricks Someone gets it!
redeyemindtricks
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ChuhiyaXper 6
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Great take!!!
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EmpatheticLady
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Thank ya, ma'am! Thanks for reading!
SametheonXper 5
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None of this actually had anything to do with sex, and were in fact just blatant point about what women wish men would be.
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EmpatheticLady
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Oh, but it does relate to sex and, sure, it does show certain things ladies prefer from men. Sex is a good bit of mental stimulation for most women. If you can do these things and make her feel at ease, it will be easier for her to let go and fully enjoy sex.
Sametheon
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Sex shouldn't be about mental stimulation for anybody, because it's simply a mechanical method of gaining pleasure from the sex hormones released during intercourse from our nasty bits
EmpatheticLady
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I get your point, but men and women are wired differently after all. While you may be able to fuck by just seeing a woman undress, not the same can be said for women. An attractive man's body can be a turn-on, but we may be super worried about our own bodies and not wanting to feel vulnerable by having to strip down in front of him. That, in and of itself, can cause us to tense up and not fully enjoy sex, meaning we may not end up climaxing. Of course, this isn't true for every woman. This list is just something compiled from my own thoughts and from comments I've seen or heard from other females in different settings.
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RJGraveyTrain
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I'm going to jump in and say I very much so disagree with you. For men and women alike sex is very mental, considering the amount of chemicals released in the brain during sex, during the courting process, all that equate to the feelings of attachment, love, arousal, etc. In theory it's absolutely plausible that seemingly "unsexual" things like the material @EmpatheticLady presented could very well open a woman's mind up to seduction. For most women the art of seduction is largely mental, if it were just a manner of physical stimulation, more of us would exclusively get off ourselves.
Sametheon
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@RJGraveyTrain Obviously it's TECHNICALLY mental, but that's for the sole reason that our minds control everything. It's our reproductive organs doing the work here.
EmpatheticLady
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If our minds control everything as you stated, then it is important to stimulate those as well as our genitals.
Sametheon
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I don't think you understand what I'm saying here. The mind is stimulated by sex, not by a guy bring ambitious.
RJGraveyTrain
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You contradicted yourself. "Our minds control everything." The reproductive organs can't work without a functioning mind, and simply touching up on a girl's lady bits if she isn't mentally and emotionally into what you're doing will not yield results unless you're going to ridiculous extents like using extreme forcible stimulation. You defeated your own argument.
EmpatheticLady
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Then you don't get what most women feel. Ambition is, in fact, sexy.
RJGraveyTrain
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Quite sexy indeed @EmpatheticLady, there's no arousal in a man you're not emotionally compatible with.
Sametheon
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@RJGraveyTrain Our mind controls our body, but can be influenced by some of the chemicals our body produces involuntarily to our conscious mind. I hardly defeated my own argument.
RJGraveyTrain
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I believe you did though, you're going in circles and are trying to play shmantics here. Women, at least most of us, require emotional (mental) attraction to a man to even want to have sex with him to begin with. That's where the theory that "it's all physical" ultimately falters. Of course there will be exceptions, but if you went up to most women, and asked them if they could become aroused by a man that they weren't emotionally attracted to, who lacked all of the items listed above, that she'd even be willing to consider having sex with him. Orgasm obviously comes from physical stimulation, but the orgasm of the mind is ultimately what will get you there.
Sametheon
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@RJGraveyTrain There is no such thing as orgasm of the mind that is not considered physical. I think the problem you're having here is that you somehow think the mind is separated from the body.
RJGraveyTrain
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For the love of god... You're hopeless.
Sametheon
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@RJGraveyTrain You're pathetically entranced in a lie.
RJGraveyTrain
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Let me break this down so it's easier to understand then:
Before telling me that emotions play 0 part of women having orgasms. Lol
EmpatheticLady
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@RJGraveyTrain Thank you, haha. I was just about to link that article here. xD Twins.
RJGraveyTrain
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Yep, basic knowledge needs to be shared it seems.
EmpatheticLady
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@RJGraveyTrain I actually used it in my research for this Take. ;)
Sametheon
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@RJGraveyTrain Are you THAT stupid? I said that the mind and body are one. You're attempting to make up strawman arguments out of nowhere. Also, most women orgasm when RAPED. So mental stimulation isn't required.
RJGraveyTrain
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Most women orgasm when raped eh? Somehow I feel like you're making that up considering 70% of women can't orgasm from penetration alone even with a committed partner. Somehow I doubt there is any proof that a rapist is making girls orgasm unless he is using extreme forced stimulation. I invite you, again, to read the article and get back to me.
EmpatheticLady
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I knew the rape argument was coming up. Okay, so it is true that not every case of orgasm comes from both physical and mental stimulation. The cases of rape for both men and women where they orgasm can prove that since the act is unwanted and not pleasurable mentally or emotionally for the person being raped. However, this myTake was not written for those unfortunate, horrible occurrences. It was written to explain to men who actually care about women's pleasure on how to better increase a female's sexual experience by feeding into her thoughts and emotions first.
Sametheon
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Your argument was that women had to be stimulated both ways, which was incorrect. Entirely. That's really the end of it.
EmpatheticLady
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I didn't say "had" to be, but that they *want* to be stimulated both ways as it yields a higher chance of having an orgasm. Is that always the case? No, and you are right there.
RJGraveyTrain
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I'd have to agree with @EmpatheticLady again, we both acknowledged that it wasn't necessary for all women, but as you can see even by the feedback on this take a lot of us agree. She never once stated concretely: YOU HAVE TO DO THIS OR... That's your own inability to understand what she clearly stated.
Sametheon
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@RJGraveyTrain you plainly said it a few posts earlier.
RJGraveyTrain
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I don’t believe I did, I believe I said: “For most women the art of seduction is largely mental, if it were just a manner of physical stimulation, more of us would exclusively get off ourselves” – MOST WOMEN not all. I’m not concretely implying this is the case for all women. And Women, at least most of us, require emotional (mental) attraction to a man to even want to have sex with him to begin with. That's where the theory that "it's all physical" ultimately falters. Of course there will be exceptions, but if you went up to most women, and asked them if they could become aroused by a man that they weren't emotionally attracted to, who lacked all of the items listed above, that she'd even be willing to consider having sex with him. – Notice how I use “most of us”, not all of us. Also not concretely claiming anything. I believe you are mistaken.
EmpatheticLady
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@RJGraveyTrain And I will add my piece where I said that the points on this list may help get her off, not that they would. "Well, these *suggestions may make it easier* for you later because it has been proven time and again that women have trouble getting there for a multitude of reasons, including psychological ones. If you can get her to relax her thoughts, ease her worries, and let her know you care, *you will have a higher chance of getting her to climax* in the bedroom, in the car, on the kitchen counter, or in the shower."
19magic
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Been there done that, got with a guy when I was younger, so I'd know what sex was like. I wasn't really attracted to him in the slightest, he was fit but only knew him for the night. The next night we met up and had sex, my original thought process was it doesn't matter who's doing the touching it's still touching and that I would get off. However for the majority of that experience I was thinking of homework I had to do, when was this finally going to stop and how much money I was planning on spending and saving etc. It was then I realised how much I needed to get to know a person before being in bed together. So that my experience of it would be great.
Phoenix98Master
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So basically common sense.
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EmpatheticLady
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You've got it!
Phoenix98
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Lol nice.
FakeName123Guru
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You forgot a key part: Know how to seduce your woman.
While for men it is a lot easier to just get sexually started, women tend to need foreplay before the actual foreplay. Teasing, looks, playfulness, subtle innuendos and all that. Just seducing her like on the first day you met. Make her feel special, emotional, desired, but also make her want to desire the man.
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EmpatheticLady
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Excellent addition to this! That is very true and someone else on here noted that as well. You can have or do all of these things and still lack the sexual chemistry and connection if you do not know how to seduce her unfortunately.
FakeName123
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Yeah. Unfortunately it is the aspect many men don't understand. Many women don't understand either that men and women are fundamentally different, but since men are easier to please it's not as obvious. Women simply do have different sexual cues and their entire sexuality functions differently. Understanding that and acting upon it is the best seduction a man can possibly have. Creating a mix of making her feel desired without putting her on a pedestial, being playful while assertive, giving her the trust to let go while also making her feel a bit of danger of strong uprising passion and ultimatively making her feel naked before even being naked. To be fair though, many women don't even know themselves what they actually want before their vagina starts throbbing telling them "I want this, now!".
EmpatheticLady
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That throbbing vagina feeling is quite ridiculous in a good way at times. xD And sometimes unexpected. It seems like you know what you are talking about, though. Perhaps you should write a myTake yourself about this! I'd be interested in reading what you have to say on the subject. :)
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FakeName123
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I actually did write a basic overview some time ago. Though it didn't have the emphasis on seduction, but was meant to give guys a general idea and go from there:
I might also do a more in-dept one soon depending what topics I get in the battleroyal contest. For now I have to finish the Take for Art & Entertainment though.
EmpatheticLady
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Ah, link me to it when you finish it up. I'll check it out. :)
FakeName123
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Which one you mean? About a more in-detail seduction or about your BattleRoyale competition (aka the one whose gonna crush ya sorry-ass)?
EmpatheticLady
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Both really, but that last comment of yours is comical, sweetheart. ;)
FakeName123
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I know. It's easier to handle the upcoming loss with a smile, hun ;)
EmpatheticLady
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That's right. You keep telling yourself that when you lose.
FakeName123
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The only option I have, if I lose, is blaming the judges for being biased and bribable. Someone gotta take the blame, 'duh.
EmpatheticLady
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Biased and bribable, eh? How so? :P
FakeName123
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How else would I lose? Must be because they are bribable and because I don't have a nice pair of tits that I can allure the judges with.
EmpatheticLady
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I don't see myself or any of my team members showing off their tits either, bub. ;P
FakeName123
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That's a bummer :o
EmpatheticLady
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Ahhhh, hahhh! I see. You just wanted us to show them off for your own greedy pleasure. Shame, sir. Shame on you.
FakeName123
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I wanted to make it fairplay. Boobs vs Moobs. May the better win.
EmpatheticLady
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Do you have moobs? :o
FakeName123
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At least double Ds while sitting in my parents basement. Isn't that obvious?
EmpatheticLady
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Ohhh, right. All the men on G@G are pathetic basement dwellers with a shit ton of acne and orange, fake cheese-stained fingers from all those Cheetos they're shoving into their mouths.
FakeName123
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Finally you understood it. I am so proud *wipesasingletearoffofface*
EmpatheticLady
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*Hands you a tissue.* That's for your tear, not for when you masturbate to the demise of all the women that turned your "hot ass" down.
FakeName123
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Who said I am into women tho?
EmpatheticLady
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All those men that turned your sweet dick down.*
FakeName123
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You are such a bully. Sniff. I am going to go into a corner and cry my heart out while listening to emotional songs and writing poems at my wall.
EmpatheticLady
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Okay, go listen to Alanis Morissette. 😜
FakeName123
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I thought more about all those emo bands like The Used, Panic at the Disco, Silverstein and the likes.
EmpatheticLady
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Those also work to help you wallow.
FakeName123
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I will. Same reason my last girlfriend broke up with me. She said she already has a pussy and don't need another one :((((
EmpatheticLady
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... 😂 I'm going to hell for laughing at that, aren't I?
FakeName123
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I am there already for my humour, so take a seat right next to me.
FakeName123
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At least it's warm here and we have cocktails with little umbrellas.
EmpatheticLady
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Do they have chocolate chip cookies?
FakeName123
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I would assume they just melt away. Might end up kind of a sticky matter.
EmpatheticLady
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... this is sad news.
cth96190Guru
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I have found that letting a woman see my black Amex card can send her over the edge.
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EmpatheticLady
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Sounds like real nice women there, hah.
Mrwoo99
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Its okay... I like whores anyway.
cth96190
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I have found that every time that I have offered the card the eyes of the female behind the counter, by standing beside my table, have changed. The body language usually changes, too. It is female nature.
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Mrwoo99
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Why would does the black amex card stand for? Is it an account where you put 6 figure money in? Women fall in love with a guy who makes 6 figures.
cth96190
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@Mrwoo99 To qualify for a black American Express card, you need a net worth that is well into seven figures.
Mrwoo99
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... you making 7 figures? Jesus I bet your a big tax payer.
cth96190
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@Mrwoo99 Net worth is not income. - lol Real estate can have a market value into the seven figures, but produce an income of only a few per cent of that figure. I wish that I had a seven-figure income. :-)
cth96190
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@Mrwoo99 PS: I do not pay much tax, actually. Most of my tax liability is cancelled by the deductions that I can claim on interest on the loans used to purchase investment properties, as well as property taxes, maintenance, management fees and insurance. If I did have a seven-figure income, I would transfer ownership of the properties and my other meagre sources of income of a shelf company in a tax haven, then use the reciprocal taxation provisions of the Foreign Corporations Act to repatriate the income to the tax haven, without paying tax in Australia, then access the money via a Visa card.
feminismisnarcissismXper 6
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it's pretty good and true.
all me to retort:
How to get a man off without touching him:
1/ don't make it all about you. 2/ look at it.
lol
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EmpatheticLady
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So stare right at your dick the whole time? :P
feminismisnarcissism
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lol well.. just til it gets hard ;) but yes, it's a big turn on to watch a girl look at it
feminismisnarcissism
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I guess i was picturing a naked situation... I'm guessing you're thinking clothes. But it still applies except I'd change it to "glance" with clothes
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EmpatheticLady
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That's my point. Staring gets awkward after a while. xD
feminismisnarcissism
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i guess you can blink occasionally ;)
worldscolideMaster
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This is absolutely awesome!! thankfully i do all of this already. i just dont get why women get self conscious about their umm Down there parts.. i love them all. As long as they taste good..
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EmpatheticLady
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Thank you! Ahh, it's just one more of those body issues where there has been a standard set on what looks best and anything else is terrible.
worldscolide
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Yeah i dont buy in to that.. its like the breast size thing. I have never been the guy that says... Yeah those are too small.. There was another article i commented on about small breast shaming. Most men that i know dont care.. my final line in that one was "I love breasts, small big medium, size is irrelevant, Breasts are breasts, whats not to like". lol.
EmpatheticLady
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True, but then us women say the same thing about guys and their dick sizes. So long as it's not, like two inches erect, you should be good to go. :P
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worldscolide
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Right!!!
glock33sig357Xper 6
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Stimulate her mind intellectually and verbally tap into her sexual fantasies and she will wet her panties by the end of the day.
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EmpatheticLady
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You've got it, my friend.
TesticleMonsterXper 4
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i've had girls just randomly finger themselves to my voice over the phone. wasn't even talking about anything sexy. i even asked her to please stop. she did not.
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EmpatheticLady
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The struggle is real, huh?
TesticleMonster
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i don't know if its so much a struggle so much as a sloshing sound with some nasal grunting noises. i guess maybe she was struggling with it, i mean her breathing was all weird. she did not have a natural masturbating breathing pattern. it sounded very constipated.
EmpatheticLady
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She could've had a cold or sinus infection. Us ladies still get turned on when sick sometimes.
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TesticleMonster
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It was more the frequency of the breathing that was weird. it was very inconsistent. like the breathing equivalent of a heart murmur. like she was struggling to open packaging. anyway yeah i didn't follow any of these things. i did not have any reason to compliment her, she was a very poor communicator (obviously), i mostly just made fun of her and i had absolutely no reason to share my intelligence and ambitions with her. in fact i'm pretty sure my thoughts and feelings were absolutely irrelevant to her hornyness. it is so weird how girls seem to get more turned on the more i am actively repulsed by them.
JSmuveMaster
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TL;DR version
You gotta fuck her mind before you fuck her pussy. Get her neurons firing before you fire your load. Slap her mind before you slap that ass. Slip her a roofie before you smash that coochie. Wait wut?
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EmpatheticLady
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LMAO. Oh, good, you made the TL;DR for me. I was going to do that, but got too lazy last night to write it, haha. Most appreciated, sir! ;)
RJGraveyTrain
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... Well put. Well put. Well minus the roofie part.
akadatank44Guru
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Most definitely true. Talk about opening her mind to the real you and more intimacy. I think this goes hand in hand with relationship sex is that much better than a one night stand because you feel as if you want to spend you life with this person and you know them. And number 3 is spot on 😉
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EmpatheticLady
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Oh, for sure. This is more focused on dating and relationship sex versus one-night stands because, well... let's be honest, most guys don't care too much about the woman past that one night they have together, haha. Same goes for the woman, too.
akadatank44
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Lmao so true haha
ShaeNielsonGuru
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1: Be Jared Padalecki
2: Mission accomplished.
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EmpatheticLady
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That doesn't hurt at all. ;P
ScrambledagainExplorer
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As some have mentioned, this is great for when you with her. None of this stuff will necessarily attract her. There is a tragic implication to that, which I won't go into here.
But it's really good advice for men. I mean, men must know that a woman's mind is just as important to get into as the body.
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EmpatheticLady
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Right, I agree. As I've stated elsewhere, there are other important pieces to attracting and getting a woman. This myTake wasn't focused on that and doesn't guarantee she'll cum from doing just the five points listed. However, yes, I do feel that they are useful for men to keep in mind anyway.
LifeChoicesXper 4
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Maybe set her in the mood for one but by itself ur gonna get friendzoned. The next move after all of this is to... uhmm stick it in her belly button
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EmpatheticLady
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Oh, her belly button? So hot. 😋 No, but I get what you're saying. As mentioned elsewhere, yes, other pieces will need to be factored into attracting and getting a woman. Other attributes will help get her off, too, but I think these points above are some important ones to consider.
LifeChoices
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Yess, of coarse the belly button is the way to a womans heart. You need to make sure to give her all of these 👅🍑🌴💪🍭
RainbowFanGirlEditor
+1 y
Ahh. Cool take.
I wish I was apart of this contest.
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EmpatheticLady
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Thank you. :) There is always next time!
Mrwoo99Xper 6
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Just show her your bank statement if you have lots of money. That will be enough to get her squirting. Oh an by the way guys, when a girl mentions she wants a guy with ambition she means this '$$$' when you translate it in to English.
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EmpatheticLady
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Ambition does not equate to being rich at all for a good number of women. Perhaps some are after your bank account, but not all.
Mrwoo99
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You dont have to be rich, you can be a financially stable man with resources that women can take away from you by feminist laws being put down through a court order which favours women. Even after a 2 year committed relationship women can declare my resources like they have a right to do so. This is why MGTOW exists and we are only choosing to just use women for sex only instead. Commitment is too risky for men simple as.
Blueeyes2016
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Most girls nowadays, yeah I suppose that'll work
phoenix2000Xper 6
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4 made me melt for @yumix
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EmpatheticLady
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Haha. Interesting. 😝
ThriftyYoda
+1 y
Nice. Money is the anthem of success, so before we go out... what's your address?
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EmpatheticLady
+1 y
Oh, my. 😐 *Tip toes away.* Hahaha.
simxc
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Lana 👌
ModernDayCrusaderXper 5
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I thought this was gonna be about using telepathy to make my girlfriend squirt :/ JK! lol
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29 81My rebuttal...
Nope.. Women hate communication.. they hate intelligence.. they hate ambition... and they hate compliments.. and they can't stand a sense of humor. 100% wrong you are.
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#TeamBanana
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Huh, you know what? I just realized you are right, and I am wrong. If all of those points I listed above were true, women would like you. ;P
Dude they need compliments
Like this :
https://youtu.be/zi8ShAosqzI
@Omar5881 lmfao wtf is this bruh
I have no idea just found it on Youtube 😂
#TeamRJTeamRJTeamRJTeamRJTeamRJTeamRJTeamRJ #shamelessselfpromotion
@RJGraveyTrain Yaaaaassss! Tell him! #TeamRJ #TeamRJ #TeamRJ #TeamRJ #TeamRJ
My rebuttal...
https://i.imgur.com/PfQy2oH.gif
#eatyourheartout 😉
#eatsomethingelseout 😏
@redeyemindtricks Hey-o! 😉😋
"make witty, sexual jokes to combine with the above point about humor" ^^ just following directions bby
@redeyemindtricks Someone gets it!
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Great take!!!
Thank ya, ma'am! Thanks for reading!
None of this actually had anything to do with sex, and were in fact just blatant point about what women wish men would be.
Oh, but it does relate to sex and, sure, it does show certain things ladies prefer from men. Sex is a good bit of mental stimulation for most women. If you can do these things and make her feel at ease, it will be easier for her to let go and fully enjoy sex.
Sex shouldn't be about mental stimulation for anybody, because it's simply a mechanical method of gaining pleasure from the sex hormones released during intercourse from our nasty bits
I get your point, but men and women are wired differently after all. While you may be able to fuck by just seeing a woman undress, not the same can be said for women. An attractive man's body can be a turn-on, but we may be super worried about our own bodies and not wanting to feel vulnerable by having to strip down in front of him. That, in and of itself, can cause us to tense up and not fully enjoy sex, meaning we may not end up climaxing. Of course, this isn't true for every woman. This list is just something compiled from my own thoughts and from comments I've seen or heard from other females in different settings.
I'm going to jump in and say I very much so disagree with you. For men and women alike sex is very mental, considering the amount of chemicals released in the brain during sex, during the courting process, all that equate to the feelings of attachment, love, arousal, etc. In theory it's absolutely plausible that seemingly "unsexual" things like the material @EmpatheticLady presented could very well open a woman's mind up to seduction. For most women the art of seduction is largely mental, if it were just a manner of physical stimulation, more of us would exclusively get off ourselves.
@RJGraveyTrain Obviously it's TECHNICALLY mental, but that's for the sole reason that our minds control everything. It's our reproductive organs doing the work here.
If our minds control everything as you stated, then it is important to stimulate those as well as our genitals.
I don't think you understand what I'm saying here. The mind is stimulated by sex, not by a guy bring ambitious.
You contradicted yourself. "Our minds control everything." The reproductive organs can't work without a functioning mind, and simply touching up on a girl's lady bits if she isn't mentally and emotionally into what you're doing will not yield results unless you're going to ridiculous extents like using extreme forcible stimulation. You defeated your own argument.
Then you don't get what most women feel. Ambition is, in fact, sexy.
Quite sexy indeed @EmpatheticLady, there's no arousal in a man you're not emotionally compatible with.
@RJGraveyTrain Our mind controls our body, but can be influenced by some of the chemicals our body produces involuntarily to our conscious mind. I hardly defeated my own argument.
I believe you did though, you're going in circles and are trying to play shmantics here. Women, at least most of us, require emotional (mental) attraction to a man to even want to have sex with him to begin with. That's where the theory that "it's all physical" ultimately falters. Of course there will be exceptions, but if you went up to most women, and asked them if they could become aroused by a man that they weren't emotionally attracted to, who lacked all of the items listed above, that she'd even be willing to consider having sex with him. Orgasm obviously comes from physical stimulation, but the orgasm of the mind is ultimately what will get you there.
@RJGraveyTrain There is no such thing as orgasm of the mind that is not considered physical. I think the problem you're having here is that you somehow think the mind is separated from the body.
For the love of god... You're hopeless.
@RJGraveyTrain You're pathetically entranced in a lie.
Let me break this down so it's easier to understand then:
The mind and the body are linked. It's actually been discussed and proven in many different factions, I suggest you give this a read: www.psychologytoday.com/.../7-factors-affecting-orgasm-in-women
Before telling me that emotions play 0 part of women having orgasms. Lol
@RJGraveyTrain Thank you, haha. I was just about to link that article here. xD Twins.
Yep, basic knowledge needs to be shared it seems.
@RJGraveyTrain I actually used it in my research for this Take. ;)
@RJGraveyTrain Are you THAT stupid? I said that the mind and body are one. You're attempting to make up strawman arguments out of nowhere. Also, most women orgasm when RAPED. So mental stimulation isn't required.
Most women orgasm when raped eh? Somehow I feel like you're making that up considering 70% of women can't orgasm from penetration alone even with a committed partner. Somehow I doubt there is any proof that a rapist is making girls orgasm unless he is using extreme forced stimulation. I invite you, again, to read the article and get back to me.
I knew the rape argument was coming up. Okay, so it is true that not every case of orgasm comes from both physical and mental stimulation. The cases of rape for both men and women where they orgasm can prove that since the act is unwanted and not pleasurable mentally or emotionally for the person being raped. However, this myTake was not written for those unfortunate, horrible occurrences. It was written to explain to men who actually care about women's pleasure on how to better increase a female's sexual experience by feeding into her thoughts and emotions first.
Your argument was that women had to be stimulated both ways, which was incorrect. Entirely. That's really the end of it.
I didn't say "had" to be, but that they *want* to be stimulated both ways as it yields a higher chance of having an orgasm. Is that always the case? No, and you are right there.
I'd have to agree with @EmpatheticLady again, we both acknowledged that it wasn't necessary for all women, but as you can see even by the feedback on this take a lot of us agree. She never once stated concretely: YOU HAVE TO DO THIS OR... That's your own inability to understand what she clearly stated.
@RJGraveyTrain you plainly said it a few posts earlier.
I don’t believe I did, I believe I said: “For most women the art of seduction is largely mental, if it were just a manner of physical stimulation, more of us would exclusively get off ourselves” – MOST WOMEN not all. I’m not concretely implying this is the case for all women. And Women, at least most of us, require emotional (mental) attraction to a man to even want to have sex with him to begin with. That's where the theory that "it's all physical" ultimately falters. Of course there will be exceptions, but if you went up to most women, and asked them if they could become aroused by a man that they weren't emotionally attracted to, who lacked all of the items listed above, that she'd even be willing to consider having sex with him. – Notice how I use “most of us”, not all of us. Also not concretely claiming anything. I believe you are mistaken.
@RJGraveyTrain And I will add my piece where I said that the points on this list may help get her off, not that they would. "Well, these *suggestions may make it easier* for you later because it has been proven time and again that women have trouble getting there for a multitude of reasons, including psychological ones. If you can get her to relax her thoughts, ease her worries, and let her know you care, *you will have a higher chance of getting her to climax* in the bedroom, in the car, on the kitchen counter, or in the shower."
Been there done that, got with a guy when I was younger, so I'd know what sex was like. I wasn't really attracted to him in the slightest, he was fit but only knew him for the night. The next night we met up and had sex, my original thought process was it doesn't matter who's doing the touching it's still touching and that I would get off. However for the majority of that experience I was thinking of homework I had to do, when was this finally going to stop and how much money I was planning on spending and saving etc. It was then I realised how much I needed to get to know a person before being in bed together. So that my experience of it would be great.
So basically common sense.
You've got it!
Lol nice.
You forgot a key part: Know how to seduce your woman.
While for men it is a lot easier to just get sexually started, women tend to need foreplay before the actual foreplay. Teasing, looks, playfulness, subtle innuendos and all that. Just seducing her like on the first day you met. Make her feel special, emotional, desired, but also make her want to desire the man.
Excellent addition to this! That is very true and someone else on here noted that as well. You can have or do all of these things and still lack the sexual chemistry and connection if you do not know how to seduce her unfortunately.
Yeah. Unfortunately it is the aspect many men don't understand. Many women don't understand either that men and women are fundamentally different, but since men are easier to please it's not as obvious. Women simply do have different sexual cues and their entire sexuality functions differently. Understanding that and acting upon it is the best seduction a man can possibly have. Creating a mix of making her feel desired without putting her on a pedestial, being playful while assertive, giving her the trust to let go while also making her feel a bit of danger of strong uprising passion and ultimatively making her feel naked before even being naked. To be fair though, many women don't even know themselves what they actually want before their vagina starts throbbing telling them "I want this, now!".
That throbbing vagina feeling is quite ridiculous in a good way at times. xD And sometimes unexpected. It seems like you know what you are talking about, though. Perhaps you should write a myTake yourself about this! I'd be interested in reading what you have to say on the subject. :)
I actually did write a basic overview some time ago. Though it didn't have the emphasis on seduction, but was meant to give guys a general idea and go from there:
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a24617-what-do-women-want
I might also do a more in-dept one soon depending what topics I get in the battleroyal contest. For now I have to finish the Take for Art & Entertainment though.
Ah, link me to it when you finish it up. I'll check it out. :)
Which one you mean? About a more in-detail seduction or about your BattleRoyale competition (aka the one whose gonna crush ya sorry-ass)?
Both really, but that last comment of yours is comical, sweetheart. ;)
I know. It's easier to handle the upcoming loss with a smile, hun ;)
That's right. You keep telling yourself that when you lose.
The only option I have, if I lose, is blaming the judges for being biased and bribable. Someone gotta take the blame, 'duh.
Biased and bribable, eh? How so? :P
How else would I lose? Must be because they are bribable and because I don't have a nice pair of tits that I can allure the judges with.
I don't see myself or any of my team members showing off their tits either, bub. ;P
That's a bummer :o
Ahhhh, hahhh! I see. You just wanted us to show them off for your own greedy pleasure. Shame, sir. Shame on you.
I wanted to make it fairplay. Boobs vs Moobs. May the better win.
Do you have moobs? :o
At least double Ds while sitting in my parents basement. Isn't that obvious?
Ohhh, right. All the men on G@G are pathetic basement dwellers with a shit ton of acne and orange, fake cheese-stained fingers from all those Cheetos they're shoving into their mouths.
Finally you understood it. I am so proud *wipesasingletearoffofface*
*Hands you a tissue.* That's for your tear, not for when you masturbate to the demise of all the women that turned your "hot ass" down.
Who said I am into women tho?
All those men that turned your sweet dick down.*
You are such a bully. Sniff. I am going to go into a corner and cry my heart out while listening to emotional songs and writing poems at my wall.
Okay, go listen to Alanis Morissette. 😜
I thought more about all those emo bands like The Used, Panic at the Disco, Silverstein and the likes.
Those also work to help you wallow.
I will. Same reason my last girlfriend broke up with me. She said she already has a pussy and don't need another one :((((
... 😂 I'm going to hell for laughing at that, aren't I?
I am there already for my humour, so take a seat right next to me.
At least it's warm here and we have cocktails with little umbrellas.
Do they have chocolate chip cookies?
I would assume they just melt away. Might end up kind of a sticky matter.
... this is sad news.
I have found that letting a woman see my black Amex card can send her over the edge.
Sounds like real nice women there, hah.
Its okay... I like whores anyway.
I have found that every time that I have offered the card the eyes of the female behind the counter, by standing beside my table, have changed. The body language usually changes, too. It is female nature.
Why would does the black amex card stand for? Is it an account where you put 6 figure money in? Women fall in love with a guy who makes 6 figures.
@Mrwoo99 To qualify for a black American Express card, you need a net worth that is well into seven figures.
... you making 7 figures? Jesus I bet your a big tax payer.
@Mrwoo99 Net worth is not income. - lol Real estate can have a market value into the seven figures, but produce an income of only a few per cent of that figure. I wish that I had a seven-figure income. :-)
@Mrwoo99 PS: I do not pay much tax, actually. Most of my tax liability is cancelled by the deductions that I can claim on interest on the loans used to purchase investment properties, as well as property taxes, maintenance, management fees and insurance. If I did have a seven-figure income, I would transfer ownership of the properties and my other meagre sources of income of a shelf company in a tax haven, then use the reciprocal taxation provisions of the Foreign Corporations Act to repatriate the income to the tax haven, without paying tax in Australia, then access the money via a Visa card.
it's pretty good and true.
all me to retort:
How to get a man off without touching him:
1/ don't make it all about you.
2/ look at it.
lol
So stare right at your dick the whole time? :P
lol well.. just til it gets hard ;) but yes, it's a big turn on to watch a girl look at it
I guess i was picturing a naked situation... I'm guessing you're thinking clothes. But it still applies except I'd change it to "glance" with clothes
That's my point. Staring gets awkward after a while. xD
i guess you can blink occasionally ;)
This is absolutely awesome!! thankfully i do all of this already. i just dont get why women get self conscious about their umm Down there parts.. i love them all. As long as they taste good..
Thank you! Ahh, it's just one more of those body issues where there has been a standard set on what looks best and anything else is terrible.
Yeah i dont buy in to that.. its like the breast size thing. I have never been the guy that says... Yeah those are too small.. There was another article i commented on about small breast shaming. Most men that i know dont care.. my final line in that one was "I love breasts, small big medium, size is irrelevant, Breasts are breasts, whats not to like". lol.
True, but then us women say the same thing about guys and their dick sizes. So long as it's not, like two inches erect, you should be good to go. :P
Right!!!
Stimulate her mind intellectually and verbally tap into her sexual fantasies and she will wet her panties by the end of the day.
You've got it, my friend.
i've had girls just randomly finger themselves to my voice over the phone. wasn't even talking about anything sexy. i even asked her to please stop. she did not.
The struggle is real, huh?
i don't know if its so much a struggle so much as a sloshing sound with some nasal grunting noises. i guess maybe she was struggling with it, i mean her breathing was all weird. she did not have a natural masturbating breathing pattern. it sounded very constipated.
She could've had a cold or sinus infection. Us ladies still get turned on when sick sometimes.
It was more the frequency of the breathing that was weird. it was very inconsistent. like the breathing equivalent of a heart murmur. like she was struggling to open packaging. anyway yeah i didn't follow any of these things. i did not have any reason to compliment her, she was a very poor communicator (obviously), i mostly just made fun of her and i had absolutely no reason to share my intelligence and ambitions with her. in fact i'm pretty sure my thoughts and feelings were absolutely irrelevant to her hornyness. it is so weird how girls seem to get more turned on the more i am actively repulsed by them.
TL;DR version
You gotta fuck her mind before you fuck her pussy.
Get her neurons firing before you fire your load.
Slap her mind before you slap that ass.
Slip her a roofie before you smash that coochie. Wait wut?
LMAO. Oh, good, you made the TL;DR for me. I was going to do that, but got too lazy last night to write it, haha. Most appreciated, sir! ;)
... Well put. Well put. Well minus the roofie part.
Most definitely true. Talk about opening her mind to the real you and more intimacy. I think this goes hand in hand with relationship sex is that much better than a one night stand because you feel as if you want to spend you life with this person and you know them. And number 3 is spot on 😉
Oh, for sure. This is more focused on dating and relationship sex versus one-night stands because, well... let's be honest, most guys don't care too much about the woman past that one night they have together, haha. Same goes for the woman, too.
Lmao so true haha
1: Be Jared Padalecki
2: Mission accomplished.
That doesn't hurt at all. ;P
As some have mentioned, this is great for when you with her. None of this stuff will necessarily attract her. There is a tragic implication to that, which I won't go into here.
But it's really good advice for men. I mean, men must know that a woman's mind is just as important to get into as the body.
Right, I agree. As I've stated elsewhere, there are other important pieces to attracting and getting a woman. This myTake wasn't focused on that and doesn't guarantee she'll cum from doing just the five points listed. However, yes, I do feel that they are useful for men to keep in mind anyway.
Maybe set her in the mood for one but by itself ur gonna get friendzoned. The next move after all of this is to... uhmm stick it in her belly button
Oh, her belly button? So hot. 😋 No, but I get what you're saying. As mentioned elsewhere, yes, other pieces will need to be factored into attracting and getting a woman. Other attributes will help get her off, too, but I think these points above are some important ones to consider.
Yess, of coarse the belly button is the way to a womans heart. You need to make sure to give her all of these 👅🍑🌴💪🍭
Ahh. Cool take.
I wish I was apart of this contest.
Thank you. :) There is always next time!
Just show her your bank statement if you have lots of money. That will be enough to get her squirting. Oh an by the way guys, when a girl mentions she wants a guy with ambition she means this '$$$' when you translate it in to English.
Ambition does not equate to being rich at all for a good number of women. Perhaps some are after your bank account, but not all.
You dont have to be rich, you can be a financially stable man with resources that women can take away from you by feminist laws being put down through a court order which favours women. Even after a 2 year committed relationship women can declare my resources like they have a right to do so. This is why MGTOW exists and we are only choosing to just use women for sex only instead. Commitment is too risky for men simple as.
Most girls nowadays, yeah I suppose that'll work
4 made me melt for @yumix
Haha. Interesting. 😝
Nice. Money is the anthem of success, so before we go out... what's your address?
Oh, my. 😐 *Tip toes away.* Hahaha.
Lana 👌
I thought this was gonna be about using telepathy to make my girlfriend squirt :/ JK! lol
Hahaha. I'm just a humble female, not a magician.