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How to give a good blowjob?

(WARNING GRAPHIC) My boyfriend has never cum while getting a blowjob, and not just from me none of his past girlfriends have been able to make him cum via a blow job either. He can cum during sex no problem, but not during a BJ. I don't know what I can do to help and make him enjoy it more. I feel like I've tried everything I twist my hand, I lick the head, I play with his balls. I've used no hands, one hand, or both hands at the same time. He's kind of large which makes it harder, but I make sure not to use teeth. One time I tried giving him a blow job for a solid 45 minutes and nothing. I've asked him and he told me that I've been the best and the closest, but he doesn't know why he can't get all the way there. I don't know what else to do. This is something that I want to be able to do for him. Please help
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Most Helpful Girls

  • (Graphic) does your boyfriend masterbate a lot? If yes then tell him to stop for a week or so and then go down on him first thing and watch how he cums in seconds. If he doesn't masterbate a lot thats okay, I use my tongue and stimulate the frenulum first, it's like a clitoris for guys, you can Google where it's located then I take my mouth and go really deep like all the way in (I can deep throat) and make sure I really lubricate him properly with my spit, then I take both hands and give him a slow hand job whole stimulating his frenulum with my tongue and then I incorporate my mouth and suck and move back and forth with my hands still holding on and I move my hands in sync with my mouth and start off really slowly then go deeper into your mouth, keep your tongue at the back of your mouth so you avoid gagging and then keep going faster and deeper, my boyfriend also had problems cumming but now I do this and he cums instantly

    • That sounds fantastic try using yoir tongue as you are doing that last part

  • Suck on his balls, make it sloppy, use your saliva as a lube so you can slide his dick through your mouth and hand more smoothly, when you suck his dick play with his balls too, use lots of tongue on the head, and suck with your tongue out, helps with gag reflex and his dick will go inside your mouth at a different angle. You need to keep trying to get creative until you find something that gets him off. It's possible it just hasn't happened for him yet.

  • guys might need to find bjs appealing to start with.. Maybe it's partly the scenario that makes a men come from a bj..

    Your boyfriend must be a boob type of guy

    • no he's an ass guy

    • Why would boob guys like bjs less?

    • Okay well there you have it, he's an asshole type of guy

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  • Try relaxing and giving him a little control and asking him to tell you when you do something that’s really working for him. Sounds like you’ve tried everything else.

Most Helpful Guys

  • There are many ways to bring a guy close to orgasm. I prefer she uses both mouth and hands. During the work up, she bobs snd sucks at the head of my penis while stroking in sync with one hand and massaging my balls with the other. Once she starts, she never slows or pauses because I will lose ground on arousal toward orgasm. When I start to buck, she "goes frantic", bobbing and sucking faster and stroking the shaft independently as fast as she can. When I start to cum, she stops bobbing but keeps sucking and stroking until ejaculation ends. Sometimes, I like her to continue sucking (but not bobbing) for a while after I'm finished. Seems simple enough but an excellent blow job is rare and wonderful. I cum from this every time in under 10 minutes. By the way, deep throating is a porn antic that does not improve a blow job. Don't bother with it.

  • Honestly, with some people it's just like a mental block.

    Though some men may enjoy a blowjob, they may not enjoy it enough to orgasm from it.

    It's not you or his exes, it's just his own preference whether he knows it himself or not.

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  • What people seem to not get here is that bjs are not every men's thing. Some prefer giving then receiving.

  • Have you tried sucking the head like a lollipop?

  • Sometimes it just doesn't happen that way. Different feeling and stimulation required. Nothing to do with you I'd say. I have that issue as well.

  • Its in his mind. Not his thing.

  • Add me and Ill do my best to explain what you need to do

  • Go to a porn site and watch tutorial. Then incorporate it. Better yet, watch it while your doing it..

  • BJ is good stimulation, but I can see how it may not be enough. It's no big deal. As long as it's pleasurable, go for it.

  • I've never cum from a bj either

  • Is he circumcised?

    • yes, he is

    • So it's clear why he doesn't cum.

  • your teeth touch it

  • I have the same thing, a girl once told me that about 20% of men can't cum from just a BJ.

  • Talk again, you won't find an absolute technique. Only him can tell you what he likes. Make him just understand he should not be afraid/ashamed to tell you.

  • Really you need to get him to guide you while you're doing it

  • You get him ready to cum before you blow him. Edge him first then finish him with a blow job. Just get the first one out of the way.

  • You chew on it a little, he'll LOVE IT!!

  • The way me and my boyfriend do it is that. I let him use my mouth any way he wants. And that gets him to cum everytime

  • is this the most important thing to do for him, really !!!

    • I just really want to cause he will go down on me a lot, and I want to be able to return the favor. I also want to be able to because if I'm sore I want to still get him off

    • I never had sex sorry no experience

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