How to maintain a good erection?

[Anonymous]

So a few days ago I decided to hook up with a girl. We have a great chemistry between us when it comes to sex. We were so into it that our foreplay session was itself about 3 hours, and when the real game was about to start, I couldn't maintain an erection for long.
I couldn't figure out what was wrong. I'm a fit guy who gets healthy erections but when it came to sex I couldn't maintain a nice erection. Though i managed somehow to make her experience enjoyable but I couldn't enjoy it fully.
Was it because I was "hard" for 3 hours during the foreplay and my pelvic floor muscles got tired?
Or I'm too much addicted to porn?
(I don't get tons of sex, this was like 5th or 6th time for me and I've managed to maintain nice erections there too. Out of all these numbers I've ejaculated only once :') )

[PenkWing]

You would need a doctor’s opinion on this one, if you’re worried. You said that you had an erection for three hours, which seems to suggest that you are physically able to have one. I don’t think that pelvic floor strain plays a role in this one. Let’s make it easy: for most men who experience erection issues during sexy times, the cause tends to be psychological. It could be performance anxiety, or anxiety in general, or high stress levels in your life. Given your story, I would guess that performance anxiety is very likely. If that is a case, you can work to identify the source of your anxiety (do you want to be seen as masculine by your partner? Do you think you will be judged? Do you have some standards about performing sex that are not realistic?) and offer yourself reassurance. It’s natural not to have an erection at times and that could be a good time to do different type of play in bed. If your lover is insensitive about it, they are not worth your time. When I had a health issue that made my erection less reliable to maintain, I only ever met women who would understand and still enjoy our time together. If there is something you can do, I bet it’s working with your emotions and communicate your worry to your partner to find acceptance.

[Asker]

Yes sir! She was very much okay with that. She was really supportive. Maybe it's performance anxiety, I shouldn't be watching more porn.

[PenkWing]

Sounds great! Yeah, porn might give you a very off standard. You can take it as entertainment, but not as a depiction of realistic sex 😉

[Asker]

Of course, real sex is wayyyy different from porn. What i believe is, i guess i'm too much used to porn and hence my erections are kinda linked to them.. (And i watch some selective porn based on the models.. Bruh i need to stop this 😂😭😭)

[PenkWing]

Oh yeah. Time to find other thinks that get you hot 😂

[Asker]

I know right :'( xD

[ChrisMaster69]

You may need to go for a medical check up.

You could have caused some damage.

Cut the foreplay down, cut down or cut out the porn and get a medical check up.

A bit longer and it would be definitely a hospital trip.

[Asker]

Your reply made me kinda worry, sir. Could I please know what damage are you talking about? I'm already trying to cut down porn, and waiting for the next time to start sex early. What else shall I do?

[ChrisMaster69]

Yes erections hitting around 4 hours are an indication of priapism, yours is just under that and could have damaged yourself. Usually we get erections for a while, then a semi, then erection etc, with it taking seconds to go from semi to fully hard.

[Asker]

Omg, this is something new. Thank you so much for the information sir.

[MsTaniaUncensored]

I am not a doctor but I suspect no man should have an erection for three straight hours. If you ran for three hours youd be exhausted right? Maybe cut the foreplay a bit. That seems excessive.

[DonkeyDan]

Heavy porn usage can cause a desensitisation to visual stimulation. Also being hard for a very long time in one session can be part of the problem.

[Wise4myage]

You had way to much fore play in my opinion and your body got tired.