How to make him last longer?

My friends with benefits is fairly experienced and shouldn’t have much issue with this, however he has this issue when it comes to me. I've been doing kegals since i was 13 and so I’ve obviously reaped the benefits. This makes it very hard for him to last long. How do I make him last longer in bed?
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It seems like i should update this question with more intimidate details so you know our situation. Everytime we are together he makes sure i get off at least 3 times before he ever puts it in. I usually give him oral beforehand. With or without oral, it takes less than a minute for him to feel like he's about there and so he pulls out and has to collect himself before he tries to continue or gives up because he has a fear of getting me pregnant. We wear condoms every time.
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Even if i get him off beforehand from oral or something, it still takes about the same amount of time for him for him to finish when he’s inside. He says im extremely tight and that its really hard to not go instantly. I feel kind of bad about it, but obviously there's not much i can do about that. I just want to be able to have proper vaginal sex with him without worrying about this issue even though at the end of the day we’re both satisfied
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  • He's a lucky guy to feel that for sure. I'd say the responsibility is on him since you seem to do everything you can to make him last longer. He probably thinks you're extremely attractive as well which shortents the amount of time he can hold it without coming off. Even though he's experienced, he needs to pravtise more on what to think while he's inside you. Tell him to think about something which is not sexual or even a turn off. He shouldn't look at you&your pussy much during the interaction. I suggest you turning on the TV so he can watch it and don't talk dirty at all. Hope this helps.

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  • Maybe have you on top so you are in control and go more slowly. If he is about to cum pull out and let him relax for a minute then go again. This is a process really and it will take a while before he can hold it. It's mostly a mental thing and he is probably pushing himself more than he realizes and not relaxing.

Most Helpful Girls

  • You can't. That's just his shitty body. Best to find a different friends with benefits because that's just his flaw your gunna have to deal with.

    • go for round 2 3

    • Guys like that can't go again after 1 round

    • Disagree its all about practice he can practice edging to be in control

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  • Learn his signals so you can change positions or slow things down when he's getting close.

    • I know his signals, but when i say its quick i mean he can go for 30 seconds and then he needs to get out so he doesn’t go inside of me.

    • Oh that is quick... does he wear a condom? If not, that might help him last longer as condoms can dull the sensation. I believe there are also numbing creams or gels available that he can use. Those might affect your sensitivity, but if it's contained within the condom, it would probably be okay. He can also get himself off a little while before you have sex. Guys usually last longer the second round. And he should get you to orgasm before penetration :-)

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  • Partially it’s a mental challenge for guys. Something you can try is just have him lie down on his back and then simply play with his dick for a while. No intentions to make him cum, no pressure for him to pleasure you. Tell him it’s ok to go soft or get hard. If he happens to cum it’s ok, you can keep playing after some time. The whole idea is he learns to relax and mentally it’s not ‘go go go!’ Anytime his dick is touched.

  • He could try edging which will teach him how to control his point of no return... probably best if he did while masturbating at first so he can get totally in tune with it.

    • to your update and your other slightly different worded questions on the same topic lol... I'll just say... okey dokey :)

  • It’s a great compliment to cum early, obviously you are very tight, but he should get hard again and he will last longer, it happened to me with a girl before and I usually made her cum with my second sex until I got a better handle, just give him time

  • Wow... just wow..

  • Teach him to control his orgasm by edging himself to the edge but not to cum

  • in your up date you are already doing everything i would suggest, maybe some desensitizing cream and a rubber, if you don't use the rubber the cream will affect you too