How to make my boyfriend last longer?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend finishes too fast and Im laying there ready for round two and he's like give me time. I dont know what to do I try and and change up the position but even with round two he still comes fast. He told me" Its been awhile" So thats why he comes quick but I never come and he knows that. I dont know what to do. He said its my fault cause Im tight down there and he comes faster but its not my fault he can control it. Cause we he's masterubating it takes him way longer to cum then from sex. Sex he's quick and then I wait then we do it again. What can I do to make him last longer? He keeps wanting to try anal and I tried one time and it was painful even with lube and a condom. We didn't even get it all the way in. I stopped cause it hurt so much. He wants to try again but I can't not right now. How can we make anal less painful?

[islands7]

Anal is NOT your solution, it's HIS wish to experiment with your body.
Anal is even TIGHTER than vag, so this idea has nothing to do with your pleasure.
Enough on that.

This problem is shared equally and of course complicated by being young, self-involved and not really in love... perhaps more "in lust".
The solution begins with YOU getting the big-O first, THEN he can do what he likes (except anal)
Through this simple solution, he'll acquire better management of his equipment and both will get a big-O

He needs more experience and research to do better in bed so he won't send more BS guilt your way, instead he can quote from facts that may help all concerned.
That said, there is some truth in everything, so your task is to say NO when you're not turned on, as this makes it impossible for you hold up your end, which is to foster a state of erotic mind that will allow you/him to achieve a big-O every time.

Also consider
erotic stories,
role playing,
much MORE foreplay,
vibrators & other toys

[summiter]

He needs to get you off during foreplay. Teach him how to give you great oral sex. He needs to get you to orgasm before he enters you. If he still comes too fast after round two, what about a round three or four, have you tried that?

Perhaps give him a handjob before sex as that might slow him down.

If anal with tons of lube still hurts, don't do it.

[Anonymous]

He sees sex as a one way street, ending with him getting off. You need to talk to him about being less selfish. Tell him that you aren't enjoying sex that much.
Take control and go slow when he starts to show signs of about to cum.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he's not very concerned about your enjoyment. Maybe you need to experiment with things that are pleasing to you before just doing anything he feels like.

[truthbeknown]

Wife and I have our regular foreplay, then I go down on her until she cums. Then we have sex until I cum. Usually this is very satisfying for both of us! Try that order next time and see how that works for you.

[erock13]

Smack his cock with a ruler on every out thrust..
but seriously your finger nails on his scrotum would do the trick, he gets close "scratch"

[Anonymous]

He needs to get you to orgasm before penetration. That way, even if he's quick, you're still (somewhat) satisfied.

As far as ways to get him to last longer, he needs to focus. Sometimes it's hard (it happens to every guy), but you need to be patient with him. He can't help it.

There are some ways for him to help, though. Guys can do kegel-like exercises - when he's peeing, he can stop the stream suddenly, and this will strengthen his ejaculating muscles. When he gets the hang of it, he can do those exercises whenever he wants. Should allow him to control his orgasm better.

Then there's practicing during masturbation. He can bring himself close to climax, and then hold off. That way, he can understand the signals his body is giving him, and he can do better at controlling them.

He can also practice with a rubber vagina - it mimics the feel of a vagina for him, and if he uses that (with the above method), then he might be able to control himself better when he's inside the real thing.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he's not used to a vagina yet. He was probably really fast with his hand as a kid but over time he got used to it. Option one have a lot more sex or option two just make sure you get off during foreplay