Depends why it's too big. I never adjust to anything beyond 7 inches, if it hits the end of me then I just feel abdominal pain. You have to do certain positions in that case, and tell the guy to stop at a certain point.
I've had a partner for 1.5 years who's much thicker than anyone I've been with and he's a bit longer than average. The length isn't a problem because he's natural/uncut so his head doesn't feel as hardened/shrunken (circumcision shrinks the head due to skin cell changes) it's bigger and a bit more spongey so that doesn't hurt. But I had to get used to the thickness. It hurts if it goes in too quickly sometimes. But your body adapts. It's not that your vagina becomes bigger permanently - it's moreso your brain knowing what to expect and getting used to it.
I used to feel a lot of pain (hitting the end plus sandpaper like feeling and stretching pain) with ex partner. He had a smaller penis than my current partner, and my current partner doesn't hurt me. Natural/uncircumcised aren't dry and rough and they just don't cause those kinds of pains in my experience even if bigger than average.
after the pain went away and you got used to it - was it the most enjoyable penetration you had? and how was going back to a slimmer penis?
@Averageguy1712 I've only been with 3 guys. First was very slim, second was average thickness and my partner now is thicker than average with a larger head as well. I find my current partner the best, but I'm also very in love with him. I think his penis does stimulate me more though. In certain positions, I can feel a lot more than in the past. But a big part of it is also that he's uncut. It gives a much nicer more stimulating feeling than circumcised penises for me. But I fell in love with him before I knew anything about his penis, and he was insecure and thought he had a small penis, so I prepared myself for that but it was all in his mind. So it doesn't affect women falling in love or being really attracted. I wanted him so badly even when he kept telling me he's probably somewhat smaller than average. He turned out to be thick though.
Whitewave, I didn't imply you chose your partner by penis size. And you getting the nicest feeling has nothing to do with him being uncut (just a scientific fact, if you'd like I would send you the relevant data), it's just because of his girth. But you know, a lot of women say they don't feel as much from penentration compared to clitoral stimulation because the vagina doesn't have as many nerve endings. Does that feeling of penentration you get from your partner make a big difference in your overall sexual satisfaction?
Which are you having trouble with, the girth or length? If it's the length try positions where you can control the depth by clenching your buttcheeks and thighs like spooning, laying on your tummy with him on top of you or doggy but keep your knees together.
Also going to go against the grain - if you produce enough natural lubrication don't use any lube! The additional wetness makes controlling his thrusting much, much harder and there is a higher chance he'll go too deep and hit your cervix.
If it really is too long though, you can get a ring or donut from the sex job to help as a visual aid of when he needs to stop.
Best thing I've found though, is an orgasm or two before penetrative sex helps ALOT! It aids lubrication, helps you relax and the endorphins can help bridge that line between pleasure and pain.
It's the cervix you hit, I didn't know it's name. It's not so pleasant for the man either. Being told to stop, as flattering as it is to be told you're too big. You can't just give it loads and have a great time. Hitting the cervix, is kinda hard on the bellend. I used to get told I'm not allowed doggy (I love that one) she always wanted it sideways :/ Standing up was fun but she found it too painful. Sideways the man just can't get all the way in, seems tame. You're right the woman on lying on her front with the man on top pulling hair and holding down is good for both parties.
@John182 I've found doggy works as long as she keeps her knees together - when she flexes her thighs and ass it can restrict how deep he can go
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When she controls the depth he can let go and go for it.
I found standing up with higher heels or on a step to work well. My husband is almost a ft taller than me so I already need heels for it to work, I just chose an inch or two higher so he doesn't bottom out.
Everyone's different 😊 It's all about working around out physical limitations to find what works, but so many people get too embarrassed and won't move outside the normal when really it's all just a bit of fun
Lucky husband. When we did it standing up, I just took her and held her up with my hands and... Hence the bottoming out lol good term! It was all heated and quick with torn clothes etc. I wanted to go deep. I guess she was more submissive than you, not controlling the frust when it came to doggy. I'm glad you and your other half worked it out. I'm sure with practice this question giver will too. On the bright side the woman gets it longer when the man can't give it the full length.
I had that problem before. It will be quite uncomfortable at first but your body will adjust with time. My advice a lot of foreplay but mainly no rush or rough sex the first times... It will adjust eventually downstairs unless u have sex sparsely with him
I have this problem too. Even after 6 years sometimes after a long session im sore. Try lots of foreplay and dont be affraid to use lube. Also start on top so you can control the speed while you loosen up.
Most dudes who have a larger than normal size dick are aware of the need to go easy. But if not, ask him to ease up on his thrusts. Also be aware that in time you'll open up some to be able to more easily take more of his length. Also use lube. Its best to be as wet as possible. Have him finger you and use his tongue to help you along. Another idea would be for you to b on top. Then u have a little control over how deep he can penetrate you. n remember he doesn't need to penetrate you with his entire length.
Sore... Other making sure you are fully aroused and wet (lube when you aren't) there isn't really much you can do. You body will adjust for it after a while.
If it was length issue there are positions that limit depth.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!If he's hitting cervix, try positions like spoon where your butt will prevent him from going too deep.
these other responses are cringe. try more lube maybe though. :/
just tell him not to jam it all the way in
unless its girth, then more foreplay and ease in with him eating you and fingering adding more until you stretched out to his size but its still a good idea to go more slow and intimate
Do so much foreplay which make you enough wet and open to receive the big tool and you can also apply some lube or gel..
I allways love lube buy some it's amazing. I lube everything up now, you can get all diffrent flavours and ones that provide extra stimulation Too.😝😆😝
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