How to not feel super insecure sitting on my bf’s face?

This is really personal but I didn’t have anyone else to tell it to. My boyfriend doesn’t really like laying flat while eating me out mostly has to do with preference and he’s a lot taller I’m 5’4 he’s 6’1. So he basically told me he wants me to ride his face which makes me super uncomfortable pretty much because I’m on his face I don't know I feel super exposed.
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  • Having my partner sit on my face had long been one of my most profound fantasies; I had been wishing for it for years. She had the same hang ups as you but finally did it a few months ago. She came *really* hard and cried afterward from the intensity of the experience.

    Logically, I don’t understand her/your concerns. It’s just another position in which to perform a sex act you otherwise enjoy. Or presumably so. But given common female body insecurities and perhaps the psychology of the position given the “normally passive female role” in sex, maybe it’s a lot to ask.

    You’re wondering how to get past your anxieties. Believe me, I wish I had a silver bullet! But I do think it’s important to realize a few things…

    No matter how you feel about your body, he loves everything about it, from the softness of your skin to your feminine curves and contours to your personal taste and smell. What you see as imperfections and things you need to work on, he sees as qualities that make you unique. If he wants this position, there is *nothing* about your body that turns him off. You can confidently take comfort in that knowledge.

    If you’re worried about hurting him or making it difficult to breathe, you can allay those fears. He’ll have little difficulty getting air. His nose will be free to breathe most of the time and, when not, he can easily nudge you as needed. From that standpoint, it’s not much different than performing oral in any other position. If he got seriously panicked, he’d throw you off long before passing out.

    Don’t be afraid to put all your weight on him. You can even grind forcefully; it doesn’t hurt. Being “smothered” in pussy is a big part of what appeals to him. Undoubtedly, he wants to give you pleasure as well. If he’s requesting this, he knows what he’s getting himself into. You said the idea makes you feel exposed. It certainly will do that, but it’s the next higher level for building trust and intimacy.

    If you pluck up the courage, I hope that you find it to be worth the effort. Good luck!

  • Try to think about how much pleasure you are giving him because its extremely hot and sensual for a guy to have a girls ass in his face, to look at her ass and pussy while he's eating her , etc. Most men love doing a 69 which is almost the same thing.

    • Ok I’ll attempt to try tonight and that was another reason why I felt uncomfortable having my ass in his face. I don’t think 69 would really work though.

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  • I have this insecurity too! I'm just a bit self conscious about my body, and 69 or riding on a guys face definitely exposes a lot. pm me we can talk about this cause I still have trouble with this.

  • I have done it before with a guy I knew in college. Why does it make you so uncomfortable?

    • My biggest worry while sitting on face was that I might suffocate him which never happened.

    • OMFG 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I’m actually dying “I might suffocate him”

    • That’s one of my worries I feel like he won’t be able to breath I also have thicker thighs 😅

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  • You will be super exposed, but you would be too if you were on you back and legs on his shoulders. And that is a lot of the beauty of it. A guy love seeing that so close up! You are making him super happy so do not be uncomfortable.

  • It's super fun.
    I love it, but yeah I get your fear of suffocating him.
    As long as his arms are free he should be able to push you off if it comes to that.
    If he dies at least it was a good way to go.

  • First step to getting over an insecurity is deciding that you actually want to get over it, and not just wanting to complain.

    (I'm not saying that you just want to complain, but there are people who do that and just want you to sit there and listen, and also don't want to hear of any actual solutions to their problems).

    2nd step is to figure out what exactly makes you insecure about it.

    Ex: In highschool, I was insecure about my looks. Extremely insecure, lol. I'd always be checking a mirror every couple hours, heading to the bathroom in the middle of each class just to make sure I still looked good. It was killing me, being like that. Then one day I was overseas for a vacation and decided to get a haircut. Through some weird miscommunication (I had no clue what the barber was saying, so I just nodded and smiled), I ended up with a buzzcut.

    I didn't notice it until a couple weeks later, but when I did, I felt amazing! Hadn't felt the need to check my appearance every hour, on the dot, at all in 2 weeks! Turns out it wasn't that I was self-conscious about my looks in general, I'm just extremely self-conscious about how my hair looks when it gets really long. (There's always that one part of my hair that just curls up and sticks out when I have long hair, it annoys me, lol).

    Anyway, long story short, figure out what EXACTLY about it makes you feel "super exposed".
    Is it him seeing "that" part of you? Is it him being able to look up at you while he's doing it? Is it you being able to look at him while he's doing that? Etc, etc.

    Once you figure out exactly what it is, you can try to figure out ways around it or try to fix it.

    Ex: If it's because you can look down and see him, then you can wear a blindfold for awhile until you're comfortable with it. If it's because he can look up and see you, then he can wear a blindfold until you get used to it.

    Alternatively, you can try a different position. If he doesn't want to lay flat and you're uncomfortable sitting on his face, you could:
    1) Try having him do it from behind you
    2) Pull your legs up closer to your head and have him do it to you that way
    Etc, etc

    ... Well, this is incredibly awkward. I am really glad I'm not saying all of this out loud and face-to-face with anybody. My face would be redder than a tomato

  • Do you have a sister?

    • Yea I do she’s a lot older in her 30s why?

  • You REALLY need to G R O W U P !!! You sound like a 2 yr old who's afraid of cotton candy.

    • You can stop acting like a dick that also works. I clearly feel uncomfortable and I’m sure I’m not the only person that has felt that way

    • @loveslongnails shut ur mouth buddy. The girl is saying she feels uncomfortable instead of acting like a little bitch if u have nothing good to say then leave the girl alone u monkey

    • @jamie1898 Really child? She's old to enough to sex, and she goes on GAG to ask how to "not feel super insecure sitting on my bf's face" ? And I'm a little bitch? You fucking kidding me? You think you can get answers to your own insecurities like that on GAG? I gave her great advice... grow up. If you "mature" enough to sit on his face, you should be mature enough to get past your little girl discomfort. You twit.

  • Making love should feel great for both of you. It's not a fashion show or any type of competition. Have fun. My girlfriend had the same issue and we overcame it by having sex with the lights off or by blindfolding her

  • How do you sit? can you describe it?

  • You shouldn’t be doing that kind of stuff before marriage in the first place.

    • Well I am so just leave

    • You can’t delete opiniond lmao So I can’t “leave”

  • Ride it.

    • I feel insecure about it

    • Well don’t. Trust me he will love it.

  • Do it infront of a mirror so you can see him I guess

  • If you screw him with a strapon you will never feel insecure again

  • what don't you like about it?

  • That´s the point of it. Try it, it´s amazing. I get multiple orgasms from it, and I love it when he fucks me with his tongue while I´m cumming.

    • Do u do all the work while riding his face or does he move around too? Cause it would seem abit tough for him to move around since ur body weight is resting on his face

    • @jamie1898 I don´t weigh down at all, no or very little weight is on his face, so he does move around some, but mostly it´s me doing the moving around.