How to not have anxiety around neighbors potentially hearing us have sex?

Our neighbors I’m pretty sure can hear us we live in a townhouse. They’re like in their early 50s and the wall is so thin it’s aggravating I can hear their phone calls most times in our bedroom. I’ve started having anxiety around having sex with my boyfriend now because I feel like they can hear us and they’re old😕
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Superb Opinion

  • Being in your 50's is middle-aged, not old. Believe it or not, your neighbors probably have sex with some regularity. Rearrange your bedroom so the bed is against the opposite wall. Play music when you are doing the horizontal dance. Go downstairs to have sex.

Most Helpful Guy

  • You can be quieter, which will help. However, don't let the possibility of someone hearing keep you from having good sex. Everybody knows you fuck anyway, and sooner or later, they will hear you anyway. So focus on having good sex, and don't be distracted.

Most Helpful Girl

  • Well their age doesn’t matter does it? It’s not as if they don’t know that people have sex ha ha. I’m sure they will be expecting you to enjoy. However if it’s still worries you a little how about having some music playing quietly in the background.

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  • I'm old. Don't worry about it. They are probably having sex too.

  • I always found it amusing. An ex of mine was always competing with the neighbors to see who CV ould be louder. 😆

  • Blast some music to drown it out. Otherwise, you can try channeling your inner egotist and pretend no one else matters more than you. Only you and your lover exist in that moment

  • Downside to a Townhouse, Condo's or Apartments.

    Background noise, white noise or something to blot it out.

    • Yeaaa it sucks!!!

  • Can't help it
    Either go out with ur boyfriend... or care less bout what they think

  • Let them hear. Live your own life.

  • Try to be more quiet when you have sex, or just have sex in the shower. You could also play music or turn on the TV.

    • I don’t like shower sex and I struggle with sleeping super light so we chose not to put a tv in our bedroom but I’ll try music

    • Are you sure you aren't also just being too self conscious? After all, neighbors have to expect to hear sounds like that. What about having sex when they aren't home?

  • I kinda have the same problem but the way I got through it was just not think about it. At first I tried to work around their schedule when they was gone to have sex but that was too much of a hassle and my girl didn't like it.

  • Well sex is natural part of life. moan like you never has before enjoy yourself. Dont let it get to you.

  • I would make it loud. After all it might get their blood going after so long. Lol

  • Trust me it no problem I'll bet when you having sex
    he masturbating thinking it him fucking you

    Keep up date

  • Just turn on some music and realize anyone who really wants to hear is a perv anyway. People have ways of blocking out unwanted noise and honestly your anxiety only hurts you and his enjoyment in the end

  • Why would you have anxiety about this?

    • Because I don’t want anyone to hear

  • No one cares its in your head I've héard neighbours and room mates having sex and they heard me and we say nothing to each other

  • So what, let them hear, just enjoy yourself and don’t worry what the neighbors think.

  • you can turn on some music... Radio, TV... besides I doubt they would care, or notice.

  • so turn your radio on

  • Sex is a normal thing to do, u wouldn’t worry about them hearing u shower would u? Just do it!

  • its kinky tho

  • i envy you that are in your early 20s

    • I’m 25 pretty much next week... mid 20s lol but 30 is still young!

    • reason why, is because i was single for most of my 20s, single for all of my teens, so i sometimes get bitter and have feelings of resentment, get depressed, whenever i see teen couples and early 20s couples

    • my guess is, you had your first boyfriend in high school or in your teens

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