How to overcome insecurities in sex?

I have a new boyfriend which he said he was a fubu before with other girls but yeah he is serious with me now but sometimes I get insecure because I only had one partner before and we were both virgin and I can say my experience wasn't enjoyable and at the same time I also think my ex didn't enjoy much due to we dont have experience

Now since I have a new person here
I am scared he might leave me due to the fact I am inexperienced and kinda like a virgin if you say ahahahahah (jk)

When kissing I'm still a bit shy i can just smack or kiss in the cheeks but further than that i die from embarrassment and my confidence go brrt down how do overcome this
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  • Just have passion. Honestly though I had more partners than I honestly can remember, they didn't make me better in bed. It was the relationships I had where I actually cared about my partners pleasure that made me please women better, and the women I knew who would please me the best. Well, I mean other than the excitement of screwing a new woman happening again and again.
    If you let the excitement for your partner overcome that nervousness, and stay open about what makes both of you feel good, and uncomfortable, you'll both be just fine.

Most Helpful Guy

  • If he would leave u for that reason he is not serious about the relationship

    • Thank you boggboss ! That is something I shall see if we reach that stage in the future

Most Helpful Girl

  • Just let things happen naturally. I was insecure too when I first started having sex again after not having sex for over several years with the first guy I did it with. It was nerve wracking at first until I realized who I was doing it with (a guy who cared about me deeply and would never hurt me). If you're comfortable with this guy and he seems like the type of guy that would guide you and not make you feel bad about being inexperienced then the nerves should go away once you start up.

    • Thank you girlfriend this is very helpful and yes he is that type that will guide and very nice and take care of me compare to my ex

    • You're welcome! Good luck then! 🙂

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  • You just need more experience or to talk to someone with experience how to improve your skills and confidence.

    • Feel free to dm me if I can be of any help.

  • fubu? never heard about that abreviation. what? s that? fuck buddy?

    • Correct

    • nothing to worry about. if he's into you, no ammount of inexperience can deter a man from being interested in sex with you. you "can" be bad in bed or at kissing or whatever. but usually people in general don't mind teaching this stuff and also you're gonna have to do some relearning and adapting to a new partner either way. so as long as you're eager and willing, i think you're good. just try to get rid of the fear of him thinking you're a slut. men want their girl to be a slut "for them". and as long as you manage to make him feel that not everyone gets to see this side from you, you're good.

    • make sure to talk about the sex to realy understand each others needs and to learn how to please each other. it doesn't always come naturally but you can get there if you're with a good partner. if the sex never gets good, he's probably not right for you in general.

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  • sorry to hear your feeling this way ,, if you like I can try and help if talking will help you im here just say hi , I will do what I can

  • Just talk to him.. tell him you are experienced and want to learn what you should do to make it better for him.

    He will tell you

    • Thank you I guess communication is the key it is

  • what is a fubu?

    • Fuck buddy

  • Have a good sex coach