How to overcome the regret of losing virginity to a wrong person?

I'm 21, I lost my virginity last year to my ex, I did it fully knowing what I was doing. He didn't put pressure on me but I was kind of guessing that he didn't love me as much as I loved him and it was stupid of me to try to magically "win" him with sex. We had been together for a year and a half before that. In general I was trying to save it for the one. I though we wouldn't break up even though the relationship wasn't making me really happy, I though we'd overcome it. But he soon broke up with me saying he was sorry but he didn't love me. Now I regret it very much also considering I'm quite religious (but even religious people screw up). I know I should "forget" it but still, maybe any other advices? Thanks.

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  • Know that there could be another guy out there that's special for you and who loves you for you. Next time make sure you know if he loves you or not.

  • virginity is overrated, nobody cares, take it easy, find a good guy next time.

  • No one stays with the same guy who took their virginity. It's very less chance

    • that is not true though, on a worldwide scale vast majority of the population get married with their first partner in their 20s, not only that but promiscuous people (who lost virginity to wrong person) usually end up with nobody since their marriages almost always fail later, (this is mostly a western issue today)

  • You never do

  • Move on, that's not important you'll find out

  • I have dated girls just like you and they make me sick to my stomach. I used and treated the girls badly who were just like you. I hate it when girls lose it to the wrong one instead of me. That's why you get used and treated like shit by me.

    • You are the wrongest. Ever. Pity the girls that had sex with you.

    • Wow! Talk about insensitivity at its finest. It's apparent that you have issues.

    • Wrongest? Is that a word? Anyways how am I wrong? They were giving me leftovers so I was mad and used them. There is nothing wrong using a non virgin. You are giving me leftovers, so why should I care about you? @alwaysthere85

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  • It seems like the comments here made by americans in particualr are comments that are desperately trying to deny reality in order to avoid the guilt that comes from the mistakes, but that does not help in the long term, in fact it does the opposite it makes it far worse. It is true that virginity has always been a core aspect for someone to have a healthy marriage and stable family in the long-term, and losing that to the wrong person can be catastrophic both mentally and physically. The only real advice that one can give you assuming you want to get marreid is to simply marry someone that did the same thing (lost virignity to the wrong person) so that you will not take innocence from someone else who did not do this mistake. But generally promiscuous societies tend to decline in the long term and get replaced by other societies, this century it is the western culture that has been declining and being replaced by immigration from east and south who have more healthy mentality when it comes to relationships

  • it happened you can't change it

  • Things don't always work out the way we planned. I get that you feel cheated out of your virginity and that sucks, but not every guy only wants to date virgin women. I feel like you should have seen this coming though. When you realized the relationship was failing you should have ended it sooner, instead of desperately trying to save it. Realize that you made a mistake and while you may have lost something, you can cut your losses and move on.

  • It's done and over with. Just find great guys to fuck.

    • assuming that the person who wrote this wanted to eventually get married in their life, the studies show that even going with one wrong person already guarantees high divorce chance later, telling them to go with many is a recipe for complete mental and health disaster, but i guess your advice was more of a satirical joke of some sort