How To Pick Up Girls: Useful Tips For Guys!

This isn't about being romantic or self confident, but ideas on what you can actually say! My biggest suggestion, is to start by talking about casual topics until you get her information. Then, you can talk more and...not just magically bring up sex, but just bring it up more often. So for talking to girls, like cold approaching in public...

How To Pick Up Girls: Useful Tips For Guys!

So, the way that you talk casually, is to just find a random and cool topic! Like let's say you walk up to her and she's reading a book. You could say it's rare to find people who <3 reading books still, and that you love the fiction or whatever book but what's she reading since you're curious? Or if she's on her phone, you could mention the Pokemon Go craze and ask her if she plays or does she like it and debate about that. After you talk for a while, you can ask her or suggest that she find you on Twitter, KIK, etc, and so you guys can talk about this stuff more. But DON'T make it seem like you're looking for sex even remotely, not till after you're friends and regularly talking. Otherwise she'll be suspicious and shoot you down anyway.

My next main tip to guys is that after the initial conversation make it clear to her, that you want her sexually. Even if it's only subtle flirting. Like you could makes jokes about sex or her (subtle and still fairly polite jokes!), ask her about her friends or boyfriend to make sure she's single...show some kind of interest!

If you want her to be interested back, you'll have to be interesting to her too. Which is why the casual conversation idea works so well. Most guys in public approach girls solely to ask them out. But you just find a common interest, and then you walk away and when you talk later you're still only a friend? That can be really interesting and almost rare. Even if you include sexual things a little, the fact that you're not going all out with it tells her you actually put effort in, and then she'll want to keep talking to you!

How To Pick Up Girls: Useful Tips For Guys!

If you're in a bar/club looking for a hookup, then things can either be easier or way worse for you. On one hand, she'll be looking to sleep with a guy probably too. On the other hand lots of girls go to bars with their friends, and she'll be surrounded by other girls! So, lots of guys may hate this advice but I would suggest to stop going for the super and social hot girls. Go for the girls that are only with a friend or two, or even are alone! They may even be shy...but go for girls who will actually take the time to talk to you instead of blowing you off. Once you get more experience things should go more easily for you.

I would also say that it'd probably would be best for guys to stop cold approaching the old fashioned way. If you haven't built up a comfort level with her, there's a 99% chance you'll get shot down. After all, why are you cold approaching? Because you think she's hot! And she knows, so to her that's like you're asking for sex. So if you become even just a casual friend first, then things should be way easier for you.

Hope these tips help!

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Most Helpful Guy

  • How to pick up girls:

    1. Get tinder

    2. Swipe until you get a match

    3. Ask to come over and watch netflix

    cf.girlsaskguys.com/.../...a-8a14-58245cb3232a.jpg

    If girl doesn't have a crappy personality then maybe take her on a date (s) (you decide) before smashing.

    Anything else is a waste of time

    • Sounds like you have been listening to Tom Leykis. If you don't know who he is, go to Youtube and search on "Leykis 101".

    • I am eternally stuck on stage 2.

    • This isn't reality. How dumb.

Most Helpful Girl

  • if girl dont like u non of this will help u

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  • Remember to lift with your knees when picking up girls...

    • 😂😂😂 Back in the cave days that's probably how it was done. Looool. Things would be so much easier if that was all it took.

  • My next main tip to guys is that after the initial conversation make it clear to her, that you want her sexually. YOU NAILED IT. So many guys don't do this and it confuses the woman if you are just being nice or is he into her!

    NICE TAKE!

    • Thanks!! and wow you're an expert.

    • Sounds more like a maniac...

  • How many girls have you picked up with your approach?

    • LOL none, but this is what I like and how I'd approach guys.

  • Great stuff! Not just your regular stuff but stuff that can be used.

  • I keep repeating this but honestly, the problem with approaching is at least for me, to actually find opportunities to approach.

    The only place I see alone girls is either
    1) on the subway, surrounded by thousands of other people.
    2) walking past them on the street.
    3) You mentioned reading a book. Where exactly? Laying in the grass, with her headphones on in a park.
    4) Phone: Let's be real, she's going to be busy texting someone and majority are listening to music anyway.

    99% are either busy or you end up seeing her for a few seconds before moving on with your lives. There seems to be next to no opening for approaching...

    • This can be really true... you have to get lucky then lol

    • You can stop any girl who is walking on the street, even if they have headphones on: youtube_dot_com/watch? v=hdsbI5oYVC4

    • Go to a place like buffalo wild wings and it's pretty easy

  • I don't hate your advice and no offense, but this isn't really new. Aren't guys already aware of all this?

    • Not at all dude lol

    • No i am. But i never approach girls in... anywhere.

  • Overall good stuff, minus the probing to see if she has a boyfriend.

    I just approach and ask for her phone number. If she has a boyfriend that she is serious about, she'll say it then. If she doesn't and she does have a boyfriend, I'll deal with that then.

    I've approached women, got her phone number, messaged back and forth, then have the boyfriend call me yelling about why I'm contacting his girl. 😛

    #TheseHoesAintLoyal

    • yeah people lie lol

    • Although if you were just her friend 1st it'd be easier to find out about the boyfriend, on her media.

    • Being friends first is a one way ticket to the "non-boyfriend, no-fucking" zone 95% of the time. It is better as a man to make my interest known off the jump, than to be friends first. While I am slow-playing my hand by being friends with her, some guy with my mentality will ask her out and get her (either hook-up with her or be her boyfriend)!

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  • I dunno, this kinda seems like a recipe to achieve Asexual friend zone status, where she likes you like a brother or something.

    • no, you;d only be her friend for a few days b4 mentioning sexual stuff generally.

    • hmm k, I must have missed that part.

    • I didn't say ti directly, but implied yeah.

  • Be yourself, calm and collected. sex isn't for two people that haven't exchanged and placed rings on each other's fingers. Then, it can be the most pure, enjoyable experience ever!

  • I am aware of these, But most guys i know dont. Good MyTake

  • Another myTake stating the obvious.

    • Not to lots of ppl!

  • You are right about the groups of women , they WILL shoot down any approaching men , besides normally it's a strictly " Girls Night Out " , they will not want men around anyway. I don't think most women will ever want some random man approach her , cold approaches will be as welcome as Ebola to most women , most are glued to phones with earphones in , giving off a " stay the F away " vibe

  • Or you could stop being such a pussy and deal with rejection. The more you ask the more likely your chances are of getting a date. Actually I remember reading somewhere from like cosmo that a woman decided whether she finds a guy attractive with in the first 7 seconds so its best to act right away. The reason why cold approaching doesn't work for most guys is because they look all nervous and awkward by the time they approach the woman and woman can read that shit real easily to be honest anyone can lol. The only real problem with your logic is that if the guy decided to ask the girl to follow him on social media to chat there and if he then shows interest in her when say after a couple of months of talking friendly with her he will seem like a pussy to her wanting to ask her out online and not in real life. And that very first time he met her in real life when cold approaching her might have been his only one chance to meet her in real life.

    • Not a couple months, a couple days, like really casual and fast friends not bffs.

    • doesn't matter couple days or whatever the point is she will think he is a pussy trust me I've been there several times and a few times online the girl basically told me in another way that I was a coward for asking her out online instead of real life.

    • you could met her again irl dude

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  • Thanks for the tips! Makes me think the current gal I'm crushing over is on the shy side.

  • Tried it on the train and I had one woman give me her phone number, only to never respond.

    • You shoudl ahve gotten her social stuff.

    • I did, I asked for her Facebook, got it, and she has not responded to my friend request either.

    • Some people are like that...

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  • Now I demand a more detailed topic on What to talk about with girls to keep her interested without the convo is dying

  • I wonder just how well that will actually work.
    I guess you won't know until you find out

  • This article was good but I'm not into the whole pick up thing, I rather get to know a girl and ask her out, be more familiar and be her friend, if she sees me as "just a friend" then she's just a friend and wasn't into me, nothing I can do but find someone else.

  • Only good looking guys get dates.

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