How to stop feeling gross after being raped?

I really don’t like myself right now I feel so low I just want to feel like me again.
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  • I am really sorry, that you have to go through this. But it was a suffering of the past. It is what make you or what makes your present or future. Forget it. Of course try to bring that evil into the court so get him sentenced.
    Life is about misfortunes, problems and suffering. What I know is you are so much strong and can handle thousands of these types of problems and sufferings together. I am believer of Woman Power. Engage yourself in what you like.
    Take dreams as big as possible and work at it with all your power and dedication. You will end up being happiest person in the world and most successful too.
    If you ever want to feel loved. Make a bit of donation to some charity and see what the child's are going through, help them through donations if you could and you will feel happy.
    YOU ARE STRONG, POWERFUL AND SMART AND THIS WORLD NEED YOU.

    If you get any other problem or feel sad, pm me. I will do my best to feel you better !

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  • Steps to Take When You Have Been Raped ↗

    I had written My Take in past. Have a look at it. In case you have any questions or queries please feel free to ask. I would be glad to help you out.

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  • I cannot stress this enough THERAPY! Seek help. I watched the last 7 years after my sister was raped and she never got help she never talked about it outside the one time and it messes with her just as bad to this day it has affected her relationship with her son and every guy around it has changed her personality in ways I would never expect. It killed a huge chunk of her personality and she lost a lot of the life in her eyes.
    Rape is never your fault but with therapy you will be able to move past it and not get the ptsd from the event you'll be able to live like yourself again and might even come out stronger. I have been there I survived you will survive and it will get better i am here for you I support you. I had been raped once and you can recover from the ptsd as well and you can be happy and live the same after. :)

    • This, all of this^^^^^^^

  • It takes time... you can scrub your body raw, douche yourself for hours. Makes little difference, that feeling and their stench doesn’t go away. The only thing I found that truly helps that, is therapy and time.
    Shoot me a dm if you need to talk hon

    • I’ve done all these things so far. I had one therapy visit but I haven’t told her what’s happened yet I was too nervous.

    • You need to tell her. She can’t help you if you don’t tell her and don’t keep working with her. I know it hurts. I know it’s humiliating. But it’s for the best, seriously, I mean it.

    • Ok I will try to tell her. Thank you.

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  • Find a really good therapist with a lot of experience treating victims of sexual violence/abuse.

  • Well you was used and humiliated, but you need to turn to live with that somehow.

    https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/RapeAsDrama

  • Therapy and time. I can’t even begin to imagine what you’re going through. Know that it wasn’t your fault.

  • You definitely need to talk to a professional!
    There are things you need to get through!
    Meanwhile, hit me up if you need someone to talk to

  • Im sorry that you experienced that. No one should ever have to. I wish you a speedy recovery and peace in the future. I hope your assailant suffers for a long time in jail.

    • Thank you.

  • Find a support group, speak to your doctor or the police victims' services unit.

  • I'm sorry to say, but it's time. It took me years before I could even think about a relationship, even longer to talk about it. But it does get better. I am so sorry it happened to you, or anyone for that matter. Safe consensual long distance tele hugs...

  • Exactly.
    You're not gonna get over this alone.
    You think you are. But if you don't find a therapist, it WILL have impact on decisions you make throughout life.
    Maybe even mess up future relationships because you'll be afraid that all men are the same etc...
    Just 1. Go to the police
    2. Go to therapist.

  • That's probably a normal feeling. You need to talk to someone and get professional help. I'm sure there are groups like AA for people who have been raped and want support

  • you are still you

  • Things like this change your life forever. You will need help and support.

  • its alright sometimes we feel that way..
    was it your first time?
    was it forceful rape?

    • Yes it was.

    • was he your boyfriend or stranger?

  • im sorry you were raped. have you seen someone for it?

  • You should get counseling, I don’t want to see that spoil your life.

  • Find someone to talk to. I know it helped me. Most guys won't talk about it but we get raped too. Yes it's embarrassing and you feel gross and ashamed you ask did I cause this some how. No you didn't the person was greedy and a sick human being. I decided to finally talk to my best friend about it I can finally feel like I'm healing. It's been nearly a year

  • I'm so sorry that that happened to you. If you ever need to talk feel free to reach out

  • Talk to friend but also talk to professionals

  • talk to GOD above the dome and tell him the truth

    and he will erase that memory once all this is over

    it's in the bible

    • Well, not in the best part of the Bible. Christ says "forgive" and "treat eachother well" not "if something terrible happens I will erase your memory". I dislike people using any book to establish their own agenda, but I particularly hate when it is a religious book.

    • @MAC1983 shut the fuck up you stupid atheist GOD is above the dome no excuses dumb ass you are about to take the mark of the beast idiot dumb ass thinks the core of the earth exist what an idiot lol

    • Joke is on you! I am a non-practising Christhened Christian, but I kept my faith: who's feeling stupid now?

  • don’t do any sexual stuff for a long time. Maybe masturbation but I don't know

  • Hopefully you called the police and are getting therapy