How to stop wanting my boyfriend to cum inside of me?

So most times that me (18 years old) and my boyfriend (19 years old) have sex he wears a condom. However sometimes when we don’t have one and we do it without one and I really really want him to cum inside me soo bad. I just want to feel it inside of me. I’m on the pill so technically it should be safe, but we want to be extra careful because we definitely don’t want that i get pregnant.

I know that it is just biological instinct, but I can’t stop thinking of him cumming inside me, then putting my finger in it and liking it clean ughh

any advice how to get over it?
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  • Why get over it? Get both of you STD tested and trust the pill, or get on an implant or an IUD which are even more effective as contraception. Millions of women on this planet use just the pill and don't get pregnant.

    Yeah, there is a percentage of risk.

    Perhaps that risk is too high for you.

    Fantasize together about a time when he CAN ejaculate inside you. Talk about it. Plan when it would be like "If we both have good jobs, health insurance, money saved and ________, then we can do it without condoms."

    Now, just so you know, you really can't feel it when a guy ejaculates in you, until it starts moving toward the outer third of your vagina and then you can sense an increased slickness. It's not like holding your hand under a faucet. For one, your vagina nerves are not all that sensitive, and secondly, ejaculate doesn't come out in large quantity or with much force.

  • It’s human nature. I have a latex allergy and couldn’t take BC, so non latex condoms were the go to for me. I was so focused on not getting pregnant and STIs that it was life. (Of course, I remember the AIDS scare in the 80s).

    My tubes are tied and I love going bare with my husband. I can totally track it on a calendar because I know my body wants to get pregnant. And, even though I’ve had a tubal, I’ve had 2 miscarriages this past year. So... yeah.

  • When I first started having sex back in high school, I was so worried about getting pregnant, but that was before I got on birth control. Now that's changed and I enjoy when he just lets it all out inside me. It's one of the most raw and primal parts of sex. I guess my only advice would be to enjoy it, don't deprive yourself of the pleasure. It's safe to do because you are on birth control

    • Exactly! <3

Most Helpful Guys

  • Remind yourself why you're not doing it, to stay safe. You're not prepared to rely on condoms alone and so if you let it happen you'll probably just panic until your next period.

    Nothing is stopping you from letting him do it, you're on birth control and I assume that you trust his sexual health. So this is simply down to whether you want to take what is a pretty small risk and whether you can handle it if you do.

    • He always reminds me that it is not a smart idea, so basically he is stopping me. And i dont want him to do something that will make him worry a lot so that is why i was asking how to get over it. Thank you for the reply!

    • I assume that he has cum ON you, does that do nothing to satisfy the urges? Or is it specifically about having it in you?

  • I died after reading that...
    damn lol i wish i was him that lucky bastard! xD i feel the same way actually as a Man it FEEEEEEEEEELS AMAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAZING cumming deeeeeeeeeeeeep inside!!! words cannot even begin to explain!!! but what i dont understand is if you are on the pill why the hell are not letting him cum inside you? sorry i dont think i helped at all haha xD

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  • Why get over it? You're on the pill. You should be fine. You're wearing suspenders and a belt. It's not necessary.

    And you can always let him cum inside you when you're bleeding, if that's satisfying enough to you.

  • If you're on BC then I don't understand why you are still using condoms and not letting him finish inside you. It's the most pleasurable way to finish.

    • I just realized I never answered your question, erm... It's part of your basic human instinct to breed, I think you'll find it very difficult to suppress these urges and feelings. If it was me, I'd roleplay your urges and thoroughly enjoy the sex.

  • Just ask him?

  • Take the morning afta pill as well just to be xtra

  • No need to get over it... The pill is safe enough... Enjoy it since you like it...

  • There is no way of getting over that I suppose.. 😂 As you said this is our nature.

  • See if ur not using condom , there is no way u can stop him from cumming inside u. Its natural. Neither me nor I can do it. If u still dont want him to cum in u try short intervals of foreplay and tell him that when he is about to cum he can stop the foreplay.

  • Listen about radio 89.2... all r like u. More or less but never give ur personal information.

  • Just let him do it, tell him how much you want his cum inside. Done.

  • It's more than just a biological instinct. It feels absolutely AMAZING to cum together when you're having sex bare! Have FUN!

  • Push it out and lick it up yourself

  • I thought only boys have this deep desire, but it seems i was wrong... I'm not sure if you can just stop wanting this, it's hardwired in us at the deepest level. Me as a guy, can't stop wanting this too, I need to feel it going in her. ALL of it. And she doesn't want, it's so frustrating.

  • It's normal just give a try ask him to cum inside you if you really want running away will lead more curiosity in you