How to subtly tell a guy I want to have sex with him?

So this guy and I have been dating for a month. He's too slow, keeps giving me handshakes but treating me like a princess on our dates. I want us to get it ON already. How do I ask him? I want it to be subtle.
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  • Use more skin to skin contact, and just rub up on him all over.

  • through body language I guess

  • "Give me your penis and i will destroy it."

  • Ask @djmzes. He’s so cool and knows everything

  • Handshake his penis in the car and invite him back to your place. You really can't be subtle.

  • Most guys are dumb as rocks when it comes to signals. You'll have to stop "pussy footing" around. XD
    Just give him your number and ask him to call you for a date if he's interested. Then walk away! He'll call you if he wants. If not pretend it never happened.

    • Very true

    • Did you read the question before answering, OP? They are already dating, lol. And he most probably knows her phone number

    • You are correct sir Oh yeah. Guess it's my dumb as rocks moment. XD

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  • If he is still clueless at this point, you're going to have to hit him with a figurative sledgehammer. Subtlety won't cut it because he probably still won't get it. Invite him to your place (now that is already a subtle hint) , sit next to him and come on to him hard. If he still is afraid to initiate sex, tell him you want to have sex with him.

  • I wouldn’t necessarily say it, I’d just show him with my actions. When he goes for a handshake, go for a hug or a kiss instead. Maybe for the next date invite him for dinner at your place. Or the next time you two kiss, make it longer and more passionate. If he seems to be into it, you can initiate more intimate things.

  • How far have you advanced with physical interactions?

  • You can't be subtle. No guy who is genuinely interested wants to seem cocky. Whether or not a guy picks up on your subtle hints he will not act on the unless blatantly told he can without seeming arrogant. Guys have learned that if they assume a girl is offering them something or wants that from them that, if they guess wrong, the girl gets offended and likely will reject them after that point so... yeah being subtle isn't gonna get you anywhere.

    • Amen!

  • Don't judge but I see this from both women and men side bc I'm genderfluid and might be young. But just sit in his lap and make out with him then slowly start to tease him.

  • You don’t. You wait till you are somewhere private/semi private and find an excuse to hug him & lean your whole body into his for at least 30 seconds while staring into his eyes.

    If he does not turn into a sexual beast then he’s gay or retarded.

  • Don't be subtle? It just causes confusion, if you want to get what you want and feel satisfied, just be honest about it. You don't have to say anything about it if you don't want to, just invite him to your place after a date and then start kissing him and running your hands along his chest and shoulders. Initiating sex with a man is usually pretty easy.

  • When you get close and start kissing (if you have already), don't let him go or the sensuality between you two. Get into making that kiss sensual and passionate. Maybe run your fingers through his hair, over his chest, hold him tight to you and even maybe rub your body into his. Make him want you, desire you. Get his mind into the gutter really.

    Or I had it where this girl got my sexual attention by just looking deep into my eyes like I'm her next meal. Like her carnal energy hit me like a tone and I couldn't look away and was drawn into her. I don't know if you can do this, but women have a look that just screams sex is on their mind and you're the one they want it with.

  • Kiss him and touch him in his naughty places.

  • HANDSHAKES? are you sure you’re dating? If so, just lean in, kiss him and place his hands where you want them.

  • When he drops you off at your house.. invite him to stay for breakfast.

    • I like my idea much better.

    • That's smooth af hahaha.

  • It is ok to talk to him about it. Maybe start out by saying " I'd like to take our relationship to another level... what do you think?"

    Is he a virgin by chance and nervous about sex? Have you fooled around at all, kissing, fondling, handjobs?

  • Start massaging him, and kiss and makeout and if it turns out good you are good to go 😋

    • If the genders were reversed would that be acceptable behaviour?

    • @Meninist yeah, maybe but girls are more sensitive so if you go wrong then you are gone.

    • Seems a bit one sided

  • A handshake seem like a professional way to greet someone. So I can understand your confusion. Since he treats you like princess on "dates", reach across the table and try holding/touching his hand. See how he reacts. Or kiss him on the cheek as you end the date. He may just be very shy and not sure what you want. I would start slow. I think once you make small advances he will get picture and know he can move forward.

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