How to tell my boyfriend I want rough sex?

I want to be fucked hard, I want to be dominated.

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Superb Opinion

  • Challenge him during or before sex, like " Thats the best you got?" ot " Make me" but do it in a playful way so he knows you are being playful. Most men react to having their masculinity challenged, by fucking harder and being more rough to make you submit. I think the more you will challenge ( playfully) the more he will respond. I dont know lol it works for most women.

    OR you can do the opposite and act submissive to him in the bedroom, like obeying what he says in the bedroom quickly, asking him what to do, asking for instructions innocently, and responding positively whenever he does anything dominating even by accident like moaning when he pushes you down on the bed during doggy style to make you arch.

Most Helpful Girl

  • Tell him what you told us, then ask him if he is interested in that.

    If yes, establish a safeword, limits, and emergency stop guesture/action (like double tapping) if you're going to be unable to speak.

    If he's not sure, open a conversation on it. Ask him what he's not sure about, what he's afraid of or concerned about.

    If a hard no, respect that. And question if the relationship is truly compatible. I've left an ex who was too gentle and didn't want to progress rougher - for me, rough is necessary. Not every time, but frequently. It's unfair to force that on someone who doesn't like it, though.

Most Helpful Guys

  • try to just open lines of candid discourse around sex. perhaps you can ask him things he'd like involving sex and then offer things you like. you can just say, "i like to have rough sex" "i like to be dominated" and then ask him if he'd be comfortable with it

    • thank you for MHO

  • Most subtle way is to respond with slightly more enthusiasm when he thrusts slightly harder, and less when he thrusts less hard.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • “Fuck me harder”

  • It is ok to talk about sex after all. Just mention what you would like to try. How is the sex now? Maybe have it more often?

  • Just tell him. Don't do it in the middle of sex though because him hearing that might make him finish early 😂 it's best to do it right before sex. During foreplay, tell him. Whisper it in his ear.

    • Great advice!

    • Yup just like Mandy said, it'll work every time!

  • Just like that. Then give him lots of direction the first time.

  • Just tell him, and be as specific as possible.

  • Next time you're getting passionate, just tell him, "Harder baby Harder!"

  • Just say the words. This is one of those things that is only as complicated as you make it.

  • If you're afraid to tell him you could watch some porn together than includes what you want and ask him what he thinks about it.

  • best bet just tell him lol, he will prolly be down

  • Just tell him.

    Not during sex, but perhaps after ask him about what he likes during sex... then share yours.

  • Ease him into it and keep encouraging a little rougher until its just right.

  • With words

  • Tell him girlll

  • Just tell him lol

  • Just like u told us now but stay to hum that u want him to bind u the Fuck over an spank ur ASS until it hurts then take u an Fuck u really hard just like a lil-dirty hoe then still make u do other things.
    God Bless

  • What you are describing is the fantasy of many guys. But a lot of guys are hesitant because they want to show that they can be respectful, even sexually. So just tell him, you may just be happy with the results.

  • Try "Fuck me hard". That should buy him a vowel!

  • Say it

  • “I want to be fucked hard and dominated”

  • Say to him 🤪 that you can not drive 100 mph

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