How to tell my boyfriend that I do not like oral on me? Is it normal that I don’t want him to give me oral?

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I don’t want to make him feel bad
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I told him that I don’t expect it at all but he says that he wants to
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  • If your friend told you to throw your phone in a lake, and you didn't want to, would you? No, because you don't want to. It shouldn't make your friend feel bad. It's your phone and you don't want to do it.

    Your boyfriend wants to do something that you don't like, but you are considering his feelings even though he would be selfish to have his feelings hurt because it's not about him. It's about you. You have to draw a clear line between what you want and what you don't. Not just when it comes to sex, but anything, friends, boyfriend, family, coworkers. No matter what the case is.

  • what is it about recieving oral you do not like?

    do you find it gross?

    does it not feel good to you? (assuming you have tried it)

    • I feel uncomfortable and it doesn’t feel that good

    • ok. just tell him that. be a little blunt but not overly blunt.

    • I’ll just tell him I feel uncomfortable with oral is that good?

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  • It is normal to not like something that's a part of sex. Some people don't even like anal, intercourse, or fingering. Oral is the same way some like it and some don't.

  • Tell him u don’t like it

    Show him exactly what u do like

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  • It is totally normal, with time you may even want to start getting excited by the idea of doing oral. If he keeps insisting on doing it when you say no then their needs to be a point medium where you could both reach. Usually people tend to find out of the relationship what you can't have inside so it's really tedious. Saying that, if he can't hold himself from practicing it on you or looking outside for it he has not mature as a man.

  • A lot of man like it, it's hard to explain why. Some of us just love to give... That's all.
    If you suffer from it, just explain it.. Make it plain simple.
    In my opinion, in bed there should be no restrictions. The words "Stop", "No" and "Don't" are prohibited in that order. The only order being allowed is "NO!! DONT STOP".
    If there's no physical connection and physical sync between you two, it just won't last for long. Sex and pleasure are the only thing you just cannot compromise.

  • Can't say it's normal. Why do you dislike it?

  • Just tell him how you feel about things

  • Just tell him.

    NO; don't beat around the bush and say you don't "expect" it. Just be honest! Say what you mean and mean what you say.

  • My wife doesn't like her pussy licked and I am amazing at it. She feels uncomfortable with it so I just don't do it. Tell him and he should understand your feelings. He should respect you and make you comfortable. Maybe talk with him about why you feel uncomfortable with it too.

  • Its best to just tell him the truth, If he feels its something he did then you can't control that and he will get over it. Most girls love oral, so that It is odd that you don't like it.

  • Not normal for a girl to not like oral... very unusual. Just tell him straight out, I guess.

  • My first girlfriend had the same reservation when we were together. Whatever the reason just be sincere with him and tell him the truth. Once he understands he should respect you. If for any reason you decide to try it you can tell him that too and maybe take it slow. But remember you are now in that intimate part of the relationship and you should be able tell each other the truth of such things without feeling bad nor without fear of hurting the other's feelings.

  • It is weird for people to not like oral. Is he bad at it?

    • I just don’t feel comfortable

  • not normal

  • I dont want/like oral on me either.

    Just tell him straight out

    • Tell him you dont want it