How to tell your racist parents about a relationship you're in?

Question

So... I'm sorta to the point of potentially getting fed up with my parents and telling them I've still been seeing this guy they don't like. They're racist and I'm pretty sure everyone here knows I've been with a black guy I met from high school for the last 9 years. And I've gotten tired of lying and stuff to see him. So how the hell do I tell them I've still been seeing him this whole time without them freaking out, especially my dad as he'll know I've been sleeping with this guy as it's been 9 years

ohshee · Accepted Answer

I know it's probably a very hard thing for you to do in one hand but in the other hand it's even harder to keep up the lie because that's not who you are probably at least that's what I think of you and I believe that just turns you out more than him being black like I said if I was in your shoes I would have already done it because I don't lie and I couldn't lie that's the reason why I usually make everything in life about other people but in this case it would be all about me so they would have to sit down and listen to me I don't care if they like it or not I don't care if they disowned me I would hope that they would at least his knowledge and give it a try at least show some kind of effort my mom is not a racist at all my stepdad he was a racist big-time racist and I hated that motherfuker because he used to beat me with a belt that one time at 5 years old some guy kind of soft in a car and I never heard my step dad ever cuss or even raise his voice and when this car kind of sauce he yelled out you fucking n** and I look at him and you guys go ahead and say it because I'm giving you permission to say and I just shook my head note and he told me to say it and I should know I didn't know what it meant I thought it was a cuss word well we get home show me go to my room 10 minutes later he walks in takes off his belt and he says say it and I shook my head no are you guys okay you'll see it sooner or later and he started beating with his belt I never did say it but I have never forgotten that I was so pissed off once I found out what it meant and I respect myself you beating me with a belt because I won't say a word that you want me to say because that's who you are not me there's been a lot of race-based questions on here that just send me to the roof I hate ignorant people I hate racist and the sad part is where were our world is headed to right now there are big big people that are going to be starting race bait on here and we better all join together brother and sister and fight these fuckers because I'm not dealing with it I feel all Races should get the fuck off my planet

FriendlyDrugDealer · Accepted Answer

I’ve been in relationships in the past were the girl didn’t want to tell her parents that she’s dating a black man. Naturally I ask is their parents racist or something? If so then you have to make a choice, normally most men including myself wouldn’t wait that long so that’s a great guy you’re dating.
However the parents have to either acknowledge that their daughter is in love with a good man regardless of his ethnicity or the parents lose the ability to be in the life of their daughter eventually

loves2learn · Accepted Answer

I’d cut ties with my parents in that instance. Racism is inexcusable. If hating a skin color is more important to them than their daughter's happiness, that says a lot.

JennBITx · Accepted Answer

Your parents will understand in time. Hopefully you do not live with them.

Kaneki05 · Answer

When speaking to someone with a dumb belief you have to be blunt and honest. The most consequence is you don't have to deal with there ass again. Which is just there loss not your's.

genericname85 · Answer

has he borken up with the other girl? xD

legalboxers · Answer

your an adult.. tell them. fuck them... its 2021.. fuck the haters

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Just have to show off the black doggy staff to daddy, don't you?

EnglishEuropean · Answer

Let them freak out. You're a grown woman, jeez.

anylolone · Answer

Don't get tired of lying. Wait for marriage/moving together/kids, what ever. Or just stop lying.

krin_m · Answer

Tell them the truth. You are not doing anything wrong.

Mauryandrew · Answer

Get pregnant with that nigga and go to your parents together and show it to your dad and he'll have a surprise heart attack and you'll be able to get married