How/ where can I find and have sex with someone?

[Anonymous]

Ideally not prostitutes.

[Curmudgeon]

1. Build up your economic value and maintain / improve your physical shape. Don't compete against others--that will just bring you down and make you miserable--just compete against *yourself*. I hope that makes sense.

Believe it or not, by the time you are 30, if you:
--are unmarried without kids,
--with a stable and reasonably well paying job,
--in reasonably decent physical shape,
--with no criminal record, and
--you own a home of your own, even a modest one,

You WILL be desirable, as the women start realizing their partying days are over and they need a real guy as spouse material.

2. Try an older "Cougar" divorcee, who wants to "get her groove back". She might just be the one to break you in. Your initial lack of what they call "game" in such a situation will be non-threatening, and therefore downright appealing, to an older divorcee. And by interactions of this nature, you will get "game". No, the relationship probably will not last, but it will be mutually beneficial at first. And then, by the time you are the age of the Cougars yourself, you may even be trawling for younger babes! Or you may have already found someone and settled in.

3. Try putting out a personals ad online. You can meet people from the privacy of your home, then call them up, then meet. If it does not work out, no bad repercussions, unlike school or work. Avoid public situations where asking them out leads to humiliation and failure. Avoid noisy dance clubs where you can't actually talk to them. Like me, I am betting you cannot dance without looking foolish, and slam dancing in the mosh pits does not count (am I revealing my age here? So be it).

4. As above, Pour yourself into school / work. Make more money and/or build up skills to make more money. Or if you find an academic interest that excites you, go for it. This is always good.

5. Exercise. You are already doing this, but you say you have no results? Even if utterly non-sporting, it is good just to hike, bike, or lift weights. Don't compete against anyone--that will make you feel worse--just compete against yourself.

6. Look into antidepressant meds. They can really help in some cases.

7. Done enough of the above? Then develop an interest that takes you someplace you haven't been. Ever skied down a mountain? Scuba dived under the water? Took up motorcycle riding? Backpacked or camped out in pretty places? It doesn't have to be anything special or even costly, just anything to change things up. And you might even meet someone in the course of that.

[Anonymous]

My brain just froze from this mindless drivel.

Ask everyone you encounter if they want to have sex with you. It's that easy. The law of averages states that eventually someone will say yes.

I can't guarantee you won't get your ass or balls kicked, your eyes scratched out, or have the police called on you, but the only way to find out is to ask.

[Curmudgeon]

Now STOP. You and I are older, but think back to when you were his age: --The paralyzing fear of rejection, --the lack of experience and perspective, --the lack of the clout and resources (not just financial) and all the rest that comes in that age range the kid is in.

[Asker]

Yeah you said it bro

[Opinion Owner]

@Curmudgeon Sorry, I can't relate. I never had that problem. Felt her up at 14, sexed her by 16, military by 17, dad by 19, married at 25. I was being serious. Ya' don't ask, you'll never get a yes. Sure rejection hurts, and so does being called out, or made fun of, but it's the successful that get back up. He'll get a lot of nos, but eventuality a yes, and there ya' go. The trick is to hang on to her when so many others out there are offering the same, or more. I meant no offense. They're just the facts.

[Asker]

🤮 dang the world's filled with such different people

[Curmudgeon]

But as oldsters, you and I have to do better than telling him "just be confident", which for him, begs the question, "OK dude, but HOW?" It begged the question at my age, and unless you are an amazing unique individual, it probably begged the question at your age too. Which is why I wrote out some advice suggestions and pointers. Granted when you wrote "military by 17, dad by 19", you DID have to deal with a lot of shit in a very short period of time, you may not have been the strict definition of veteran but I dare say you fought your own personal war. Married at 25 - to the same lady? Just curious.

[Opinion Owner]

@Curmumudgeon Yup, married and married to the same.. still. A lot of what shit? I never fought a thing. No personal war. Wanted the child, wanted the military, wanted the marriage. Amazing and unique? Nope, just your average Joe. I did however, transform from wild and crazy to disciplined, honorable, responsible and gained integrity and character.

[Curmudgeon]

Well, I salute you, and not only for your service. Most young men are scared shitless of becoming, and utterly unprepared to be, fathers at that age. You may have been a wild and crazy young guy in need of discipline, but this kid, I think, is a terrified soul that needs advice and encouragement.

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Like... anywhere. that's how the rest of society does it.

If you are talking about guaranteed sex and not trying to make an effort for conversation and meeting someone.. well... that's way harder. Better have something going on that's irresistible to someone.

[Asker]

Would you mind elaborating the first part. I don't get it

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Just means if you are looking for a hookup or a relationship just go out and start talking to people and see if one blooms from there. Meet people at work, at the store, whatever. It's how we all do it whether it be offline or online.

[Asker]

Alright thanks

[Asker]

So you do anything tonight?

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Lmao smooth I was considering if I want to stream on twitch later but im not feeling great so probably not.

[Asker]

You're sick huh? You want to come over and I can like un sick you or something?

[Asker]

We should make out

[Ez-Bri-Z]

If I'm sick then why would you want to make out?

[Asker]

Ah you make a good point. I'm prepared to make that sacrifice

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Literally anywhere. Please, not on here though.
Try tinder.

[Asker]

But like where? A prison? A playground? At Church?

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Do you work? Do you go to school? Do you have friends?

[Asker]

Yeah what about it?

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Meet people there. Talk. Date. Hookup?

[Asker]

Won't I get fired if I ask people to hookup at my job?

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

It depends. If you aren’t friendly with them or know them, then yes lol. Just talk with people, get to know them, try and be friends, try and date.

[FamilyGuy2020]

What the heck?

[FamilyGuy2020]

You're actually right "What The Heck"

[laurieluvsit]

How about a girl that you meet that likes you?

[Asker]

Okay how do suggest I meet girls?

[laurieluvsit]

So glad you asked :) ...

How to find the man or woman of your dreams! Yes, your dreams are about to come true! ↗

[Asker]

Thanks! So how you doin? Any plans tonight?

[laurieluvsit]

Yes, lots of them... lol

[Asker]

Cool good for you... wanna be friends?

[laurieluvsit]

Of course, I have a lot of GAG friends :)

[Asker]

Gag friends? What?

[laurieluvsit]

GirlsAskGuys silly boy

[Asker]

Ooh I thought you meant gag like when you're throwing up

[Asker]

So how do we be friends? Do I follow you?

[laurieluvsit]

... Yes

[Asker]

Yay I already did

[Asker]

Do you wanna like hold hands and hug and stuff

[laurieluvsit]

No, I have no intention of hooking up with strangers on the internet, sorry

[Asker]

No No thats not what I meant. Oh dang

[laurieluvsit]

Does your user name start with a C or an S as I had two 18 year old guys both follow me today at the same time... lol

[Asker]

C!!!

[Curmudgeon]

Remember Asker, a Manic Pixie Dream Girl is just a Muse, meant to inspire, not an actual real life woman:
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Manic_Pixie_Dream_Girl

[OlderAndWiser]

Have you considered dating someone to whom you are attracted andd getting to know her until a mutual desire develops?

[Asker]

Yes I have

[OlderAndWiser]

That is the option I would recommend.

[Asker]

Yeah it's not going to well though

[OlderAndWiser]

Most of us improve through trial and error.

[Asker]

Thanks

[ohshee]

Last time I saw her she was over at the bar with
who with , And no one

[4eyes2mouths]

Usually you ask them out first but if not then a bar or night club is an easy way to hook up. If you're socially awkward then it might be a lot more difficult lol

[DonkeyDan]

Grindr

[Asker]

Not a gay one please

[slatyb]

After divorced no other met my partners online, mostly on match. com

[jshm2]

Why should they be dirtied by your mere presence, exactly?

[Bricealan]

You don't just "find' someone to have sex with, at least in my experience. They usually FIND you. Women fuck who they want and men fuck WHO they CAN/

[Citizenkirk]

Everywhere

[Asker]

BRO THAT DOESN'T HELP

[Gwenhwyfar]

Try a club. Not for me anymore but the club scene is opening up again with COVID apparently fading into the background.

[exitseven]

You willl not have much luck with that kind of an attitude.

[Asker]

What?

[JustinTheGreat]

Tinder

[larry69]

It is much easier for a woman to have sex whenever she chooses.

As a man I have made efforts and have involuntarily have not had sex in over 12 years.

Men either you have it or you dont.

I will not pay for sex so I therefore will probably never have sex again. Lol

[jahaims]

Your eyes and Earth

[Asker]

What?

[jahaims]

How? With your eyes. Where? Earth

[Asker]

Huh?

[SecretGardenBlood65]

U should married

[Asker]

And how would I go about doing that

[TsAubreyKate]

No fuck that dude try megapersonals or skipthegames. com type in your city and what you’re looking for

[Asker]

Hmm could you elaborate?

[TsAubreyKate]

It’s a dating hookup site

[Asker]

Who?

[TsAubreyKate]

Megapersonals

[Asker]

Huh?

[TsAubreyKate]

The site

[Asker]

What?

[Asker]

I don't get it.

[SecretGardenBlood65]

Asker find a girl and married with her

[TsAubreyKate]

Dude got to this site called megapersonals select your location and text a stripper you like and fuck her no strings attached

[Asker]

You're going to have to be a little more clear

[TsAubreyKate]

Welp I fold there is no way for me to be more clearer than that

[TsAubreyKate]

I mean more clear

[Asker]

I don't get it?

[TsAubreyKate]

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[Asker]

Now I can sort of understand that.

[Asker]

Can you elaborate

[TsAubreyKate]

I hate you😂😂

[Asker]

WHaat?

[SecretGardenBlood65]

Stop this!

[TsAubreyKate]

@secretgardenblood65 can you elaborate?

[Asker]

Huuh?

[FamilyGuy2020]

Considering that you're 18 my guess would be throw a quarter, strike someone on the head with a quarter

[In_Trance]

outside. there's 7 billion people on the planet

[OddBeMe]

I’ll be over shortly.
Bringing the gun oil.

[CubaPirate]

Tinder probably 😅

[Zygum]

Go to club, invite some lady for drink, then offer her lunch or dinner in some expensive hotel, this is method to catch some woman