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How/where to meet guys that will wait to have sex? ?

I was wondering how long men that want to be in a relationship are willing to wait for sex and how or where to meet them if I’m not religious.

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  • Realistically, if you're not religious the chances of an adult guy waiting to have sex in the West are slim to none, especially if you're not a virgin.

    I'm not religious, but I prefer to be my girls first (especially if i'm going to marry her), so I understand that this will likely be a church girl (my girlfriend currently is), and the ONLY reason I'm waiting is because she's "saving herself" for marriage. I don't like the fact that we're not having sex, but I'm willing to wait because I have a long-term mindset. If she had had sex before and now wants to put the brakes on (make me wait when she didn't the last guy), or try that bs "born again virgin" status I would be out after a month.

    So, there are two paths. If you're a virgin I'd suggest going to adult co-ed sports leagues, which are available in many cities. If you're not a virgin (nor religious) then I would give up this notion, because no guy who's not religious is going to wait for something that someone else has already had (you've got at best one month).

    • Thanks, I was not saying I want to wait until marriage, but I mean more like wait until I know he likes me for me not just for sex

    • No guy is going to entertain that stupidity. If he gets any hint of you putting out quickly for other guys who you didn't "like" as much as him he's going to get pissed. If you put out easily just stick with that- changing course is treating the next guy worse than the last one, and no guy is going to feel "special" because you liked so much that while you jumped on the other guys dick right away you deprived them of sex because you "liked" them. All guys are going to want you for sex, but some guys aren't going to want you JUST for sex- guys aren't going to wait while you discern this.

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  • How long of a time. Are you talking about when you say “will wait for sex”? Are you talking about abstinence until marriage, or are you talking about abstinence until such time as a long-term relationship is established?


    As for me, prior to meeting the woman that would become my wife I had only had sex with four other women. Those were all long-term relationships. I always waited a minimum of a month, but never longer than six weeks before pursuing PIZ sex. We always had a little bit of touchy-feely before hand, but even oral was off-limits until such time as we were in a committed relationship. I do not believe in abstaining from sex before marriage. It is such an important part of a relationship that you can’t just leave it to chance to find out if you’re compatible.

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  • Library and coffee shops are the best places. Churches are the worst. I found most church boys want to finger and fuck immediately

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • I never waited more than 5 weeks... and at 46 that's a stretch for me. I got no issues or hang ups over sex and find it sexy when women don't either. But if you wanted to wait longer then you better be able to throw down like nobody's business when the time comes... better make it worth the wait.

  • I'd be happy to wait a few weeks if I like a girl, like 4-6 weeks max, after that I would be concerned.

    Try joining an MMA/BJJ club or something similar, it can be great to meet guys who are quite focused and committed.

  • I can't put a specific time, but they should wait until they've taken the time to get to know you and like you for who you are. Like you know that they're serious because they want to spend all their time with you for a while before you have sex. That is like the acid test for showing a serious interest in you.

    So sex when you reach the point where you're like totally comfortable that this guy is really into you. Hard to put a time on that except that it does take time.

    Where to meet them is honestly a tough one. Like it's really trial and error. Like dating apps maybe but you're always going to have to separate the assholes from the good guys. I wish I had a better answer on this one.

  • I was going to say church until I read the last part. :( Just keep trying. There is a man who desires you enough to wait. It will take longer but he's out there.

  • Im willing to wait, in fact my ex was the one who wanna do it so i lost my virginity to her

  • Monastery, Church

  • Church is a good option. Well you know once a guy just wants sex you can rule him out and move right along. You’ll find someone. Better to hold our then be with a degenerate

  • In a fundamentalist church. Some men still prey while they pray but not all.

  • So I refuse to have sex before at least 3 months (6 if you're a virgin). I won't wait more than 2 years though.

    • That’s good enough

  • I'd wait up to a year only if she was a Virgin. Otherwise I demand it immediately or no thanks.

  • Depends sex off the table isn't a bit issue but what a bout affection, cuddles, kissing, foreplay/oral?

    Players won't wait, looks for more shy unconfident maybe type guys, they will most likely wait, I know you girls want the confident guys but those are the type I think you need to look for

  • Anywhere, including G@G

  • Waitrose (it's a British Supermarket)

  • I am willing to wait until marriage. The best place to meet me is at a bowling league, game cafe, or church singles group. Or at least it was when I was single.

  • Women have kind of shot themselves in the foot by resetting the expectation about casual sex. It's the norm now, and most guys expect it. You can find guys who don't, but you'll need to bring more to the table than most modern women do.

  • It's a lot to ask a guy to wait, we only have a certain number of really good years for sex, and if we're waiting around for one girl and not having sex with others, what good does that do? Then you get married and the woman doesn't want to have sex anymore anyway.

    • What if you want to have sex with a guy that wants to be with you only, not a guy that just wants you for sex? How long does it take a guy to know he wants to be with someone

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