How and why did you decide to lose your virginity when you did?

Was it spontaneous, or did you plan out when it would happen? Did it depend on the person or just thr time in your life? If you're with someone else, do you wish the person you are currently with was your first?

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I told my girlfriend within a month if dating that I would not have sex before January 1 (we started dating at the end of June). I also told her I would wait up to 2 years. Then I left it up to her to decide. About a month before January 1 she decided that we would do it then. We had oral on the 31st and then at 0411 on January 2 we had sex. We were both virgins, and we're still together approaching 5 years.
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Superb Opinion

  • I didn't "decide" to lose my virginity. I had been eager to do so for years.

    I started going with a girl when I was 16 and in my first year of high school. We would kiss and hug and she would let me feel her boobs.

    She was 14 but had been in one short-term relationship already. She was also on the pill.

    One night, she invited me into the house trailer that was parked in her parent's back yard. We had to be quiet and keep the lights off, but there was some light coming through the windows.

    Seeing and touching a naked woman's body for the first time was a dream come true.

Most Helpful Guy

  • Well when i was in my early teens i got really focused on loosing mine. But i was really into the love part. Need to find my love blabla. So everyone "was my love" and one magical day when i was 17 it happen. Oh boy what a disaster. I had no idea where to put my hands, i was like almost choking her at one point because my hands where like wrong, pulling her hair because my hands was wrong. Every few moments asking if she was ok, if I'm hunting her. Trying to be gentle. Was a big mess haha

Most Helpful Girls

  • I guess it was kind of spontaneous although I had been thinking about it for awhile before it actually happened. It depended on both the person and the timing. I lost it to my then boyfriend and I felt I was ready. I wouldn’t say I wish the person I’m with rn was my first, although I was his first. I believe things happened the way they did for a reason and I’m happy with that.

  • My boyfriend and I already kind of done everything else and got to the point a few times of teasing actual intercourse but one night we were fooling around and we did it.

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  • a bit of both. We had planned and talked about it, but the actual night was spontaneous. We decided we wanted sex ( we were both college virgins) because we were in love and saw a future. We both moved on but we are still friends

  • Spontaneous

  • Was dating the girl next door and she wanted to do it. Basically she decided we should lose or virginity to each other and when. I just wasn't going to deny myself the chance.

  • It was a crime of opportunity. It was with somebody who I never met before. It was her idea.

  • It was a truth or dare thing. She was dared to have sex with me.

  • I wanted to and I felt ready. Most every girI in my class had. I kind of planned it.