How would I determine her level of sexual interest?

[Anonymous]

i've been hanging out with this girl for a while , i keep seeing her at my local pub , were sort of like friends but hang out and have done shots / drinks together.

have wanted to have sex with her for a while and felt it might be a realistic possibility now but honestly have no clue as to her level of sexual interest in me

i feel like she's interested just cause we spend so much time together but then we've never like done anything intimate and the bar we see each other at is a pub so no dance floor or anything like that. i'm just not sure what to say , we'v talked a lot but never about sexual things , have no clue as to her sexual past or whats she's done or would like to do

i'm honestly pretty open minded , think i'd be go for just about anything if it involved her in the bedroom but i have no clue what she wants

[Swordnen]

Ask her for some action rather than a Date



Let's say bowling, or something like that...

If she comes that's great... you can proceed with the date...

Reason 1. She might not see you as a date guy rn, after the action, you two would have spend some time together... you can actually look in her eye and smile... in our around peoe who knows you and knows her it's hard... but alone is nice...


Don't go for picnic in a park tho lol...

[Asker]

heard the bowling suggestion before , i do think it might work well , its also a group thing so if she doesn't see me as a date the group aspect provides cover and she'd still feel comfortable being there with me although pretty sure she see's me as more than a friend , just based on her actions around me and the way we interact compared to other girls and pretty much everyone at her work thinks there is something going on between us and she doesn't seem at all concerned that they think that

[Asker]

there is 1 small bowling alley in our city , never really been there geographically its not that far from the place i see her at , so it might be a good neutral place to try and get her into that isn't the pub , although doubtful she'd go there by herself , you'd have to allow for some of her girlfriend's to come too i think as typically a bowling group be like 5 or 6 people right?

[Asker]

i also recall her mentioning something about golf and might of saw a post on her instagram about it from last summer she might of been out once. i'm not super familar with golf and the courses here insanely expensive so would want to be pretty sure it was worth the effort it would lead to some action , although not sure she'd want to go alone with me , might have to bring another 2 people which would likely be her best friend ( a girl ) and her boyfriend and after the 2 hours or so of golfing/drinking we'd have a pretty good idea if we got along great or not and if it be worth spending more time together outside of the pub

[Swordnen]

That's a good research boyyy

[Asker]

i'm just not sure when there'd be time for this , like yesterday she worked at the restaurant from 10 am till close which was like 1am at night , that doesn't exactly leave time for much of anything , i did see her there obviously but anything outside be impossible on such a day when her schedule like that

[Guy13]

Treat her like a lady rather than bar hag or bar friend. Isn’t the point to tag bar slut 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Asker]

i treat her well , i've never implied that she was some sort of bar whore or something , i'd just like to have sex with her , which could involve us being in some sort of relationship or a friends with benefits thing might also be an option

[Guy13]

Sounds like you’ve thought through SO onto Implementation 🥳🥳🥳

[lawhawk]

Why not ask her to go on an actual date with you? Somewhere other than the pub.

[Asker]

i'd like to do that , just been the only spot i could regularly see her. i'd like to suggest something but not really sure what she'd be willing to agree to. she's sort of busy and not necessary be easy to fit into her schedule

[lawhawk]

Is there anything near the pub you could walk to? Ask her to just go for a walk with you. If she is interested she won't care what you do and she'll make the time.

[Asker]

there is other restaurants but she doesn't seem to like any of them as far as i know , i've never seen her at any of them. is some clothing stores , bakery type place , tattoo place is this park but not much there , sometimes during the summer is events and such so could be more to do then

[Asker]

i feel too people generally want someone that fits into there existing life so i don't sense she's looking for different things to do rather someone who'd fit nicely into what she already does as she's really busy with work her restaurant too is busier when the weather is nice so most of her off days would be rainy days when there was much less to do here she obviously does other things than just bar , she looks like she goes to gym but never saw her there and she's never said she's a member so not sure where she gets her exercise

[lawhawk]

Ask her. If you are trying to gage interest that is how you do it.

[Asker]

agree asking her would gage interest, i'm not sure there is an issue with her level of interest in me rate now , just not entirely sure how to take things further but it will have to involve something outside the pub