How would you feel if your partner had a sex dream about someone other than you?

Would you feel insecure, jealous or angry? Or would it not bother you since we can’t control our subconscious and dreams don’t always have a deeper meaning?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Always got me hot.

    My 20 something girlfriend when I was 20 something, told me one day when we were out shopping, "I've got to go home and masturbate"! When I asked her about it, she showed me a guy in the store that apparently got her 'wet'. I told her she should go and try to strike up a conversation with him to find out something more, and that would make her masturbation session to him "hot" and exciting. I would have LOVED to have watched her masturbate to him and actually 'been in her head" visualizing what she was seeing, imagining.

    Let's be honest. I don't think there is anybody on this planet, married, dating, secure et cetera, that does NOT have sexual feelings about others (men and women) and from my POV, it is naive to think otherwise. There was an interesting article online about this same thing.

    • Read on line, that several actresses, including one that surprised me, Cameron Diaz, said that it is not realistic to look at other men and imagine or having sex with other men, or men with other women. Many say this is not or SHOULD NOT be the case, but it is what it is. Thanks for the MHO BTY!!!

    • P. S. Watch Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman in Eyes Wide Shut!

  • I wouldn't be angry, there's no controlling what you dream. In fact, if it was good enough that she told me, maybe she'd want to try out the fantasy in real life. It'd be hot to replace him and be the object of her dream.

Most Helpful Girls

  • I do hand job to finish that stupid dream, etc I will put my hand down to finish him one time I finger his hole he waked up and his dream gone😭 without cum only nocturnal erection, I just took a shower and didn't sit on it

    • That's just hot

  • I wouldn’t worry about it I’d ask for the details lol

    • My girlfriend at that time would do the same thing, and so would I have. Hard to understand the jealousy for something like that.

    • What of the person was someone you knew

    • @dinojames22 That wouldn't be surprising since when humans dream of people is typically of someone they know or have seen before. Dreams dont really mean anything. I dreamt I bought a hippo not long ago... its not like Im gonna go get one haha

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  • I don't know why your partner would feel the need to share that with you. Something’s are just better left unsaid

  • I'd feel jealous but I would have to remind myself that sometimes dreams are out of our control

  • Not really. Dreams are just dreams. Does it mean she's attracted to whoever she dreamed about? Probably; that's natural, and I don't expect her hormones to stop carbonating just because I'm around. I WOULD appreciate that she trusted me enough to tell me, and wonder why she was telling me.

  • I wouldn't be bothered. It's not something we can control. Psychologists think dreams are a metaphor and represent problems in our waking daily lives

  • Never mind the sex, I'd prefer her having dreams of another guy paying for dates and trips... and her making it happen.

    I get tired of footing the bills.

  • no it wouldn't bother me, after all I still have visions/ dreams of my school boyfriend, we nearly had sex but didn't. still wonder what could have life been like if we had

    • Yes, it is not uncommon or unusual

    • @Bricealan that I know

  • I don't know about other men but I dare not mention it. She gets angry at me for things that happen in her dreams lol

  • neither... and it is not a big deal really

    they have them before and so have I, I consider it a very normal thing

    as far as I know, we cannot really control our dreams like that

    and if that were the case... I would have slept 20 hours a day during my youth and dream with Jessica Biel every single night and need no girlfriend at all, lmao...

  • Weird but why would I know it? I mean all of us have dreams like that. It is not cheating, they are just dreams.

  • You can’t help it I had one the other day about a celebrity. They should just not tell you out of respect. It would only create unnecessary jealousy especially if it was with a former sexual partner.

  • It's only a dream. I'm guessing you've dreamt of someone other than your partner. We can't control our subconscious

  • Sorry this is a girl hangup. I don't care never do. Bang the shit out or Ryan gosling in your dream honey. Because I find when you wake up Ryan has you hot and ready But I am there to reap the benefits.

  • People can't control their dreams, but they can control whether they tell their partner about it or not. Since it is something that didn't happen IRL they should just keep it to themselves. Why intentionally try to give your partner bad thoughts.

  • I'd feel insecure

  • Terrible

  • I would feel that they are normal. They can't control dreams.

  • Well maybe you shouldn’t tell your partner about that in the first place.

    It’s natural to dream or even fantasize about having sex with someone else besides your partner. The danger arises when you actually consider seriously doing it.

  • A dream is just a dream. But as a polyamorous person I'd be curious if it's someone I know.

  • Tell me about it and I’ll prove her wrong.

  • I wouldn't like it, but it's just a dream, not reality

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