How would you feel if your partner watches porn despite being in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

[PrettyPriya]

I would be concerned because to my knowledge, he doesn't watch pornography. So, if I found out that he was, I would be worried. Like what else is he hiding? This is purely based on my own situation.

Let's say I knew about it. I wouldn't like it. I don't watch that stuff and find it a complete wasted of time personally. There is so much to do in a day, I just don't have time and hope that he would use his time better as well.

Then I would wonder why he needs to watch that. Am I not enough? We have a healthy intimate life together. So, I would have not clue why he would need "extra" entertainment. I would feel kind of devalued to a point.

The last thing I would be wondering is what nonsense did he see that he now wants to try in bed. That might be my biggest worry. Luckily, I don't have this issue (again, to my knowledge) so I don't have to worry about it. The scenarios I list are purely fictitious.

[BJP21]

Here's the question... What turns him on? How do guys come about going into Victoria Secrete for Lingerie? Or Buy you a sexy dress? Dont get me wrong you are absolutely correct.

[AmandaYVR]

Absolutely fine. All guys do. It's normal. Relationship, or not.

Girls have to not be so controlling that they want to be the only element of their man's sex life. Being an autonomous individual, with their own wants and needs, and timing, are all things girls need to learn. If the guy has a stronger sex drive, why should he be limited by his girlfriend's insecurity? He's with you, not cheating on you. (Unless he's video'ing and paying money for 'the girlfriend experience' with them.)

[BJP21]

Thank you for saying that because my former girlfriend hated porn, for the sheer fact that she didn't look like the girls in the set. She also had this insecurity over me sexualizing her in things I saw in a porn. I've tried explaining to her, these are things that turn me on. It had nothing to do with cheating, which she often blamed it on. One thing was apparent I would never think to cheat, nor would I seek out a porn star to date them. I wouldn't even think of venturing into a strip club in hopes of getting lucky. The porn was limited to what I watched in the privacy of my own home.

[AmandaYVR]

@BJP21 You're welcome. Yeah, I can understand not respecting the girls because they earn their living doing this (it's so no-skill, just social engineering men), but insecurity really wreaks havoc on people, when they feel they are competing, and don't measure up. I see people try to justify all types of things, to satisfy a very emotional feeling that they can't reconcile anyway else. Females really need to understand that being able to explore other interests is often what KEEPS people together, monogamous; it doesn't always tear them apart.

[HighValue]

Simple, if she doesn't want him watching porn because she wants his attention only on her, she needs to delete her social media because all of her attention should only be on him.

No? Disagree? Must because women can't hold themselves to the same standards as they hold men to. Hypocritical.

[mrmonogamous]

My wife can’t stand it when I watch porn, however, it gives me ideas that I want to try with her. Those usually work out in her favor! it would turn me on, incredibly if she would watch porn, but she thinks it’s degrading. I told her to consider it an instructional video!

[Red_Arrow]

I would be fine with her watching as long as she is not starring in.

[Sirenboobzilla]

He does. I watch it too. Sometimes we watch together and try to act stuff out

[BJP21]

Ill agree with you... I think the most important thing is Tapp into your partners fantasies and find out what he's into.

[summiter]

No big deal as long as it does not mess up our sex life at all.

[dustybiker]

Depends on if he wants to share and use ideas or not. Perspective is everything.

[Berethor]

I am a guy so I don't make drama out of it, it's okay as long as the porn is not too weird.

[mandyfire98]

I've never had a partner need to watch porn that I've been with because I have a high sex drive. I would however be ok with a partner watching porn.

[SnowedIn]

Totally fine. Both me and my wife watch porn. Sometimes together and sometimes separate.

[whereismyjohnny]

I wouldn't have a problem with it tbh.

[Agape93]

Couldn't care less

[Fireguy17]

Fine with me.
I had an ex that loved porn, so she would be all worked up and ready to go, so why would I complain about that.

[FilmGuy93]

I wouldn’t care. I wouldn’t even care if she slept with other men. All I care about is emotional intimacy.

[IveGotNoName]

I would find it a bit odd since we live together and he wouldn't exactly feel the need to do that.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Thats fine, pretty much everyone watches porn. my ex gfs even sent me porn while we were dating.

[Googlemyahoo]

We watch porn together

[AndrésC64]

I'd think that that was normal and offer to watch it together.

[KostasKouvalis]

Why would that bother me?

[Quidthonian]

I would like her to be open about it. I would support her. I would take interest in what she watches, and if she would want to try some of the stuff in real life.

[BJP21]

I beg the day I find the right girl who catches me watching porn and takes advantage of me while I have a hard on.

[Emanon25]

Not good

[Twalli]

My girlfriend doesn't care. I don't watch it when she's here, because I don't need to. If I'm horny and she's here thrm we have sex.