How would you react to find out you'rea father?

[Anonymous]

This is gonna seem very complicated, and I'm so sorry for that. For starters I'm using my sister's account, I'm actually eighteen. So when I was twelve I had a best friend named Jason, and we did have romantic feelings for each other. I loved him and still do. One day one thing led to another and we ended up having sex... a few times that day. And because we where so young we didn't use a condom. So fast forward about a month and a half. He ended up just up and moving and not telling me... I have no idea why. And about a week after that I found out I was pregnant. Gave birth to a beautiful baby girl and she's now a sweet little five year old. But her father Jason ended up moving back to town the middle of last month. And he has no idea about our little girl together. And I have barely spoken to him since he's been here, so I was wondering how to end brooch the subject of telling him he's a dad.

[COMMODOREII]

I would try getting in touch with him first and act like you want to see him again. Then once you get a hold of him in person talk to him and then eventually bring up that day you were together. When you talk to him mention the idea of kids and see what he says. Then when you can and he is open to it ask him if he would like to be a father. Let me him think about it for a bit. Then if he says yes and he is interested then remind him about the day again. When he realizes it ask if he would like to meet his daughter. For me i would be so happy. I hope it works out for you and your daughter. Good luck. *hugs*

[Guardian45]

Personally, I would be over the moon, but this is not about how would react, but about your baby daddy!

I imagine he could have a whole gamut of emotions from terrified, horror, overwhelmed, full of love, sense of duty and responsibility, determination, protective, happiness, depression, and so on.

If this sounds like how it feels to find out you are pregnant and about to become a parent, then you would be correct.

You owe it to him to tell him; he is responsible and should support you and his child willingly. I would, but I am not him. The last thing this world needs is another abandoned child.

[Anonymous]

This feels like just another Wattpad story, I didn't imagine it happens in real life. It may come as a shock at first as he'll be unprepared, you should tell his tho.

[Bhavin2184]

First how he does not know that he have a child I mean when you were pregnant you or your parents must have tried to contact him or his family?
Whatever He should be responsible for the kid

[Asker]

The problem was when he moved his number and everything changed. I couldn't find anyway to contact him or his parents. And my parents basically threw me out when they found out. I've been living with my big sister since.

[Bhavin2184]

Just tell him truth but he should be still responsible for kid Do you want something from him? I think you should ask from child support because it's his child too

[Asker]

No. I just want him to know about her... And even though I'm angry he left and never told me I do miss him...

[Bhavin2184]

If I was in same situation as a girl I would definitely be angry and beat him shit out of him because of suffering and pain. So don't worry just tell him About missing him part is he single? Just tell him for now maybe if he some feelings he might consider to have relation with you

[Asker]

Yes as far as I know he's single. He's tried speaking to me everyday since he's been back. But I've just been to scared and mad to talk back.

[Bhavin2184]

You still love him than go for it also you whether he actually have true love for you or not you will know after telling him truth and spending time with him but at least try.

[Asker]

Okay, I'll try. Thank you.

[magiusX26]

just tell him

[worldscolide]

If its my wife, id be ecstatic, If its some random woman i would demand a DNA test because I've never been with someone without protection.

[Asker]

It's the girl you loved when you where twelve years old and slept with.

[worldscolide]

LOL that would never have happened. i was more interested in video games, legos, and trucks when i was 12 than sex. I was a virgin until i was 16

[Asker]

I'm asking because of the question I clearly asked in the description... which you clearly didn't read.

[worldscolide]

So the question in the headline VASTLY differs from the description.. If you want advice on how to broach it thats different. yeah guilty i didn't read the entirety of it because the idea of a 12 year old getting pregnant to me is ridiculous. Now on to the other part. The best way is to try to invite him over with your family (assuming they know) and just tell him. I dont know how he will react, but he deserves to know. I know if it were me id want to support in any way i could..

[Asker]

I no longer live with my parents because of this. And yes i know the idea i got pregnant at twelve is ridiculous.

[worldscolide]

Crap. you still need to invite him over and tell him. or meet him in a public place and tell him.

[Asker]

Do you think his reaction will be bad?

[worldscolide]

it depends on what you know about him.. I would say no, unless there is animosity between you two

[Asker]

No. Basically before he left we where inseparable from each other.

[worldscolide]

I doubt he will be upset. Maybe scared, but not upset. Of course he might be upset that you didn't tell him earlier.

[Asker]

I tried... But once he left it was impossible to find him.

[worldscolide]

Yeah that's not your fault

[worldscolide]

In any case he needs to know

[Asker]

Okay. Thank you.

[FriendlyEnigma]

I mean, idrk this dude so i can't give you a good answer. Personally, id be hella sus but if it was fr mine, id take responsibilty. But thats only cuz my mama whooped that behavior into me.. so just tell him and see how it goes

[Asker]

Well she is his... I mean I've only been with him like that.

[FriendlyEnigma]

Yeah, but most people would still wanna get the dna test, which i wouldn't blame him about. Word of mouth ain't always trustworthy, either way, hope it goes well

[Tstrbrainer]

Reactions may differ from person to person.
If it was me, I'll just try and take it normally and will try to be involved in the kid's life, at least pay some visits.

In my opinion, you should tell him. Both him and your child deserves to know