Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
On GirlsAskGuys recently, I asked a question regarding how people initiated sexual intercourse, and apparently, many people just reported that they don't overtly ask for consent. In many cases, consent is implicit. One person may signal behavioral cues. The other person may either welcome or reject the sexual advance. If the other person welcomes the advance, then the sex happens. If the other person rejects the sexual advance, then it's up to the initiator whether the initiator wants to ignore the rejection or respects the other person's refusal. If the initiator respects the other person's refusal, then the sex does not happen or stops immediately. If the initiator does not respect the other person's refusal, then the sex becomes rape.
Here are things that you need to know about how consent works in a legal framework:
* Consent must be explicit, implicit, complete, thorough, and informed. In addition to the implicit consent that is already exchanged between couples, you must explicitly ask your partner whether your partner wants to have sex with you. You must also give a complete and thorough summary of your sexual history. This is to help your partner to become aware of how many previous partners you've slept with and whether or not you've contracted STIs from those partners and whether or not you've been tested for any STIs. Finally, informed consent involves telling your partner exactly what is going to happen, which is sexual intercourse. You must be able to articulate that you are going to have sexual intercourse with your partner, how it is going to be achieved, what positions you are going to do, where you are going to do it, how long the sexual intercourse will take approximately, and that your partner can refuse participation in the act at any time at no penalty on your partner's part.
* Consent must be made by both partners above the age of consent. The age of consent may vary in your jurisdiction, so check your local laws and abide by them.
* Consent must be able by partners who are legally able to give consent to sexual intercourse. That means you cannot have sex with a minor (like I said in the previous bullet point) and you cannot have sex with a non-human.
* Consent can be withdrawn at any time during coitus, anal penetration, fellatio, or cunnilingus. If a person wants out, then he or she wants out. And the partner just has to respect that, even though the partner desperately wants to get an orgasm or sexual pleasure. The underlying belief is that the concern of another human being in conjunction with the self-sacrifice of one's own pleasure should be the priority. The shared activity should be about making love or making babies, and the sexual pleasure that springs out of the love and/or intention to make babies is a nice byproduct that Mother Nature has given in order to do it again and again and again.
So, this is myTake on avoiding rape and getting in trouble with the law. Stay safe, and have fun!
What Girls & Guys Said
14 38This is a load of crap. I think most idiots know what consent is.
Don't be born a girl don't be born in jail
"forced to envelop" happens to men outside of prison at very similar rates (inside of 1% diff) to forcible rape, per the CDC's 2011 NISVS.
Men should tell and school other men, dont be an animal and dont rape women. Not us women,"oh please dont rape us".. fucking bullshit.
People are full of shit and stupidity.
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Except you left something out. WE ALREADY KNOW. Less than 1% of us just don't give a shit and no amount of "schooling" is going to change it. Also, in a macroscopic society the incidence of rape will never be 0, just like many other incidences (murder, arson, whatever else). Rape is a vanishingly rare crime.
@Transigence well but i dont see this 99% of men defending woman from rapist animals, as you write it. maybe you are not that right after all... but ok, keep the good work and school those bastratd. E. g.: russians beat up some muslim ass recently, when they tried to harrass girls, you know "refugees"that we have in Europe now.
.357mag should do the trick
Lmfao I thought this was going to be about some self defense techniques but um.. No next time I'm about to get raped I'll make sure to check if the rapist and I are at or above the age of consent thanks 😊 nice MyTake.
Most actual sex where both people are cool with it will dramatically die down doing this crap. They'll get bored the guy will go limp as a biscuit and the girl will feel as dry as the Sahara going through this like 5 stage process just to get to sex. You are completely eliminating foreplay. Maybe you don't care because that's something you never cared about but you don't get to ruin the rest of humanity by forcing them to not go through foreplay like you. Learn to read body language, that's all you need.
This take is so bad it should be removed from the site.
Pursuing sex as a man requires some risk. Asking directly for consent about sexual positions and shit is a mood killer and she won't want to fuck anymore anyways. Women like the spontaneity and assertiveness of a man, all this bullshit in this take kills the mood
yeah i have to do something about women attacking me all the time. well some of us just can't help being so desirable... .
So if me and my girlfriend are alone together (17 so above age of consent in our home nation). Things escalate and we have sex. Neither of us asked for explicit consent. Who raped who as she didn't ask me for consent or did I rape her since i didn't ask her for conset. Bear in mind sometimes I slip a condomand insert into her. Other times she might be sitting on me, and suddenly puts a condom on me and proceeds to sit on my winky.
From your definition we're two rampant rapists. Its happened probably close to a hundred times in our two year relationship.
Yeah you raped each other at the same time