Hubby asked me if I ever been gangbang I answered with the truth now his upset how can I make him happy again?

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  • Which is why, never ever ask your partner something unless. You are prepared for the answer.

    basically, it will play through his mind a lot, his fault for asking.

    while I would have advised saying no, that also means you lying…, lesser lie is often better than truth.

    what’s done is done, it could have been this or how many partners.

    one of the problems in life is we tend to live for the hear and now, and regret later or not regret, have to deal with our own past.

    me I have that many skeletons in my cupboard I feel like a grave robber, I will lie about a shit load of it if asked directly. Some shit future partners do not really need to know or actually could deal with,

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  • Unfortunately, I don't know how I can make him happy again because I don't have a clue as to what made him sad. You mentioned that the truth upset him but you didn't give any details what the truth was so I honestly don't know how to chear the guy up, cuz I don't know what's got him down in the first place, so if you could elaborate a bit by clarifying what the truth was that got this guy down so much, they might be able to think of a suggestion on how to make him feel better, about that truth, that got him down so much.
    Unfortunately, it's nearly impossible for me to recommend a solution to a problem if I don't know what the problem is.🤯😵🥴?

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  • You can't. I assume you told him that, yes, you did have a gang bang. That will most likely play on his mind forever. Something in your relationship has gone, and it will be extremely difficult to get it back.

    As I always say to people, what seems like fun at the time, may come back to haunt you in years to come. That's what has happened here.

    • I was 15 when it happen and it only happen once..

    • Your age at the time is irrelevant. This is something you should have discussed with your SO BEFORE you got married. In effect, you married him with secrets. Your best hope is the old saying, "Time is the best healer".

    • I think if you are hiding any other secrets, that you tell him now, rather than they become known in the future. People who may know your secrets have a nasty habit of opening their mouths when you least want them to.

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  • You should say, "fuck you, asshole -- you asked!! -- Not my problem you can't handle the truth. I am respecting you by telling you the truth -- And what does it matter anyway? - It doesn't so grow up & get over it."

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  • Guy's have fragile egos. He probably has some sexual history that he would not want you to know, but there is a double-standard there.

    • He can never value her the way he would be able to value a woman that had not done such.

  • Call. Bunch of guy friends and have him gangbang. He should’ve never asked that question if he didn’t want the answer. That was unfair for you. And selfish of him.

    • Gosh, I’m so sorry bout the typos.

  • Why do I find this hard to believe?

    Hubby asked me if I ever been gangbang I answered with the truth now his upset how can I make him happy again?
  • Go back in time and give him a full disclosure of your history before you get married, and then you won't have this problem at some time later.

  • Show him the video that one of the guys took. That should make him happy, although it has probably been on the internet and seen by many others already.

  • That's why unless its life or death. Your past sex life should stay there.

  • Talk him into attending an orgy with you and give him permission to do it with as many girls there as he wants while you do your thing. Or give him a one day get out of jail free cheating card where you give him permission to cheat on you with anyone he wants for just one day.

  • You should've lied. I don't know this is fixable lol.

  • By arranging a gangbang with his family?

    What else exactly did you think he was going to say?

    • I don't know :/ . Be happy.

    • At which point you would've done what, arranged another gang bang, right?

  • His problem for being a dumbass and getting married.

  • Omg, something just lie til you die, Lol

    • Lie to your partner; it's a great basis for a relationship.

  • His own fault for answering a question he didn't want the answer to. Too bad if he didn't like the truth. His reaction isn't your problem to solve

  • This is a difficult situation. The only way he can be happy now is if he focuses on who you are today and values that. Hopefully you have treated each other well up to now. A lot depends on that now. A good relationship is not so easy to find these days and a lot of people treat their spouses horribly, so if he has that in mind it should be easier for him to overlook your past.

  • Have another gang bang and invite him, this time.

    • Ok "/

  • Tell him to get over it, it's in the past.

  • Is he upset because he missed it or because he knows some of the guys that participated?
    Or that you won't do it again?

  • depends on why this conversation came up?
    teasing talk? sex talk? was he verifying something he heard from the guys at work?

    what was your verbal response vs. what was your non-verbal response?

    i dated a girl that played one role (most of the time) .. but when the topic of a gangbang came up she would blush and start breathing heavy.. lost all control for a few minutes

    but she was the same way in situations when going out.. normal most of the time... but if a particular guy or group of guys flirted with her she got excited (right in front of me)

    she wanted to be the good.. but i knew there was something else going on.

    she never admitted shit though - i suspected she had been doubled before
    very fucking hot

    in your case? I don't know what did he see? why did he ask?

  • He probably thought he married a nice traditional woman or something?

    I mean if you didn't want to marry a whore you should've asked them or asked around. It's that simple.

    • Whores are fun…I mean, Jesus even saved a whore cause they can change. LoL. But they’ll never be virgins again….. no matter what comes outta that whore mouth. LoL.

    • @HSSC12 It's more like people that sleep around have a much worse marriage success rate, so if you want to marry someone and they were a virgin it would likely be a successful marriage where if your partner had sex with 5 people you have dipped well below the 50% mark.

    • I personally would never want to have to endure a divorce.

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  • Must have been a yes. But why did this suddenly get brought up. Sounds like he wanted ego stroked should have lied. If he is that insecure after years of marriage why is he with you? just say you didn't really participate you write camera lady

  • It’s up to him to come around

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