Husband keeps looking at porn knowing it's hurtful to me, and after promising not to do so... what's your opinion?

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  • Hurtful as in he's hurting your feelings because he's not considering your wishes (demands) or he watches things and tries to force you to do demeaning things?
    The latter is a major issue, the former is no big deal and it sounds like you want to control him.

    Instead of you, one adult, making rules for him, another adult, why don't you at least consider that he's watching porn because he's searching for something he's not found anywhere else?

    If he was doing something illegal and abusive... it doesn't matter why. It has to stop. But This is an issue of preference. So in this case try to figure out why he's watching porn without judging him.
    If he feels he's in a cage in the house then he might spread his wings somewhere else.
    You don't own him, you don't have any authority or right to punish him.
    You have the responsibility to do your part and seek understanding and compromise between the both of you.
    You can't make him communicate but you can do your part.
    And don't just give up if he's not willing to open up right away. He might not feel like he can trust you with his private thoughts.
    Good luck, I hope you find what you need.

Most Helpful Guy

  • I'm guessing he has fantasies that you're not fulfilling, either because you refused or because he's never shared them.

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Most Helpful Girl

  • Just let him do it as long as it isn’t getting in the way or your interactions together.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • I think if he's promised to do so, then he should keep his promises. I'm sorry your husband is a jerk.

  • Well you need to work on yourself, if you get hurt by him watching porn. If you have let yourself go under the years maybe do something about that, maybe take some iniein bed to know you still want to have sex. So he doesn't need to use porn as a escape.

  • How is this hurtful to you? Would you be happier if he were playing a video game? What's the real problem? Is he neglecting you and watching porn instead? Then the problem is not the porn, it's his withdrawal from the relationship.

  • Maybe he has kinks ur not into and porn is a release of sexual frustration.

  • You should demand he do it discreetly so you don't see it. And then don't go snooping around.

  • Does he not fuck you?

  • I'd let him to try out some moves on you

  • Sounds like he is addicted to porn.

  • then you need to get help, like, not gag help, im talking marital counseling help

  • you're ridiculous

  • He is learning different positions

  • Try watching it with him and copying what he is watching