Husband lost interested in sex?

[Anonymous]

Anyone guys out there with the same problem? How are you handling it?

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Try to enquire about his daily life. Is he stressed? How is work going for him? Is he caring about a sick relative? Is he worried about money or something else?

Contrary to popular belief, men aren't always 100% ready for sex no matter what. When a man is stressed, worried or in pain, the sex drive is usually the first thing that takes a nosedive.

I myself had this experience when I suffered a personal tragedy at the start of September - it took a couple of months to get me back to normal and ready to engage in intimacy with my wife.

[Anonymous]

There are many reasons he could be disinterested. Most common :-

1) He is shagging someone else.

2) He could be a closet gay/asexual.

3) No longer finds you attractive.

4) Porn/erotica/sexting etc addiction (Yup... he's masturbating away to it)

5) Work related stress or tiredness.

6) Early onset of health or medical conditions such as thyroid/slowing T, could also be a situation where he might be undiagnosed with conditions requiring medical attention such as hypertension, diabetes or heart diseases.

How long as this been going on?

[Revvl]

I hate to say it, but I doubt he's lost interest in sex.

[Woodchuck411]

It does happen but sometimes maybe spicing it up will help bring it back together but also to if you're not being satisfied you're going to Adventure out to something else

[boggboss]

And u have spoken to him about it

[Asker]

So many times.

[boggboss]

And what was said

[Asker]

I always ask gently. He is never defensive. But I feel like I am walking on eggshells. He says he doesn’t want to bother me because sometimes I am sleeping. So I told him that he can wake me up. Literally, I would love that. He said that it really doesn’t cross his mind that much and that he is happy to whenever I would like. But then I probably get shut down 90% of the time with a loud no thank you and I feel so bare and stupid. He has said sometimes he is busy and it’s inconvenient. so I have tried to scheduled it days in advance. Ok how about Thursday at 7pm. Or whatever other time we are not at work. He can pick, I don’t care. Sometimes that works, if I’m the one to follow through. He’s said that he’s too tired on week days, so I’ll suggest scheduling it in for the weekend. It’s the same thing. Unless I follow through, it won’t happen. I’ve tried asking him what he would like, how I can do things differently. I’m open to trying almost anything. My lingerie drawer is based off his preferences although i rarely wear them anymore, because somehow the rejection hurts less if I didn’t dress up for it. I eat well and haven’t had a significant change in weight. I don’t know what else to do. He is stressed at his new job and has gained weight, but this has been going on for a long time before that.

[boggboss]

Its most likely just him have you told him how it makes u feel

[Dargil]

It can help to add new elements to it. We added anal play to it. Blow job/hand job with anal fingering or even on its own. There other things you can add as well.

[TroyDT2]

Without knowing anything about him it is difficult. Stress, or low T as he ages are common. Obesity can also do this. Secret porn addiction. Without specifics it is difficult to say.

[Sparkie460]

My wife lost interest in sex a long time ago when she went through menopause

[JPresidente]

Guys are visual creatures so he could be turned off by your appearance (no insult intended) if you've let yourself go. Another reason is the sex is boring and you need to spice things up. Other reasons could be porn addiction, he is chatting with another woman on the side or he has E. D.

There are solutions to all of these but it depends on which one it is.

[Asker]

Very helpful. Thank you.

[Noodle_fan]

the reason can be anything ,

work related stress , or he is just exhausted because of his job , can lower his drive

[MrMatasch]

You can send me a message for details

[kareka]

Try new things!! Maybe

[MasterKS]

This is result of most marriage.

[zrnobya]

I don't understand why my wife is no longer interested.

[Asker]

I am so sorry.

[zrnobya]

nvm.

[Anonymous]

I don't have a man 🤣

[Anonymous]

I think you need marriage counseling. But. Don’t force the issue of sex because if you do something he said no to. You can find yourself in legal trouble.

Stick by him. Sometimes after a while maybe people just loose interest sometimes. Maybe a sex therapist could help.

As well as having a more romantic life. Like snuggling. Kissing. Dates. Things like that.