I always feel sad and dirty after sex. is it ok?

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Makeushiver · Accepted Answer

I'd be curious to hear the thoughts that accompany that since it''s too bad that you feel that way. Fell free to PM me if you want to discuss details. I get flooded by the neurotransmitters that make you feel safe (Serotonin) and happy (Dopamine). I stretch out & feel like what big cats; jaguars, tigers etc feel when they languidly rest after feeding. My favorite part is chatting with my lover while she is still w/o clothes and has her head propped up by elbow. The line that - if traced- starts with her head, curves down to her neck then rises at her shoulders and then swoops down her belly, rises at her hips and tapers down her thighs, calves and ankles is so beautiful that it exceeds any artistic attempt to create it. If you know and like sculpture there is a bronze cast from a 20th century sculptor named Brancusi named "Bird in Flight" he was commissioned to sculpt a bird and instead did something that showed the grace of a wing and bird flying. It;s beautiful but doesn't compare to a woman's body

DannyUk2017 · Accepted Answer

Is not Ok, but now depends who you do it with too...
If you do it just couse you feel "itchy" but you don't like the guy, then yeah... feels like that!.
If you do it couse you want "revenge" on someone, then again yes!.
But if you have none and the guy is 🔥, then the only thing is that you must have "spoken with girlfriend's" before about this, and you got grossen out, and disgusted and this got "programmed" in your brain... and it makes sense.. as you say SEX not Love making! So yeah! It can feel dirty!

JHwong · Accepted Answer

No something is wrong there. I'm not sure why that's the case maybe its who you are doing it with or what he/she is doing to you? Past trauma? Be open about your feelings with your partner, and try to figure out what's up even if it means talking to a therapist.

cjgsu · Accepted Answer

I think u need 2 figure out y u feel that way and how it started.

AustinMan · Answer

Sounds like you have some unresolved stuff surrounding it. I'd suggest a little therapy.

Marcuslrh · Answer

Not ok no it will be because of who your having sex with and how your having sex

Squirts93 · Answer

U might have kinks; when vanilla sex just doesn't do it for people or makes them feel depraved or disgusted, they need to experiment to find out what does.

Try sensory depravation. Blindfold, ear plugs, restraints etc. Taking away a bit of freedom can make the part of your brain that feels regret get overriden with fight or flight which is more primal and powerful and, more importantly, is self regulating (except in ptsd patients). Ofcourse you need a dom who is empathic and experienced enough to care about your sexual wellbeing and activate your animal brain without losing control and properly aftercares.

Jean-Marie_Céline · Answer

I feel the same. Just lie back and think of Calais I guess.

JPrez · Answer

Some people who were abused when they were younger feel this. Were you abused? Also, some people feel immense guilt if you are betraying someone or doing it when you should not be.

ghostqueen · Answer

Of course it isn't

TadCurious · Answer

I would rather you felt happy and not dirty.

bowenw · Answer

If it happens all the time you should speak to your doctor.

DavidFox · Answer

Nope, after making love with your SO you should feel protected and cared for, wrapped in his arms knowing he chooses you to be in a relationship with over everyone else. If you feel negatively, make different choices.

JosyJosy · Answer

No. Why would you keep having sex if you feel sad afterwards

ColHathi · Answer

That doesn't sound good :/ Do you know why you feel that way?

Browneye57 · Answer

Of course not. You're either doing it wrong, with the wrong people, or you need a shrink. Either which way, I'm guessing the latter may of benefit. You can get a referral from your primary doctor.

tofamous · Answer

Well if you feel dirty because sex is wet and messy or is it you feel dirty on the inside I think feel and dirty on the inside something traumatic has happened to you earlier in your life I hope and pray not however it is a possibility