I am 20 years old and I am a virgin, and it feels like a burden. I have been feeling so horny, I just want to have sex with anyone. Is that okay?

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It's not exactly a random guy. It's someone I have known for 2 months. We aren't really friends, but he's sexually active already, and I wanted an experienced guy. He said he doesn't believe in sex with condoms, so we agreed to do it raw. I decided to get PEP pills to not catch any diseases. Right now all I can think of is him cumming inside me. What is wrong with me? I don't feel comfortable masturbating.
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  • It's okay for the rest of the world, but it might not be okay with you.

    Most guys can handle casual sex, but most girls have trouble, because, no matter what they thought or intended at the start, girls tend to fall in love with a guy she has sex with even if she doesn't want to, and once that happens, she completely forgets that it was only casual sex, and she now wants "more" from the guy (a relationship, or something close to it), and when the guy doesn't respond the same way - which is usually the case - then she feels hurt. This is true even if casual sex was her idea.

    This isn't to say that 100% of women work this way, because some definitely CAN have casual sex, but most really can't, and even though they try anyway, they just end up getting their feelings hurt because their heart doesn't agree with their brain.

    This is why you've been taught - mostly from other women in your life: your mom, grandmothers, aunts, sisters, friends, etc. - that you really want to have your first time with a boyfriend. That way, he's almost certain to be there for you emotionally after the fact. If you just have sex with a random guy, and you get attached and develop feelings, but that guy isn't interested in those feelings, then you'll likely feel hurt and upset and you'll blame sex for making you feel that way, but it's not really sex in general that's the problem, but rather CASUAL sex that's the issue for you.

    Maybe you're one of the exceptions who can do casual sex without falling for the guy - it's possible, though unlikely. Or, maybe you're okay knowing that you'll likely be emotionally hurt afterwards, but it's worth getting past your first time. That's okay too - some girls prefer that. At least, if you understand the likely outcomes, you can make a fully-informed decision, and you can take responsibility for the outcome, whatever it ends up being.

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  • normal. you aren't designed to gothrough life without a mate. it's mating season based upon the clock.

    So ya get your mojo on, go find a boyfriend. get in shape, spiff up that personality, get married or whatever it takes and problem solved. Before you know it, you have 2 kids, a dog, white picket fence.

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  • If your virginity matters to you keep it try having a masturbation schedule so you can find the right guy for losing your virginity to him.
    But if it doesn't matter to you it's a good time for you to gain some sexual experience for your true love which you will find in the future

  • I would suggest that if you want to lose the virgin card, you get involved with a good guy who will make it a special occasion. This is the one of those events in your life you will always remember, and you don't want to say it was some guy you chose on Tindr or something lame like that.

  • Sounds pretty normal

  • its okay to be really horny about the sex with anyone tho, that is not my choice, its yours, you do whatever floats your boat

  • sure

  • Not just anyone... try to get a good partner for you and your life.. after all your wish. But just be careful on whom you chose.

  • Dont - dude who slept with anyone at one point in his life.

  • Why wouldn't it be ok? Lol its your life live it how you want to! If your horny and want to have sex do it! If you want to stay a virgin for whatever reason do it! Its your life 😊

  • Damn girl. That’s good and bad.

  • Only with real guy

  • At your age what you are experiencing is hormones. Being horny all the time.
    It’s normal, every girl goes through that. It woun’t last forever.
    What I suggest is lots and lots of masturbating. It’s safer than fucking some stranger.

  • Nice. Virgins are nice because they are just as inexperienced as me which makes me feel less insecure. I have a set of questions for you to answer:
    1) Are you blonde?
    2) Are you thin?
    3) Do you consider yourself at least an 8.5/10? (pls be honest with urself)
    4) Do you cook a good stew?
    5) Would driving me around be something of interest to you?
    6) Does the thought of a man's seed being planted inside you arouse you?

    If you answered "yes" to all of these questions then I'd like you to contact me. I would be interested in planting my sweet seed inside of you.

  • If your body needs it.. dont torture yourself

  • No, patience find the right guy, you will, don't worry it will be worth waiting

  • Oh no just wait please🤗

  • you need to release your pussy demons

  • That is okay ! Would love to help !!

    • Just kidding of course (about helping) The thing is, if you have sex with just any random guy it may not be the memorable first-time experience it should be Do you have a guy friend who could help you out, that would probably make it a better and more enjoyable experience for you?