I am 28 years old. is it a bad thing to stay a virgin to this age? I don't want to have sex without getting married. is that a bad thing?

[SecretGardenBlood65]

[btbc92]

God never said to kill infidels are non-believers that's where you are absolutely wrong. He isn't letting all these things happen just because he wants to. He let things happen because nobody wants God involved in their lives. The world isn't one God so what more can he do? Continue to help people that don't even want to try to help themselves? To continue to cater to people who just want to use and abuse and still sin?

Maybe that's any other God. But not the god of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob. There's nothing justifiable with sin. All the things your listing has to do with SIN. It has nothing to do with God. Can you set the rules, he design things to be a certain way, he gave us free will to choose who we're going to serve, and he's not going to force himself on anybody not even you. He has given us knowledge, allowed to have access to some technologies, it's up to us to decide what we plan to do about it. So we have to take the responsibility. Don't go around blaming God for something that he didn't even do.

[FrenchyRomain]

so he helped the jews out of egypt 2000+ years ago, splits a sea in half to help them cross but can't stop a forest fire? xD are you joking? and children with leukemia? how is a 10 year old kid SINNING? do you hear yourself? xD dayum

[btbc92]

That's how I know you're not paying attention to anything and you honestly don't care. Do you actually think God is entitled to do anything down here based on what You say? You cannot tell God what to do. Nature will take its course, and he has his own time or when he must intervene in this physical world. Yes children are sinning because we are all born in sin. That's why it is told that we must teach our children the way that they should go and they will not depart from all words when they broke up. If your parents told you not to talk to strangers that you don't really know, and you still do it, and you got a big get kidnapped, raped or killed, whose fault is that? Is it God? Is it your parents? Is it the kidnapper, the rapist or the Killer? No. Because you was told not to do it. The killer, the kidnapper, or a rapist it's going to do whatever it is that they already plotted to do. Whether you're a victim of circumstance or by disobiedence. If God told you no, the answer is no. Not yes. If it's yes, for you and something happens. Don't complain.

[FrenchyRomain]

I thought God was Love and Forgiveness... don't see a lot of love and forgiveness when i read his books ;) Shall you read the book of Job again? or Deuteronomy? maybe even some Leviticus?

[btbc92]

I hear myself wasting my breathe on somebody who acts like he doesn't even have basic intelligence. A one dimensional brain. He wants everybody to heal, and to get healed. But prayers need to go up so that you can break through and get the healing. People don't think prayers work, people don't believe in God, people don't believe in supernatural abilities, but now you're left with the physical elements of what you got. Nobody should have to be waiting for blood donation or organ just to live. People should be able to seek healing and get healed for free, meanwhile we got people who are supposed to help us to be healed and to cure diseases once you pay hundreds of dollars if not thousands just to get seen. But God's at fault? You people say you want democracy so much, and how you don't need God so much, then why talk about God? You people are funny.

[btbc92]

Oh I read all those books oh, and I can actually see why God had to do what he had to do. God is not just a god he's also a parent. Because the way how you sound you sound like a rebellious child that ain't love his parents. The children of Israel already disobey God more than enough times, he had to do what he had to do and I do not blame him that one bit. What Job went through was a trial of testing, but no matter how much he lamented about his life, he understood God's intention. So how in the world do you expect to talk to me about the things in the Bible, when your intent of reading the Bible is based out of carnal mind set. With no true desire to understand how God works and why he had to do two things the way he had to do. If you want to complain about the Bible so much, then how come you're not complaining about history books and textbooks that we are forced to read in school? The Bible account is no different than a bibliography or history book. It's not just a book to teach us how to live, but to show us the things of God and what are not the things of God. To learn from the mistakes of our ancestors so they won't make the same mistakes again.

[FrenchyRomain]

but your god is all loving, all powerful and all knowing yet doesn't move a finger for the people HE made and has helped countless times (according to your novel) yet now he's on holiday? taking some vacation? go preach somewhere else then, go convert your neighbors to your cult because your arguments fall flat here

[btbc92]

There are things in the word of God that even I don't agree with, but I understand how God works. I understand his mindset, not understand why he had to do what he had to do even if it's sacrificial for him. It is not easy making those choices.

[FrenchyRomain]

god is a PARENT? but doesn't help his children very much... i mean do i need to quote myself? "Australia burning, Concentration camps in China, Rape and Murder in India, WW II"... you know just to name a few. If he's a parent then he's just watching his children slowly kill themselves and probably enjoying it too

[FrenchyRomain]

asking Abraham for a sacrficie (HIS OWN SON) you understand that mindset? then PLEASE oh PLEASE explain that to me since i have a hard time with that notion

[btbc92]

They know that's your interest because either your way or the highway. You have no desire to have a true dialogue or conversation other people. You already got a bias opinion. You had no respect for others. And you purposely choose to misinterpret what is being said because you honestly don't care. You sound like a selfish man I wants everything his way we don't want to do any work, don't want to put any effort, what's up to start walking about and complained about what somebody don't do for you. You're a hypocrite. It's not a novel, and first of all he does move a finger for people. He done it plenty of times for my life. But you have no desire to see it. That's your problem. At least I got eyes to see. At least I have a brain to think for myself. I don't need anybody to plant ideas in my head for me. I make my own decisions just like you make your decisions.

[btbc92]

Australia burning is not his problem. Stop bringing worldly problems as if it's God's fault. And first of all Abraham doing what he had to do is a testing, every single day in our lives we are being tested. Even with you trying to challenge my way of thinking is a test. And I know for myself because I've been through it enough growing up. I am firm with my stance, I am firm with my beliefs, and I don't need somebody like you to tell me how to live my life, just like I don't have to tell you how to live your life. You decide what kind of life you want to live, and you decide what you want to believe or don't want to believe. I know for myself if I had a power I would do whatever it takes to try to help as many people as I possibly can. Because that's how much I have a love for people and not be selfish of myself. But I also know what it's like to be a doormat, have your boundaries being disrespected, to be stomped that, to be abused, to be used, to be robbed by people, to be sexually harassed, to almost being raped, to almost being killed, two people threatened to kill me, but you're going to tell me I'm too sensitive, the I don't deserve to be alive, how nobody doesn't love me, how I'm spoiled, and everything else that I know I did not deserve.

[FrenchyRomain]

i'm not misinterpreting i'm pointing out where you're saying shit and asking you to clarify (which you apparently can't) and then insult me and then avoiding the subject altogether. So good luck in life because i'll give you a little hint, God gave your mom HPV and her cancer, oddly enough you never see any good believer say that their all powerful god could do any harm. But he already did countless of times : starting with the flood in the bible (for example). People like you shouldn't be allowed to have medical privilege, just be told to PRAY to be healed and see how well that works.

[FrenchyRomain]

so we're being tested? but i thought he loved us all... so why is he testing us? Bring that relationship to a human level : you have a boyfriend who says he loves you BUT always tests you to see if you love him AND never shows you that he loves you... fucked up relationship huh?

[btbc92]

Anybody with common sense and see that's exactly what you're doing because you did it to other people on here. At that point I don't have to clarify anything because you choose to deliberately do the things you do because you think it's a joke. And somebody did that to you you be not always complaining, will be cursing up a storm because you're not receiving that same respect in return. And first of all don't be talkin about how God did whatever with my mother. Because he didn't do that. That was a person that she did with this person that she shouldn't have done and it was bad enough she was already a young girl messing around with somebody who was practically an adult. That's something that she had to live with and deal with on her own. And I don't think anybody like you have the right to judge what a person can and can't do. You obviously had some type of God complex for you to be so bitter and angry about something. Your entire life is a testing. Have nothing to do or what he chooses to do for or to us. I don't see how in the world you can live the life that you're living and you actually think in this is how it goes in life. Treating others the way you do.

[btbc92]

God's ways are not always and our ways are not God's ways. People who have to test you in relationships do so because they are serious about the relationship that they have with you, and or they already have trust issues. There's nothing wrong with another person as long as that other person is aware of why. Everybody does it, including you. But you don't do it for some entertainment or to be deliberately trying to hurt somebody because you can't trust. You cannot trust the person you don't need to be involved in that relationship. And you should not be involved with anybody until you gained immaturity and insecurity to do what you got to do. It's common sense. I don't have to text anybody to see if they care about me or not. I look at action. Because actions speak louder than words. And because actions speak louder than words that's exactly how God views us. He knows the hearts of people. Even Jesus has said many flatter him with their lips, but their hearts are far from him. I'm pretty sure you dealt with betrayal, trust, somebody being disloyal, somebody lying to you. All those things the Bible teaches us. To be careful who you call your friend, be careful who you invite in your life, and to guard your heart and mind because you don't know what may infiltrate your life to hurt you. Practically everything that you learned growing up concerning morals and principles that came from the Bible it didn't come from anywhere else. But it's what you choose to take from the Bible no different than what you take from what you're reading and dealing with people, depends entirely on you.

[btbc92]

So with all you took was murder, rape, slavery, and the negativity that the word of God speak, then that's what you chose to take for the bus. Me as a Believer don't just take an understand the negative things in the Bible, but understanding the productivity of what Jesus speaks about and what God shows me. No different if you went to college and you didn't learn from your experiences in College. You're responsible for what you choose to take and what you choose to leave. So if you think God is a big bad man who doesn't give a damn about you, that's your belief. It's not mine. I don't have your attitude, and I don't treat people who have different beliefs than me as if they are intelligent. I have atheist friends too. And even they don't sound toxic like you. In fact they would tell me to actually ignore you.

[FrenchyRomain]

oh look you're doing it again "i'm not misinterpreting i'm pointing out where you're saying shit and asking you to clarify (which you apparently can't) and then insult me and then avoiding the subject altogether" good night

[regin124]

No, having sex before marriage is quite new thing in the world. I mean we live smth like 50-60 years when western society seas this practices as normal. Still even in western side of world many people choose to abstain till marriage due religious, moral or cultural conviction.
In other hand lifespan around the world is increasing and marriage are happening in later age, and some people think it's the reason for having premarital sex. But i don't really agree. In case we marry later, this doesn't imply we need to change our behavioural and social norms and accept all drawbacks.
I really respect the people who don't slip in age dilemma when talking about how they feel and behave. You cannot justify your moral changes just because you have aged more years. Why people don't ask for example am i normal if i haven't stolen anything yet and i'm 50yo:)

[Herbie_Otch]

Not bad at all. You should never feel obligated to do anything you don't want to do. Your sex life is your own business and you should do what makes you happy.

I did not wait, but it had nothing to do with societal norms or outside pressure. For me, I was glad to know how well my wife and I for together sexually, before we got married, so that 20 years later we don't both discover that one of us wants something different from what our partner gives us. But what I've come to learn is that our communication is excellent and we explore each other's desires together, and give each other the freedom and support to decide what we each want/need sexually. So perhaps our reasons for not waiting have become less important than we thought at the time.

Either way, it's a personal decision, and you shouldn't ever feel bad about whatever feels right for you.

[SecretGardenBlood65]

Thanks for comment

[Love2Jackit]

No it's not a bad thing. The only question I got for u. Is if u don't have sex before u get married. Then u will not know if he is truly the one. Cause the reason most people tell people not 2 have before they are married is simple. Think about what I am fixing 2 tell. Which is "u can't miss what u never had. By not having sex before marriage. Then that makes it more likely that the one u marry. Will be the one u stay with. Now my next question. If that was true. Then why is the divorce rate so high in 2day world. Cause many women and men after having sex with the same person. They get 2 wondering what they have missed out on. That's when they start screwing around.

[smalls95]

Eh. Do whatever you feel is right. Your sex life is your business. My only take is allow yourself to enjoy your own sexual pleasure so you know what you like once you’re married. I can guarantee that if you’re also with a virgin, your sex life will be very difficult if you don’t figure out what you like.

[purplepoppy]

It's a bad thing. You risk seizing up if you don't use it.

[SecretGardenBlood65]

How?

[Ianto]

The general principle of "use it or lose it" applies. There is a condition "atrophaic vaginitis" which you are probably too young for, but...

[Villiers]

No. There's nothing wrong or "bad" with it. And don't let anyone talk you into believing otherwise.

People remain virgins and/or refuse to engage in sex outside of marriage for religious reasons. Same as how people refuse to engage in sex outside of sex for cultural reasons (not just religious). There's also people who put their education & getting a good job = stability for spouse, kids / family - ahead of their sexuality & that can mean remaining a virgin for longer.

[Lliam]

It's not a 'bad' thing. But I'd say that you are letting life pass you by. I never understood the desire to wait for marriage before having sex. Sex is one of the best things one can ever experience life. Depriving oneself of it is like depriving oneself of warm sunshine, swims in the ocean, kittens and puppies, walks through cathedral-like forests, or great art. What's the point? Is it based on a religious belief?

Your vagina isn't a precious flower that will no long be special if you've used it. It's yours. It doesn't belong to anyone else. You should enjoy it.

The other thing is, what makes you think that the guy you marry (if you marry) will wind up being the perfect guy? How will you even know if you are compatible if you don't have sex before marriage?

[mrfoox]

That's completely up to you. And if you feel you want to wait til then, it's completely fine. We should all be able to decide when we'd be ready to lose our virginity, and if you want to wait til marriage it's OK. I'm a virgin too and I'm still waiting for someone I love before I want to even consider it ☺

[ushagomez]

Of course it is not bad. It is your choice.

[SecretGardenBlood65]

Thanks for comment

[Mary087]

I'm 21, turning 22 this year and still have mine. Sometimes I do feel like life and time is passing by and it makes me feel sad at times but I'm waiting for the right time and with someone who truly values and loves me, not till marriage though only because I wanna know for sure that spark is there but a good amount of time! I say follow your heart and don't even let the pressure get to you. Good luck.

[Berethor]

Well it's still not too late for you to have children, so it's not a bad thing. :)

https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/MyBiologicalClockIsTicking

[ZackBan]

A bad thing? definitely not.
A good thing? Definitely not.

It's a choice and you're entitled to it.
And just like you I'm entitled to my choice and will be telling you you're missing out especially if you've turned down sex before when you really wanted to. But as I said before it's not good or bad its a decision.

[Poppymarie]

Girl if that’s your conviction then stick with it! Don’t compromise your beliefs just because of peer pressure.

[Glenn603]

It is not a bad thing at all to be 28 and still a virgin. If you want to remain a virgin until you get married is your right.
At the end of the day it`s your body, you set your rules.

[josephforsse1]

Its respectful in an d fashioned way. Not many guys would wait, unfortunately, 8105296986 is my cell, text or call anytime youd like to talk

[ghostqueen]

There's nothing wrong with it as long as it's what you want.

[motormike]

Right no problem with that

[Diiamondz825]

You are gold girl your pure. You are a rare breed. You’re doing it the right way the way everybody should have done it

[SALIM28]

No not at all. No one can decide for ur life but u. Why are u worried?🤔

[SecretGardenBlood65]

because of the girls around me

[SALIM28]

Oh I know. Society is forcing u to have sex. They think u have a problem that u don't have sex🤦‍♂️ It's like this🤦‍♂️ Fuck them. Do whatever makes u feel good. Ull regret it if u do it BECAUSE OF OTHERS

[SecretGardenBlood65]

Thanks for comment babe

[SALIM28]

Ur welcome sweetie🙂

[SecretGardenBlood65]

❤❤..

[Dargil]

No, it is not. It may be a hard road, but virtue is its own reward.

[Apope16]

I lost my virginity at 27. I HAVE HUGE REGRETS. Waiting until marriage is a bad idea. Not everyone has sexual chemistry and you need to know that before a lifelong contract. But hey... its up to you.

[Shiver]

It's not a bad thing, but it's gonna be a bit tough to find a virgin guy who's willing to wait till marriage. Good luck.

[SecretGardenBlood65]

Thanks

[dreamstar72]

No its your choice and you should be proud of yourself.

[ChloeStarlight]

Not at all

[SecretGardenBlood65]

Thanks for comment

[ChloeStarlight]

No problem