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Granted, there are some songs I have liked here and there with a contagious beat or memorable, attractive tune that clicks with the brain’s funny bone on music, like Omarion’s “Post to Be,” Red Cafe’s “Pretty Gang,” Nikki Minaj’s “Super Bass,” and 50 Cent’s and The Game's “Love It or Hate It.” Certainly guilty, but overall I am not a lover of rap and hip hop. Most of it is just brainless static, like the ones I’ve liked. I’m just a casual consumer who’s not a rap fan but fell prey to a few hits that were meant to get us going.
I am one of the drastic few blacks, especially for my age, who really doesn’t relate to our culture’s music. It doesn’t resonate with me, and it baffles my people when I tell them I’m not into it. Just like how it really makes their jaw drop when I tell them I’m not into football - in fact they almost even take offense at it. But my life and my family are different, and this has a lot to do with my taste in music.
Upbringing…
My siblings and I grew up in a ghetto community with hoods and hood-wannabes (young blacks who want so much to relate to the thug life they hear in the songs they listen to and try to be bad and thuggish but don’t really have it in them) but our mom made sure we didn’t grow up INVOLVED in it, and she has been exceedingly successful at that, to the point where we stood out and had people in our community praise her for how she raised her kids.
Along with this, she never let us listen to rap and hip hop, and I can’t say I was ever particularly bothered by that as a kid. She taught us that it’s filth with no substance and we would not be listening to it in her house. And most of it is exactly as she said. Even when I reached teenhood I myself grew more conciously disgusted of hearing it around me in our neighborhood, banging out of some idiot’s car or neighbor’s livingroom. I hated it. And I hated the way so many of my own people worshipped it like a pagan wooden idol that God was laughing at.
Rock music has always been my thing instead. U2, Stone Temple Pilots, and Led Zeppelin are some of my favorite fucking groups. And Latin music from Juanes, Belanova, Aventura, Pilar Montenegro, and Alejandro Sans. And pretty pop from white girls or half white girls like Colbie Caillat, Selena Gomez, and Sky Ferrera, that most black people would find incredibly funny to know about me. It’s what I’ve always liked and ain’t gonna stop liking it.
For this matter, our family has never even really liked a lot of the stuff that is essential black like urban lit, football, ‘chittlins,’ or very many black movies. We’ve always been pretty diverse and raised to have a much wider view and appreciation for the bigger world.
Rap and hip hop don’t really mean much…
It’s sad to me the way the black American culture holds rap and hip hop to such high value. Even that show Empire is a hit in the black community. Black America has a nostalgic, traditional view of this kind of music, dreaming back to its roots in the late 70s and 80s, feeling that “it’s ours” and how we have to hold on to it like a dying language from an indigenous tribe or race. And holding on to it is indeed what even a lot of older blacks in their 40s and 50s are doing. I’ve been to black get-togethers and birthday parties where middle-aged aunts, uncles, and grandparents are happily jamming to Jay-Z and Rihanna. We say that rhythm and dancing is in our roots, and doesn’t change no matter how old we get. But I think it can get to be kind of ridiculous.
Maybe what early rap or hip hop was back in the 70s and 80s was different, but what it is today really is just an overexplosive warehouse putting out a lot of garbage and foul trash with little or no meaning or worthwhile lyrics that I honestly cannot stand. It really is still the same old cheese from both male and female artists about “bitches and hos,” gettin’ money, getting back at somebody, gunnin’ ‘em down, pussy, alcohol, crime, the street life, proving that she fucks better than his woman does or he fucks better than her man does, yada yada. And on top of it society talks about how misogynist it all is, yet a LOT of girls and women are listening to this stuff too and liking it, and a LOT of them are not just black but white and Latina as well.
Even WatchMojo put up a pretty good video about rap’s cliches and content that my brother and I enjoyed watching and laughing about. Give this one the time when you’re done reading this.
All this music makes our youth - black and non-black - and the black community stupid. This trash poisons their brains and kills their brain cells and spirit. It makes them act like simpletons. It contributes to short-attention spans. And I’m not gonna sit here and engage in any debate with the people who want me to prove it with “peer-reviewed journals” and “statistical evidence.” We all know what we see around us, and if you don’t you’re either naive and choose not to notice it, or aren’t very perceptive and discerning. I don’t know how many times I’ve worked with or known someone who chronically listens to that excrement and they’re either constantly depressed, nasty in personality, or just simple-minded. They'll be the ones blasting that shit in their earbuds. Ripping down the street in their souped up cars and you can feel the vibration of the music when it goes by. It makes them broken and dead and simple inside.
I won’t look down on anyone who likes a rap or hip hop tune here and there, but to be a chronic fan tells me a lot about what’s going on in your head.
R&B…
I don’t even really like R&B either for that matter. Less offensive than rap and does have more substance, telling a love story or expressing romantic pain or joy, but still this doesn’t really appeal to me either. Again, I like a few songs here and there but as a black person it just is not in my daily diet. And a lot of it is depressing.
I have definitely met a LOT of black people who are just like this, lol.
The sound of it and the way the artists sing R&B nowadays is the most annoying thing about it for me. The original sound of R&B from decades ago was nicer and mellower, but now the women - and it is mostly women - sing it with extreme trebles and curly cues that are just irritating to my ears more than musically talented, and sometimes it’s so bad I can’t even understand what they’re saying. They’re doing the same thing in the gospel choirs too, with R&B artists saying they grew up in the church, and the gospel churches trying to model their praises after R&B.
And don’t get me started on the white chicks. Don't get me wrong, I like white girls, and I haven’t made that a secret here on GaG, but I really find it laughable when I meet the ones who love Beyonce and all the other female R&B artists. Some of them love black music so much that they think they can live their lives through it, as if the drama, man-slamming, and relationship experiences of the black women singing can apply to them too as white women. It’s such a joke. And it’s similar with the white girls who love rap and are black wannabes. They’re only attracted to black men who are hoods and feel like hoods are the best and strongest kind of black men, which is an even bigger joke.
Plus I really hate the way so many white female singers today are trying to sing with the black woman’s voice. And it. Sounds. Ugly. Like Allison Ivy, Megan Trainor, and Becky G. Granted, it doesn’t really bother me with Sia or Adele - and I absolutely HATE Adele - because their voices aren’t that bad and Adele has something of a natural husky voice, but the rest of them have actually trained themselves to sound black, and probably from years of listening to that music. I’ve had chicks on YouTube try to fight me about it, saying, “That’s just their style.” But WHO did they get that style from? If hip hop and R&B never existed would they still be singing that way? When I want to hear a white woman’s music, I want to hear her singing in her natural Caucasian voice. That’s what I like about Selena Gomez. She has not succumbed to the group-think method of the music industry by trying to make her voice as sultry as she possibly can.
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You become an outcast for being different…
Black people, especially the urban ones, think you must be an alien when you as a black person tell them you’re not into rap and hip hop. Sometimes they actually think it’s funny, and other times they will even take offense at it, particularly when they ask you why you don’t like it and you honestly tell them. And many times, when you're in a group with other black people and they know you don't like rap, hip hop, or R&B you pretty much get overlooked. They're not really interested in including you because you don't have the same interests they do. That's how seriously black people take our music. And what's even funnier is that we'll complain about how the white man stole our music, yet we have applauded and accepted white singers like Robin Thicke and Tina Marie only because they sing black. Such a joke.
So for me, I want nothing to do with it. I don't listen to it, and I literally avoid people who actually love all that mess. And I don't want my kids listening to it either. I am a very diverse black man and believe all other black people should be too, and I will teach that to my children as well.
Do white people have music I think is crazy or crap? Absolutely. I'm not a fan of country and I hate death metal and all that other deep, dark shit, but I'm not white, and don't have to be ashamed of their creations. But as a black man? I can say I really do feel like rap and hip hop make us as black people look foolish.
#GetRidOfThatcRap
What Girls & Guys Said
21 39Rap "music" does encourage violence I think - whenever I have to listen to it I want to stab my ears repeatedly.
This take just made me cringe so bad.
I'm not much of a rap and hip hop fan, but I'm not ignorant enough to assume it's all about "bitches and hoes".
Whenever I'm with my aunt and she has on her music, it's all rap and hip hop.
But guess what? It doesn't talk about any of that stuff at all. They're all songs about life, school, the government, and society.
Just because you hear that getting bitches stuff on the radio doesn't mean that's all there is.
No one has ever thought that I was an alien just because my favorite genre is pop.
I hate when people associate music with skin color like that.
The extremely negative generalizations in this is just too much, lol.
You seem very ignorant, close minded, and judgmental.
"Rap and hip hop make us black people look foolish". Lol.
Ah, jeez.
Something tells me you're either NOT black, or not really aware of what the situation is.
She's black.
THIS! Just seems like he's using this take to make underhanded negative comments about black people.
I am black, nice try though.
@itsallover Pretty much.
"I'm not much of a rap and hip hop fan, but I'm not ignorant enough to assume it's all about "bitches and hoes"". Why can't people think like this. I wanna save this as a quote @Izzex3. You made my day!
@kJm91 Glad I could make your day, lol.
I am very much a big fan of hip hop!
However, unlike you and I, there are too many people in urban neighborhoods (especially black Americans in these neighborhoods), that literally EMBODY these hip-hop music as a blueprint to live their lives.
I work as an educator that has a lot of inner Los Angeles migrants, and these preteens and teens idolize and want to be the images that these hip-hop artists portray...
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... and no most don't pick the "educated conscious rappers" of today like Joey Bada$$, J. Cole, Logic, etc.
Most of them choose little Uzi Vert, Future, & Migos.
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The key to solve this plague of hip-hop culture negatively affecting the black community (and the rest of the world as well), is for these youngsters to understand that the gangxta rap style of hip-hop music is SATIRE, purely entertainment.
Not an example to follow as in how to conduct yourself, and what to inspire in life.
Lmao congratulations? I'm just wondering wtf the drummer from beatles is talking about. "Computerised crap" rapping, especially in his time period, was about flow and lyrics so he's tripping. I personally prefer rap over the beatles anyday. I like rock, just not the beatles blech
White people haven't stolen black music they just have their own versions of it. Undoubtedly, newly created genres (ones that you dub "black music") like trap are the most popular with youth.
Also, who the hell applauds robin thicke? he's been shunned since blurred lines (that song about rape). Tina Marie... who?
You seem like you're desperately trying to be a special snowflake here. I love classic rock but newsflash kiddo, that shit doesn't come out anymore. Rock these days is lacking compared to pop/rap which evolves to meet the new times.
Lmao so conclusion, only thing making you look foolish is your take.
Teena Marie. You're 17 so you get a pass for not knowing her. Look her up.
i believe it was george harrison the guitarist for the beatles who sad rap was computerized crap
@reixun LOL. I already know a lot about what's in your head. It's amazing the way most of the guys gave some pretty intelligent comments to this Take even if they didn't really agree, while most of the chicks are bowing down to misogynist and empty-headed lyrics. Lol. I can't take any of you seriously.
That #SneakDiss of the OP was so unnecessary, reixun. What did he say that bothered u so much?
Tbh all i have to do roast you is quote what YOU say lmao "I am a very diverse black man and believe all other black people should be too, and I will teach that to my children as well." -how is hating everything black related being "diverse"? 😷 "So for me, I want nothing to do with it. I don't listen to it, and I literally avoid people who actually love all that mess. " -Way to be open minded 😷 "When I want to hear a white woman’s music, I want to hear her singing in her natural Caucasian voice" -WTF is a caucasian voice? Hahah "All this music makes our youth - black and non-black - and the black community stupid" -Only you can make yourself look bad, only racists generalize an entire race based on what music they like.
@Prof_Don This entire take is about he looks down on black people who like rap. Which is me. I love rap, it's the best genre and my normal response to these kinds of takes is "no one cares" but I decided to humor him.
Oic, that makes sense, it is silly to think that someone is "above" someone else over liking a genre of music!
I can definitely relate to this. I'm Mexican-American (American of Latin American ethnicity) and Heavy Metal and Rock are my main favorite music genres. I also like Rap but not exactly my most favorite genre (I listen to Heavy Metal and Rock far more often than any other genre). I hardly ever listen to Mexican music (Nortenos, Corridos, etc.) and some of my cousins and Mexican friends seem a little surprised that I'm a "White washed" Mexican, which I think is stupid.
I wish i wasn't too lazy to respond. Your reasoning isn't illogical, but kinda incomplete and definitely needs cleaning up
Lol. That's okay.
Me too.
That's totally fine. There's no rule saying you have to like a certain kinda music or anything based on your race, gender, orientation, etc.
Look as another black male you sounds especially more whitewash you don't have to like rap and r&b but saying all black people throughly enjoy them isn't correct. Plus your one comment about black women and Adele just sounded more sexist than just criticism.
In my opinion Hip Hop is Tribe called Quest, LL Coll J, Sugar Hill Gang, Slick Rick etc; Rap is Wu Tang, Ice Cube , Nas, Biggie & Tupac there are more but like jazz it tells a story with the interpretation open to the artist and the listener but i can agree lyrically the style that Future and the rest comes with i sometimes can't follow ; being eclectic i enjoy all forms of music some offer strong lyrics and others offer just the beat.
There are some songs in the rap, hip hop and r&b genre that aren't bad you know...
I've never been a Rap fan and I wasn't allowed to listen to it growing up but now there are Rap songs that I do like, especially when I'm going out. I'm a fan of R&B. I don't listen to it all the time but it's up there. I've felt out of place because I'm not a die hard fan of both and I've been made fun of for what I do like - Pop mostly and some Country.
I do agree the lifestyle reflected in most Rap music these days is horrible. I'm tired of people glamourizing killing, fighting, degrading women, etc. I hate that people think this lifestyle is cool but are struggling everyday for no reason! But no one seems to understand that. One of my friends dropped me this summer and she's become one of the most ghetto girls I see on social media. It makes me sad people celebrate this.
On shows like Power and Empire... I have some anger at those shows. I used to think they were cool but then I realized what these shows really represented and it passed me off. The morals are fucked, the storyline and characters are crazy... I hate it all.
Good take. You sound like an individual. An actual independent person. Nothing wrong with it.
Many of my family members from Italy are soccer fanatics. I don't like soccer, quite frankly I'm not a sports person at all. Have gotten shit for that all my life. In general, just because I appear to be in good shape and sometimes a competitive attitude people assume I am a sports fan, welk I suppose is because if that.
Don't get me wrong, I like hiking because it keeps my head clear, ans I go to the gym. I like traveling and all so I'm definitely active. But now I'm more of a reader, sometimes play video games, am very musical and also into all comic book based stuff, which people do not usually associate me with.
Don't let the racial thing you talk about what others expects, and what the singers are doing detract you. Fuck it, doesn't matter the stereotypes you get thrown into, if you don't fit there you don't.
In terms of music my dad usually listened to classical music and old school (dad rock) music. So my tastes of music go from Classical (including Opera), to progressive metal/rock, jazz, alternative metal, post-hardcore, hard rock/heavy metal, folk music (particularly Irish folk), soul music, avant-garde rock, thrash metal, speed metal, experimental... not common music genres.
RIP George Harrison. My Guitar Gently Weeps is one of my favorite songs ever, and he was a better songwriter than John Lennon in my opinion
Very intelligent comment :-)
Good take. R&B is more palatable to me than Rap. Rap is... annoying coming from people of all complexions. Screams uneducated and lazy. Case in point, 50 cent was a complete tool for posting footage of himself harassing a kid trying to work a job at an airport calling him a white retard or something when in fact, he actually did have a mental disability. The kid handled like a champ and just continued to ignore him, and 50 "senseless" kept running his mouth. In the hood they should say, dat n***er be ignorant.
Very well said! A person's musical taste is a window into the soul. Garbage in and garbage out. It should tell you something about a person's character if that person enjoys listening to fake music about bitches, hos and going to jail. I could have written this same article about today's dark, satanic and dumned down rock - especially death metal. The whole music industry has been weaponized. That's why most of the shit you hear today sucks musically and is demented on a spiritual level.
As a black man who also hates rap: I share your opinion.
Why;- i've also been considered as White/alien for not liking rap.
- we look like damn undeucated fools
- white people try to be like this and still call us uneducated fools
- people been stupid to defend mysgonists rap but blame and kill everyone who says something that tend to be mysgonist or has that tint.
Right ON.
i mean theses new rappers like, Young thug, little uzi vert, Designer, future etc there rap music dosent have a meaning behind it. All they rap about is dumb stuff. Like girls, money or sex. Plus, you dont even know wtf they are saying. But rappers like J. cole, Kendick Lamar, Childish Gabino and Chance the Rapper all have a meaning/story behind there songs. Then the old school rappers like Tupac, Ice Cube, Dr, Dre Etc. They all had meaning behind there music/songs.
Childish Gambino actually isn't half bad, no.
I like Young Thug. He has a reggae flow and plays well of the beat varying his cadence. But he isn't the most substantial music. We all need junk food entertainment sometimes!
My response to this horrible myTake that should have never seen the light of day
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how brave of you to come out like that
well done